Let's be real mate, although false accusations do happen, you don't know your partner is gonna be the one to make them. Take the precautions you can absolutely, but dont stress too much about something that will probably never happen

Right

And that's something that I was thinking of asking

Do you have a real reason to suspect your partner is going to go apeshit over this?

She went apeshit before

That is what I thought

it would be awfully bad if I lose my sec clearance over this.

Oh

shit

thats why I am asking.

Are you in a field that requires an enhanced disclosure? Yea, you can't even have a driving arrest within x number of time to stay employed...

Well fuck, that changes things. Getting accused normally isn't a huge problem if you can convince the prosecutor it is a waste of time, which a mic should be rather sufficient at

If you have to avoid even arrest

well

@InsaneCaterpilla well, good standing and trustworthy to be trusted by the government.

It's probably much the same. I know how it works in the UK because I'm starting a security job next year, but idk the US

its one of those military sec clearance

Speaking of apeshit, she says she is pregnant, I don't trust her if she is telling the truth or just a ruse. So I am waiting until she comes back to find out.

I don't know anything about security clearances in any country. But if you judge that you really, really need to avoid accusation, as opposed to having a good divorce outcome, that changes your priorities a bit. And...oh hell

Oof, that would suck if she is... Is it likely?

no idea. Last time was middle oct, and we used a rubber

I feel like she is full of shit, but the confidence she has now is off putting

Have you been giving signs that you wanna break up? That's when most women would say such a thing to try and keep together, I believe

Yeah.

sep/div eventually

Well let's hope its a lie mate. If its not what do you plan to do?

I'm beginning to feel this is complicated enough, and also early enough that calling up an authority on the subject from the MRM might be useful. Does the NCFM handle advice on this sort of thing? Because of the child and the ambiguous nature of it state-specific stuff might come into play.

(National coalition for men) just fyi

ok.

Well, I got no choice. She is batshit crazy and I cant progress in my career because of her

You can't right now or if she makes an accusation?

Kavanaugh was still appointed right?

well, if she is telling the truth,

if she is telling the truth, I still go on the separation/divorce process

if she is lying, I still go on the same process.

Does NCFM have a phone line or something?

There are at least some emails https://ncfm.org/lead-with-us/chapters/

But NCFM seems slightly more related to discrimination stuff

Rather than specifically divorce and fathers stuff

So I'm trying to find a better source

But I know Crouch and co did do stuff with this once upon a time