I was rarely spanked as a child,and only a fee times when smaller. Groundings worked better. I aslo used some spanking on my daughter when she was really little,but not as much the older she got,i used grounding and taking things away,like her computer or music and she knew she really messed up if it got to that. With the stepkids it was used a lil too,but more so the standing in the corner. But that also didn't last long,our involvement in raising them as their mother took and raised them far up north not long after we had the youngest. So I can honestly say more so from raising my own daughter then.

Hello all, my wife and I are expecting our first child in October. Does anyone have any suggested reading materials for expectant/1st time fathers?

Congratulations brother! I’m in the exact same boat as you. I’ve read a few, and the majority of them all do this same dumb thing; “hur dur hormonal wives and dirty diapers! Now you can’t watch football all day.” One book that I found that doesn’t do that and actually gives good advice is “idiots guide: pregnancy for dads”

Indeed, congrats mein freund!

Thank you both! and thanks for the suggestion @Grossly Incandescent

@martin Congratulations!

@martin do you know if it’s a boy or girl?

Anyone heard of “Love & Logic”? I’ve heard a lot of good things about it for a few years, but my wife and I just got the book a couple months ago.

So far it’s lived up to most of the hype, but it’s still early and I gotta finish the book. 😅

Can we get a quick rundown

@Grossly Incandescent we're gonna let it be a surprise

Exciting!

@Grossly Incandescent Sorry, were you talking to me? Yeah, I’ll try to summarize the methodology. It’s called “Love and Logic” but you could also call it “Empathy and Natural Consequences”, it’s just not as catchy. Basically, you make sure you administer all discipline with a healthy dose of empathy so you’re not the bad guy. And discipline should be natural consequences as much as possible.

https://www.loveandlogic.com

@celticflame thanks!

I’m sure everyone’s noticed this at least once, but what are your thoughts on this modern style of parenting where the kid whines and the parents just hand them a smartphone or tablet.

@Grossly Incandescent that is being grossly negligent. It will cause those kids many problems later in life

It makes me sad, these kids can’t even speak and they’re already being conditioned by too much screen time and instant gratification, all because the parents are lazy

When you reward whining, you get more whining.

Nice to see this new channel as I haven't visited this server in a while! We have been enjoying this new addition to our family!

@Volkmom congratulations on your new addition! So cute! Wish I had one that little still.

@Volkmom Congratulations! Absolutely adorable

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Any thoughts on kids playing rough sports? My nephew is interested in football, but my brother is concerned about injury

I would not let my kids play football. Loads of concussions that leave irreversible brain damage. I’m not going to make them stay inside all day, but why play head-butt games with blacks?

My high-IQ normie friends who love watching football won’t let their own kids play football. They know better.

I swam and played water polo. Both very athletic and low impact

When I was a kid my dad made me play football and I never really wanted to. But if the kid wants to do it and isn’t being forced/ pressured into it they might get really resentful if they’re not allowed to

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Lots of kids play football and turn out fine. If he's older, too, he probably won't play very long

I totally get the worry of injury. I broke my arm playing football. But a kid won’t think about that and just get upset

That being said, though, my brother broke his wrist a few summers ago at Freshman football tryouts

Maybe flag football if the option is available?

You don't really have to worry about head injuries until high school. the kids simply cant hit hard enough at that age

I think there is a lot of value in boys playing physical, team oriented sports, though if we have sons this will probably be an issue of contention with my wife and I. Depending on the school, you wont really run into a lot of pituitary case blacks, either.

I played through high school and dont regret it, even though I had at least one concussion, a broken wrist and beat up knees and shoulders. College ball is something else entirely, though. Probably not worth it.

I'm not a parent but I wanted to share pictures of my niece.

She's definitely a mover I took about a dozen pictures and these were the least blurry.

From some father son time. My 10 year old and middle son.

The fish was 4 lbs 5 ounces and 14.5 inches long.