Message from @RandyLahey

Discord ID: 521554761833775104


2018-12-08 18:51:13 UTC  

I'm currently at work, so I can only contribute little by little at the moment, but I'll be able to interact more later on

2018-12-08 19:13:24 UTC  

Thanks for doing this. Divorce is a key issue right now. Possibly the most widespread too.

2018-12-08 19:48:01 UTC  

It feels like the movement towards equality will gain footing on this issue, but all the groups are so disconnected, like cells

2018-12-08 19:53:08 UTC  

That's very true. And a lot of us are fighting at odds. This is really what the men are human site was meant to fix originally. I'm planning on expanding it into an entire community. Not only that, I'm working with the mods of the sub to make it (eventually) into a full backup of the sub itself that can act as a refuge of Reddit shuts us down

2018-12-08 19:53:23 UTC  

Early days though

2018-12-08 20:10:37 UTC  

I'm working on gathering information (experiences, data, cases, thoughts) and meeting with people who want to make a positive influence as well. Between publications, podcasts, online document resources... a hub could prove quite useful

2018-12-08 20:45:42 UTC  

I'm willing to install a forum with good spam protection, but the one I have in mind is outside my budget.

2018-12-08 20:46:29 UTC  

If we could do a funding drive on here, it would really help

2018-12-08 20:46:43 UTC  

$125 isn't that much if we all chip in.

2018-12-08 20:47:04 UTC  

Other than that, I was going to install Voats, but I can't work out how

2018-12-08 20:47:11 UTC  

It's a pain in the ass.

2018-12-08 20:48:15 UTC  

Let me see how much I have after Christmas. I'm willing to chip

2018-12-08 20:48:30 UTC  

If you make it a Facebook thing, I can share and promote that, too

2018-12-09 08:58:44 UTC  

A facebook thing?

2018-12-09 15:31:57 UTC  

Facebook allows people to show support for a cause and ask others to raise funds

2018-12-09 16:23:08 UTC  

Eeeh, I'm no good with facebook, lol

2018-12-09 16:42:20 UTC  

I don't see that avenume having much success for revenue, but it's an option

2018-12-10 05:05:22 UTC  

Glad this channel is here.

2018-12-10 05:07:51 UTC  

Worst part of this situation is when you lost your job because the woman and the woman refuses to work.

2018-12-10 05:12:25 UTC  

Anyone have any advice on how to protect myself in case she tries to accuse me of domestic violence? Like this video? http://worldstarhiphop.com/videos/video.php?v=wshh1tBBqLvqA2uy4I59

2018-12-10 06:36:28 UTC  

GYOW, mostly.

2018-12-10 06:37:06 UTC  

Pence rule ought to help, but nothing is perfect.

2018-12-10 06:37:29 UTC  

Well, a body-cam would be pretty close but who's going to do that.

2018-12-10 06:37:38 UTC  

..

2018-12-10 06:37:42 UTC  

Pence rule is good enough mostly

2018-12-10 06:38:19 UTC  

Don't be alone together

2018-12-10 06:38:28 UTC  

I actually bought a cheap 'spy pen' thing to record while I'm in public if I put it in my pocket. Bloody thing doesn't work though

2018-12-10 06:42:12 UTC  

whats the pence rule?

2018-12-10 06:42:36 UTC  

I am thinking about a voice recorder. Is that not enough?

2018-12-10 06:43:55 UTC  
2018-12-10 06:46:31 UTC  

Pence rule is just don't be alone with a woman except for one's wife, although in this case that would apply to your wife too.

2018-12-10 06:47:01 UTC  

So you bring a witness to even a conversatino

2018-12-10 06:47:26 UTC  

so people grab friends for private conversations

2018-12-10 06:47:40 UTC  

and don't shut their office door

2018-12-10 06:48:10 UTC  

The same sort of principle is why many offices are built to be partially see-through today

2018-12-10 06:48:28 UTC  

@Men Are Human why xenforo, isn't mybb better and free

2018-12-10 06:49:50 UTC  

@asparkofpyrokravte I don't think pence rule applies here. I am in a pretty bad situation where I have no friends here and I am trying to have a conversation with my spouse when she comes back from overseas that I want to separate.

2018-12-10 06:50:17 UTC  

I don't want any accusations of DV if she does that.

2018-12-10 06:50:50 UTC  

If you are initiating divorce you are in a pretty unique situation. A voice recorder is a good idea, but ideally you'd have the conversation somewhere that isn't completely private.

2018-12-10 06:51:04 UTC  

Also check on the recording laws of your country, and make sure the thing works