Message from @RandyLahey

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2018-12-10 07:46:46 UTC  

SC, sorry

2018-12-10 07:47:05 UTC  

A brief look at an SC lawyers website says alimony will be less of a thing for shorter marriage, it does not say anything about alimony having a cutoff

2018-12-10 07:47:29 UTC  

its usually half the duration of a marriage

2018-12-10 07:47:34 UTC  

so in my case 6 months

2018-12-10 07:47:53 UTC  

or 1 year including the separation

2018-12-10 07:47:54 UTC  

If you haven't decided on a lawyer yet, that'd be another good reason to reach out to the NCFM, if you don't have a recommendation for some lawyer, they'd likely have some.

2018-12-10 07:48:10 UTC  

Oh, nice, that sounds rather merciful

2018-12-10 07:50:16 UTC  

I wouldn't call it merciful... Not as bad as some perhaps, but any alimony is pretty horrible imo

2018-12-10 07:50:22 UTC  

@asparkofpyrokravte Appreciate the resource, I'll be sure to give them a call tomorrow. The only thing I am worried about is the maybe pregnancy, finances, and DV. Maybe revenge to my career.

2018-12-10 07:51:02 UTC  

I think I would be ok with 1 year. Im planning on deploying overseas after the divorce is finalized.

2018-12-10 07:51:35 UTC  

Eh, I don't think there are many good justifications for alimony (I do think there are some), but since there are a lot of 1-5 year marriages, having the rule being half limits liability one heck of a lot compared to what it could be

2018-12-10 07:51:42 UTC  

I hope you stay safe, can be dangerous deploying to say, the middle east

2018-12-10 07:52:02 UTC  

@InsaneCaterpilla better than where I am now.

2018-12-10 07:52:10 UTC  

I kinda assumed he wasn't deploying if he needed the clearance

2018-12-10 07:52:33 UTC  

that was perhaps a mistake

2018-12-10 07:52:51 UTC  

All kinds of positions overseas. Could be military police even

2018-12-10 07:53:07 UTC  

@asparkofpyrokravte I will need the clearance to deploy

2018-12-10 07:53:44 UTC  

not paying for living expenses helps if alimony comes

2018-12-10 07:53:52 UTC  

Ah, but that implies that they aren't going to care as much about DV allegations wrt your clearance.

2018-12-10 07:54:22 UTC  

I could be completely ignorant here

2018-12-10 07:54:30 UTC  

Well, I am just preparing for the worst. I don't have any charges against me. I would like to keep it that way

2018-12-10 07:54:30 UTC  

Wouldnt matter yet cause he hasn't been deployed, no?

2018-12-10 07:55:40 UTC  

You can lose your clearance if you have DV charges

2018-12-10 07:56:02 UTC  

Well, there's different sorts of clearance, and the ones that are more jumpy aren't the sort that would put you overseas as much?

2018-12-10 07:56:15 UTC  

I think what @asparkofpyrokravte is implying is that you couldn't do such a thing cause you're overseas

2018-12-10 07:56:23 UTC  

But you aren't deployed yet

2018-12-10 07:56:38 UTC  

@InsaneCaterpilla Your right.

2018-12-10 07:56:38 UTC  

nah, I mean that for a regular deployment a DV allegation wouldn't be a significant risk factor

2018-12-10 07:57:02 UTC  

It would, you can't have a record of things

2018-12-10 07:57:37 UTC  

@asparkofpyrokravte My clearance is up there, but DV charges affect my clearance, which in turn affects my ability to deploy

2018-12-10 07:57:50 UTC  

Oh, dang

2018-12-10 07:58:22 UTC  

Seems a little bit like getting scrached in one place leaves claw-marks in another, but eh

2018-12-10 07:58:23 UTC  

Like I said, I am trying to prepare for the worse at this point.

2018-12-10 07:58:41 UTC  

@asparkofpyrokravte thats correct.

2018-12-10 07:58:45 UTC  

Heck, for my job next year, I can't even have been arrested for something within two years. Doesn't matter what it is or if I actually was convicted

2018-12-10 07:59:14 UTC  

Yeah, Clearance jobs pay handsomely

2018-12-10 08:00:22 UTC  

Anyway, I will use your resource tomorrow. @asparkofpyrokravte @InsaneCaterpilla Thanks for your time. I will follow up later today. Gotta be up in 4 hours.

2018-12-10 08:00:29 UTC  

Goodnight

2018-12-10 08:00:54 UTC  

Oof, I doubt I was as much help as @asparkofpyrokravte, but rest well and good luck with everything :3

2018-12-10 21:42:12 UTC  

In GA I'm hearing a 2-5 year unless until remarried or dead

2018-12-10 21:44:30 UTC  

Alimony guidelines are so bad. I am presentin to the court that even though I made more, she caused more damage with her reckless spending. She kept us in debt and check-to-check when we should have been banking $200+ a month