It’s stupid to say “I will text back exactly one hour later”

Washington is not wrong in his point though

I should have clarified my position. @Zyzz is right in that striking while the iron is hot and keeping/matching the tempo in step with teeing up for a date. Yeah, I meant to say that if you get a reply, it's okay to wait a few minutes to respond and if she waits an hour or two to respond to yours, it's also okay to pace accordingly. Mix it up. Reply a minute later to one text and wait two hours for another. Keep them anticipating/curious

Yeah space responses out over a while but strike while the iron is hot

If she's responding right away, you can do the same

Also @Der Seeteufel - SD nice. I had a feeling she would respond

When you get her number you should call her

The reason why it works is because you made her qualify herself to you. Girls can't stand being compared to all other girls so when you said "almost every girl I've talked to on here says the same thing" it bothered her more than the actual generalizations you made. She also knows that the generalizations are true and wants something better.

I'm actually at work right now so I can't consistently go back and forth. If I was at home I'd message her back sooner. I'm going to lunch now so I'll send her another message.

@Der Seeteufel - SD what about the based Australian arranged marriage?

@Der Seeteufel - SD also @Zyzz gave a good breakdown of the kind of people you find on each app a few days ago.

@ThisIsChris we're still talking but she's back in Australia for now. Like I said I'm not actually looking for dates. I'm just doing it for the lols

That's a keeper.

Sooo as @Washington pointed out to me the other day.. tinder/Bumble have algorithms that sort you based in desirability (or something similar). I was searching the interwebz last night and came across a brilliant yet sinister idea. So my understanding of the algo is you can boost yourself by 1) getting a lot of right swipes and/or 2) swiping left on a lot of people. An easy way to boost yourself is to say you’re interested in both men and women. Now obv we will be left swiping on all the men but chances are those homos will be swiping right on guys like us. So it accomplishes both objectives of boosting our “desirability” through receiving right swipes and a healthy number of left swipes for us to appear more selective.

@Zyzz Not a bad idea, but the issue is there are more dudes than girls on there, so be prepared to see a lot of dudes and lots of dudes. Most important thing to do is swipe right selectively and swipe left on lower tier people on you as it places you in terms of desirability.

🤔

Any tips for improving tinder profile overall? I recently added a pic of me playing my violin and added my height to my bio, that seems to have helped some.

all pictures have implicit messaging, send the right messages

its really all about the pics man.. profile is a distant second

adding your height inparticular will help you @Attrition in the desert

Also, look fucking good

Yeah I really need to hit the gym and get abs again

@Attrition in the desert you and @John O -

Or hit the kitchen rather

pack on 30lbs of muscle and you will be different humans

Right? Haha

I forgot this was an official server. I almost went ham on my boy @Zyzz

if you need ideas on good pics, you can change your settings to see men , and go through what's good and what's not

also kinda funny to see your competition that way

@Deleted User whenever I see other guy's dating profiles, all I can think is how gay it all is

seriously, i cringe at 90% of all these dudes

sometimes you find the chads who have great image control though, the kind to learn from

https://nypost.com/2018/07/10/still-single-try-marrying-a-stranger-expert-says/

^ Better than Tinder.

tfw literal arranged marriages

Bergman?

Why is the top interest of so many women travel? A lot being international travel. Is it status signaling? When they talk so much about travel, it makes me think they would be unhappy in a stay-at-home-mother role.

@Tanner - SC It’s pitched in books/movies/music as a life/growth experience. People think it will make them a more accomplished and compassionate person.

things white girls like: puppies and traveling

literally everytime

"Tee hee I love to travel and eat pizza LOL I also looove dogs let's go on adventures I'm so quirky hahah no one else is like me teehee"