Hey yall

@Silver_The_Bard Hey

Been following MenRights for a while. Trying to get out of a BPD marriage.

I posted something on Divorce_men Subreddit.

@Abbysol https://tinyurl.com/ycl38zhc

This might belong in the support channel.

Yeah, she is coming back in 10 days.

oh crap. I don't think you have the most up-to-date info

@Abbysol https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/a2mlxh/updatemanipulated_man_planning_to_separate_with/

Unfortunately, I can't leave yet as she claims to be pregnant. I have to find out if it is true.

But, it is typical BPD behavior, so I am in a state of uncertainity.

appreciate it.

I have 10 days to get ready.

@Men Are Human I have very little assets, but lot of debts. This is another reason why I am trying to divorce eventually.

@asparkofpyrokravte you are right. It isn't. I realized that my freedom is more important than money

My mess(marriage) is relatable to a north korean gulag

sup

Glad this channel is here.

Worst part of this situation is when you lost your job because the woman and the woman refuses to work.

Anyone have any advice on how to protect myself in case she tries to accuse me of domestic violence? Like this video? http://worldstarhiphop.com/videos/video.php?v=wshh1tBBqLvqA2uy4I59

whats the pence rule?

I am thinking about a voice recorder. Is that not enough?

@asparkofpyrokravte

@asparkofpyrokravte I don't think pence rule applies here. I am in a pretty bad situation where I have no friends here and I am trying to have a conversation with my spouse when she comes back from overseas that I want to separate.

I don't want any accusations of DV if she does that.

initating separation

Im from SC so the grounds that I only have is 1 year separation

my situation is kind of unique, fucked myself signing the affadvit of support.

jesus, I am out of it.

This situation is over my head

im speaking to one

yeah, I don't need to let her know when I record.

for some reason, I feel like voice is weak source of evidence

Yeah, I am worried about when I leave the apt to get out of the situation, then she assaults herself then points the finger.

She went apeshit before

it would be awfully bad if I lose my sec clearance over this.

thats why I am asking.

@InsaneCaterpilla well, good standing and trustworthy to be trusted by the government.

its one of those military sec clearance

Speaking of apeshit, she says she is pregnant, I don't trust her if she is telling the truth or just a ruse. So I am waiting until she comes back to find out.

no idea. Last time was middle oct, and we used a rubber

I feel like she is full of shit, but the confidence she has now is off putting

Yeah.

sep/div eventually

ok.

Well, I got no choice. She is batshit crazy and I cant progress in my career because of her

well, if she is telling the truth,

if she is telling the truth, I still go on the separation/divorce process

if she is lying, I still go on the same process.

Does NCFM have a phone line or something?

Im gonna consult with lawyers in the meantime, she is coming on Friday. I have a bug out bag to go. I'll get a recorder tomorrow. I just wish my employer didn't let me go tho. It would have made this process much easier.

Yeah, I gotta wait until next year mid Jan, when hiring picks up.

MRM?

Any of them on or to call?

yeah.

After this shitshow, I need to be more red pill awared

She had a leash on me the entire time; I couldn't figure out how to get out until she went back home temporarily

I was a Beta

transitioning to alpha atm since I lost everything.

ok. I think I used the wrong words.

I was blue pill before.

@InsaneCaterpilla Nah, I appreciate it. I need to be focused right now.

But, its true. The situation is overly complicated. A lot of context is left out.

I posted this a while back. https://tinyurl.com/ycl38zhc

@InsaneCaterpilla I appreciate it. I lost a lot of opportunity because of this relationship

a lot of money too

Yeah, I need to consult with a lawyer on this one bigly.

@InsaneCaterpilla it might come at some point. I am a firm believer that my spouse should work. It has not come yet.

I know what you meant. No problem.

the last lawyer I met a while back divorced as well.

All he said was to throw money at her and leave.

wasn't great advice.

I dont think alimony comes into play here

we have been married for 1 year

wasnt long at all

We are in our mid 20s

10 years

in sC

its usually half the duration of a marriage

so in my case 6 months

or 1 year including the separation

@asparkofpyrokravte Appreciate the resource, I'll be sure to give them a call tomorrow. The only thing I am worried about is the maybe pregnancy, finances, and DV. Maybe revenge to my career.

I think I would be ok with 1 year. Im planning on deploying overseas after the divorce is finalized.

@InsaneCaterpilla better than where I am now.

@asparkofpyrokravte I will need the clearance to deploy

not paying for living expenses helps if alimony comes

Well, I am just preparing for the worst. I don't have any charges against me. I would like to keep it that way

You can lose your clearance if you have DV charges

@InsaneCaterpilla Your right.

@asparkofpyrokravte My clearance is up there, but DV charges affect my clearance, which in turn affects my ability to deploy

Like I said, I am trying to prepare for the worse at this point.

@asparkofpyrokravte thats correct.

Yeah, Clearance jobs pay handsomely

Anyway, I will use your resource tomorrow. @asparkofpyrokravte @InsaneCaterpilla Thanks for your time. I will follow up later today. Gotta be up in 4 hours.

Sounds like my spouse

@Men Are Human Maybe, probably after this mistake falls over

I escaped, brothers.