Message from @RandyLahey
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@InsaneCaterpilla I appreciate it. I lost a lot of opportunity because of this relationship
a lot of money too
Okeydoke, so my advice in the absence of me or Caterpilla having anyone to contact is to contact the NCFM, just to say "hi, I'm planning to separate from a bad relationship, I'm in South Carolina, she's vindicative, there's a possible pregnancy, and I really want to keep my security clearance. I'm not sure if you are the right people to contact, but who should I be talking to in order to get basic advice of what to do about these things, other than a lawyer?". Using the resources from https://ncfm.org/lead-with-us/chapters/. It seems the contact points would be 888-223-1280 or [email protected].
but you mostly have good advice already
It may be considered evil to a lot of people, but I'm a firm believer in a universal living wage, that simply living your life shouldn't mean you have to work, not on a base level
from the reddit thread and stuff
Yeah, I need to consult with a lawyer on this one bigly.
You should definitely, and its good to try and find one who specialises in these kind of issues, divorce lawyers for men have a lot of experience in what to expect
@InsaneCaterpilla it might come at some point. I am a firm believer that my spouse should work. It has not come yet.
In today's world she should. What I meant was to speak of a future world where we rely on automation to solve our problems
I know what you meant. No problem.
the last lawyer I met a while back divorced as well.
All he said was to throw money at her and leave.
wasn't great advice.
Definitely not good advice at all, your ex can still indenture you to pay through alimony (and possibly child support if she really is pregnant)
That's the thing, finding a trustworthy lawyer to find for this sort of thing is something I'd be super worried about.
I dont think alimony comes into play here
Are you married?
It sure does
we have been married for 1 year
We are in our mid 20s
Idk what the laws for marriage duration for alimony are in NC
10 years
in sC
SC, sorry
A brief look at an SC lawyers website says alimony will be less of a thing for shorter marriage, it does not say anything about alimony having a cutoff
its usually half the duration of a marriage
so in my case 6 months
or 1 year including the separation
If you haven't decided on a lawyer yet, that'd be another good reason to reach out to the NCFM, if you don't have a recommendation for some lawyer, they'd likely have some.
Oh, nice, that sounds rather merciful
I wouldn't call it merciful... Not as bad as some perhaps, but any alimony is pretty horrible imo
@asparkofpyrokravte Appreciate the resource, I'll be sure to give them a call tomorrow. The only thing I am worried about is the maybe pregnancy, finances, and DV. Maybe revenge to my career.
I think I would be ok with 1 year. Im planning on deploying overseas after the divorce is finalized.
Eh, I don't think there are many good justifications for alimony (I do think there are some), but since there are a lot of 1-5 year marriages, having the rule being half limits liability one heck of a lot compared to what it could be
I hope you stay safe, can be dangerous deploying to say, the middle east
@InsaneCaterpilla better than where I am now.
I kinda assumed he wasn't deploying if he needed the clearance
that was perhaps a mistake
All kinds of positions overseas. Could be military police even