Message from @Der Seeteufel - SD
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If you’re ever confused by what a girl is asking (all of us are, and frequently), play it off with a joke and then she’ll either joke along or clarify what she was more seriously seeking.
You're right about that. It's good advice. I used to just send emojis to girls when I didn't know how to respond. That or a "..."
Dang, I was thinking measurements...height, weight, uh.......height.
Interesting hypothesis. Probably correct in the broad general sense, but the reverse of course happens in individuals and situations.
Sounds basically right in my experience
Every man’s deepest desire is to have his girl look up to him and trust him
Though it’s not entirely clear what their distinction is between respect and love and I couldn’t make it far enough into the video to find out if they clarify that
@missliterallywho I watched that one thought it was really good and accurate
At what point do you give up on a friend who can't accept your political views?
I personally don't need everyone to agree with me and I'm fine having friends with different beliefs. I'm just wondering what to do when it gets to the point that your views are constantly an issue for them that leads to them getting mad at you. At what point do you just give up on trying to keep them happy?
Sounds like their problem. You have no problem with their beliefs mostly. They have a problem with you
If they get mad enough at you they’ll stop being your friend. If he won’t and he gets some sick pleasure out of being your friend and being mad at you I mean damn....how easy would it be to cut him out, meaning do you have mutual friends or has this been a friendship for a long time
He might be trying to convince you out of your beliefs. Make it clear that’s not gonna happen
I have a question for married guys: how far in advance did you tell your in laws you planned on marrying their daughter?
I actually didn’t tell the in-laws, they only found out after my wife told them I proposed
But in my situation I haven’t exactly been close to them until very recently
@TV I told them the second time I met them.
More precisely I asked the father's permission to propose the second time I met them. Then I proposed to her the third time I met them.
My hubby proposed to me,then asked my dad's permission. That was probably after a handful or so times he met my parents i guess.
What do you girls think about engagement/wedding rings? I'm personally against the whole gem system and would prefer our rings to be identical plain gold bands with a bible verse and our wedding date engraved on the inside.
@Der Seeteufel - SD Rings are quintessentially European (roots in Christianity and Pagan cultures). Only you can know your gal and whether she'll be affected by the inevitable absurd shade she will get from more materialistic women.
Some people go for sapphires or emeralds to avoid the mercantile problems of diamonds (even lefties hate diamonds)
Engagement rings perhaps even more than wedding bands have a strong reason to follow tradition and expectation of getting something everyone will know is an engagement ring, like a diamond set on a gold band, because engagements aren't recognized in any official capacity by any big institution (as opposed to marriage which indeed carries lots of special status besides the ring).
@Der Seeteufel - SD That sounds quaint, I think you have a good compromise figured out. I'm not familiar with diamond pricing schemes for jewelry, but that what, few extra hundred dollars(?) could be put to much better use, such as paying for your room during the honeymoon.
Chris makes a good point on the distinguishing factor, but then again is she in an environment to be showing off or for it to matter? In other words, if she's isolated most of the time, it's less worth it for someone who's working or engaged in a lot of community.
Tl;Dr you're doing nothing wrong really
So my girlfriend told her father today that I have a dog and apparently he isn't a dog person.
He's that much anti-dog that he would care, even if it's not in his home?
It was actually a pretty funny conversation. Apparently he is appalled that I let my dog in the house. I then asked about the time her brother kept a pet lamb in their house and she said that's different.
lol
Are they foreign?
Australian.
Ah. That explains it. Fear of the dingo
I'm going over there pretty soon. I'm not going to be bringing my dog though.
That's pretty epic, crossing the world for the right woman. Best of luck!
Thanks.
Bring the dog anyway. That’s a power move.
I usually announce my plans to marry before the hand-holding phase
holding hands before marriage is super degenerate
@Rogue "usually"? how often are you getting married?
@Rogue I literally did that with my current GF, but to be fair her father did send her and her sister to America to find husbands.