Message from @Der Seeteufel - SD

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2018-09-03 21:38:22 UTC  

That’s not enough for me, I’d like a plan. Thus far, I’m leaning towards fertility testing before getting engaged.

2018-09-03 21:40:46 UTC  

The biggest issue of your plan is how to get that testing done without weirding her out.

2018-09-03 21:42:06 UTC  

Don't get me wrong, I'm in favor of it. I just don't know how to even go about bringing it up. It seems hard enough to do in the case where a husband and wife have tried and failed for a while.

It's asking a woman to potentially unveil the most brutal of truths.

2018-09-03 21:48:29 UTC  

You could >stumble upon information, and in a roundabout way make her think it's her own idea to find out?

2018-09-03 21:48:32 UTC  

lol

2018-09-03 21:49:37 UTC  

“Hey I found out there are great ways to test one’s fertility, here are my results; let’s see yours”?

2018-09-03 21:55:07 UTC  

@Tanner - SC I think this is the only way to make it turn out well

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/436337800405581824/486293087799345153/Screenshot_20180903-175419.png

2018-09-03 21:55:42 UTC  

man, modernity is so weird

2018-09-03 22:07:01 UTC  

Don’t ask your girlfriend to take a fertility test lol.

2018-09-04 00:18:18 UTC  

Geez most people are afraid of having kids because of the...media...

2018-09-04 00:18:36 UTC  

We are fortunate.

2018-09-04 01:03:30 UTC  

The new Murdoch Murdoch knows what I’m talking about:
<https://youtu.be/s76QB5wiOlY>

2018-09-04 01:38:52 UTC  

MURDOCH-CHAN NOOOOO

2018-09-04 03:56:12 UTC  

@Tanner - SC haha that's great

2018-09-04 05:11:03 UTC  

Ultrasounds and bloodtests from a gynecologist can give a lot of insight. Not a 100% guarantee (which doesn't exist) but it will lead to a better understanding of her ability to carry.

2018-09-04 06:45:37 UTC  

Thanks y’all, that’s a plan I can follow.

2018-09-05 14:14:21 UTC  

I know I’m late to the party @Tanner - SC but you can tell a lot about fertility by appearance. Also was she on the pill? That stuff can mess with her health in many ways. I go married to a 28 yo when I was in my mid thirties. Two kids down and looking to have number 3 before she is 32.

2018-09-20 06:54:54 UTC  

I know I'm a bit late this too so... There are 14yrs btwn my hubby & I, I got married at 21,but had my daughter at 23. I know myself & Hubby are both "Fertile Myrtles", so it goes without saying that the 2 older Stepkids are Fertile but my step daughter has a harder time delivering. My own daughter I believe will be like me,so has also done the Norplant until she's ready some years later.

2018-09-20 06:56:53 UTC  

I think asking a woman outright about her Fertility would likely freak most out. So like above as mentioned..,its always good to ask what the mom,sisters, aunts have been like as far as getting pregnant right away,etc.

2018-10-02 22:53:20 UTC  

I thought this was pretty interesting. I'm surprised SD still has this law. I hope it stays.

2018-10-02 22:55:08 UTC  

Dueling should be brought back

2018-10-02 22:55:21 UTC  

Seconded

2018-10-02 23:07:31 UTC  

I hope it grows to other states!

2018-10-03 00:33:02 UTC  

I don't think that is going to happen. Honestly this law might not even survive this case.

2018-10-18 23:50:05 UTC  

This is the best book on relationships I’ve ever read.
https://www.audible.com/pd/The-5-Love-Languages-for-Men-Audiobook/B00SI7P9QC

2018-10-19 02:17:21 UTC  

I have the generic 5 languages book. I will check out the for men version. thanks for the recommend

2018-10-19 02:51:16 UTC  

Yeah I've taken two marriage courses both mentioned 5 love languages

2018-10-21 06:41:17 UTC  

What does it mean when a girl asks "what are your stats?"

2018-10-21 06:41:23 UTC  

Asking for a friend

2018-10-21 06:46:33 UTC  

I sincerely hope that's not in reference to body count, ugh.

2018-10-21 07:46:16 UTC  

I think she wants to know your strength, dexterity, constitution, intelligence, wisdom, and charisma. Check your character sheet.

2018-10-21 14:22:34 UTC  

Height, weight, bench press, squat, hair eye color? AncestryDNA results?

2018-10-21 18:32:11 UTC  

Send her all your lift stats. Deadlift, squat, bench, pull ups. She’ll laugh and then clarify what she meant.

2018-10-21 18:34:09 UTC  

Or if you’re a car guy, send your horsepower, cylinder count, brake piston count, wheelbase, curb weight, etc.

2018-10-21 19:17:37 UTC  

She was just a random girl on the bus. I was just wondering what she meant

2018-10-21 21:54:50 UTC  

If you’re ever confused by what a girl is asking (all of us are, and frequently), play it off with a joke and then she’ll either joke along or clarify what she was more seriously seeking.

2018-10-21 23:49:44 UTC  

You're right about that. It's good advice. I used to just send emojis to girls when I didn't know how to respond. That or a "..."

2018-10-29 05:37:21 UTC  

Dang, I was thinking measurements...height, weight, uh.......height.

2018-10-30 19:04:50 UTC  

Interesting hypothesis. Probably correct in the broad general sense, but the reverse of course happens in individuals and situations.