Holy crap! @Grossly IncandescentHell no!!!

Yeah, her and Grandma thinks it’s because they want to give out as little formula as possible through the program

Any nutrition stuff i could do while pregnant was big,my bad was i still smoked at the time but did eventually quite. But i never once drank!!

I remember being nervous & worried about the food,etc i took in while pregnant and whatbi fed her after. I only wish someone had taught me how important breast feeding was,i had nobody to rely on,both mothers were alraedy passed away.

Yes my mother smoked with me & i think drank too,but i never got the chance to ask her for any parenting advice because she passed 6 months after we were married.

And my mother n law passed 3 months prior to daughter being born and she was old school,didnt talk about stuff to me..

That's sadly true,i feel guilty bad because asthma runs in the family on both sides,my brother had it,husband,stepson & daughter have it..

@missliterallywho I remember seeing some news cast from the 70s or 80s with a tobacco exec talkin about smoking causing low birthweight and saying “what mother wouldn’t want a smaller baby?!”

That sounds familiar!

My wife and I both think our baby girl is gonna be a big one

Natural is the plan

Thats rare,my daughter was 6lbs even & I did,both my stepkids were huge though,1 was 10.2,the other 9.7.

Dang

Try to keep it natural if you can I tried.

I saw a woman do a water birth and said it felt great, blew my mind!

Daughter was natural,both stepkids had to be cessarian after hours of trying natural. Same with my stepdaughter too,she had to go cessarian.

Unfortunately i had to have the meds,i had excruciating back labor

That was also prior leading up to years later having spinal surgeries too,so made it worse.

Honestly i don't remember @missliterallywho

She is 21 now,so hopefully down the road i will have more grandkids from her,help carry the line.

Yes it is @missliterallywho

Well thats good,bet your starting to get really antsy! Lol

Are you nesting,cleaning like crazy? Lol

Lol ya crunch time indeed!

Ya,your crafting stuff will take a back seat for a couple years.

You better have it ready! Lol😉

I miss that Cali weather. Florida’s been like mid 90s with hellacious humidity lately!

Oh wow,no car seat yet? That was 1st priority i always made sure to get grandkids & daughter. Not easy with bowling ball in 85 heat lol😂

That humidity would kill me,does sometimes in the valley,i hear how bad it is there in Florida,yuck,! Hang in there!

Gonna finish eating dinner,good talk. If you need some other advice later,dm me. You can do this,i have faith in you!!!😁😀❤

Your welcome hon,anytime! @missliterallywho You too! @Grossly Incandescent

Thanks @celticflame !

😊❤

@missliterallywho my first two are July and August babies. My wife did everything she could to avoid that again and our third was born in February. I feel for ya in the heat.

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/launch-kinder-tales-european-culture-for-kids-books#/

Just saw this on twitter!

Anyone read any of the Tuttle Twins books... I have a few and want a parents perspective on them.

https://tuttletwins.com/shop/

I like them for explaining in simple terms complex economic topics...but have any of you had experience with educational material like this?

I haven’t heard of those but definetly looks interesting. The most recent book we have read as a family with my two oldest kids is a book by a retired navy seal named jock I willink. The title of the book is way of the warrior kid. It is an excellent book.

Marc had a terrible year in fifth grade: he can’t swim or do pull-ups, doesn’t know his multiplication tables, and is being terrorized by school bully Kenny. But Marc’s uncle Jake, a Navy SEAL, will be spending the summer with Marc and his mother, and once he arrives, he begins training Marc to be a “Warrior Kid.” The training is both physical and mental, and chapters are dedicated to principles such as living by a code, early morning workouts, and discipline (“Discipline equals freedom” screams one page in giant capital letters). Marc embraces his uncle’s guidance, gets stronger, and starts sixth grade confident and able, even standing up to and reaching out to Kenny in a too-neat conclusion. Willink, a leadership instructor and retired SEAL, places worthwhile emphasis on physical activity, mental sharpness, and hard work. But Marc’s dismissal of his mother’s ability to help him because, “a lot of the time it seems she just doesn’t understand me” (in part because “she works a ton”) is a disappointing stereotype, and Bozak’s b&w line drawings don’t add much to the boy’s journey. More treatise than fully developed story. Ages 8–12. (May)

Interdasting

This might be a really dumb idea, but I was thinking the other day about the state of children's media. It's all very promoting of negative traits and multicultural society.

Would making kids books be a nice idea? We could use old stories of European heroics like Siegfried and the dragon. Some simple art and I bet it would be desirable.

Amazon has a kids book designer app. Draw pictures, scan them. drop in text, and it it’s good to be published.

@micbwilli I think it would be great. I mostly re use books from my childhood for my kids. But something new and fresh would be great.

We badly need something like that. It would be an excellent business opportunity for someone whos a good writer

This is adorable:
https://i.imgur.com/nliSspX.gifv

Tbf, that was an extremely ugly wall decoration

It's an "R"

Children's books are a great idea, I have also thought about this for quite some time. Currently at least one wonderful gal is undertaking a project in the folklore genre . She has a fundraiser, it was posted above by Grossly Incandescent. https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/launch-kinder-tales-european-culture-for-kids-books#/

Carolyn Emerick's project, I believe...

I homeschool, so I have had a lot of experience so far with sifting thru poz and finding good books.

especially this year as we are starting History. I am going to reference March of the Titans by Arthur Kemp ( history of the White race) alongside the more mainstream 'Story of the World'

for our childrens' history lessons

Ostara publications also has some great non-PC history books

https://ostarapublications.com/

I used to be concerned kids wouldn't develop social skills but people have been telling me that's pretty false since there is so much free time to take them anywhere. I hope I can homeschool my kids.

oh yeah it is a commie myth that homeschooling makes kids socially awkward

@Freiheit - CA I hope so too

It is not easy, and yes it tries my patience at times, but I wouldn't trade it for anything else atm

It is pretty amazing to teach and learn with your kids. It is mind blowing how much potential is in a homeschool education vs. public school, which as we know- teaches to the lowest common denominator

in many areas homeschool kids *can* take some classes at their local public school as well, if one shoudl choose to do that for their child

Yeah, I don't want to put my kids through the hand holding for the dumb kid.

normie FB has tons of resources and homeschool groups for networking

yes, I mean, when I look back at my elementary education of ancient Egypt, for instance- it's just mummies and King Tut and some pyramids... LOL ... SO much important and fascinating history and science, etc, just gets skimmed over . It is disappointing. Homeschooling is such an adventure and you have the freedom to make education fun, meaningful, and thorough...

I'm definitely having my kids Read/watch The Lord of the Rings Trilogy

HAHAHA

i regret not reading the books with our oldest before letting him see a couple of the movies... 😦

You can't really argue with how nationalist it is

very implicit

It's Peak Identity Politics

When I think about it, watching those movies when I was younger may have shaped my views

Movies are alright, I prefer to imagine how they talk and interact.

In most cases I'd agree. but seeing as how I lost my copy of the fellowship on a plane when I was 10 or so, reading never worked out lmao

and the movies are masterfully made, so I'm ok with them

What's the earliest age you can start lettting your son watch UFC? 😃

day 1

Feckin A

Watch it from day one and start training when he can walk save weights until he is at least 13 though.

I no longer recommend Jien Liedloff's book, "Continuum Concept" @@missliterallywho I read it about 10 years ago. I think its bs tbh. I totally agree with living by the rhythms of nature but that book is very questionable imo

Birth control pills are definitely awful. Using natural fertility awareness is ideal. It has always worked for us. Intentionally conceived 3x with no accidents and our children are spaced by 3.5 years+

So plenty of time for extended breastfeeding and allowing me time to recover and revitalize before conceiving again. I love that you're on this track!

What I dislike about Continuum Concept is that i feel like it is in some ways anti-White, and also her observations of childbearing within the primitive South American tribes are put on a pedestal, disregarding European tradition, and I feel like for us we need to find a balance when seeking nature/rhythmic lifestyles, bc we generally lack resources for our own historical info- many aspiring Whites tend to internalize what literature and research that does exist- being that of "indigenous" tribes of the globe. While some of it can be of use, I find that deep down, much of it doesn't resonate as it once did, simply bc it it doesn't represent our folk ways.

If you do decide to read the book I will look forward to seeing what you think of it 😀

Tbh it's been a long time since I read that book, but I think some of her accounts are extreme and unrealistic. Such as relaxing and trusting your crawling baby near a cliff edge. Lol. There is some questionable stuff in there about interacting with babies and if I remember correctly-sexuality stuff that was a major red flag. Regarding the continuum concept, i do think there is a balance to be struck. Hovering parents can be detrimental. We have always tried to allow as much physical freedom as safely possible with our developing children such as tree climbing, exploring water, etc. and it has benefited them in their agility and confidence and mental faculties. But I don't think her book contributed to our patenting style whatsoever, it was more of just observing our children, intuiting and bri g present to immediately step in and help and guide and teach when needed. It is bizarre sometimes to see some parents at the park, for instance. It's like, here they are at the playground and they are instructing the child's every last move. Let's do the slide now, let's swing now, climb on that, do this, no that's too big for you, that's scary, etc. The child is not getting to experience anything for themselves.

i agree! well said!

i look forward to your fresh take on the book after you read it.

since its been awhile for me 😃

https://v.redd.it/d970mn2ctui11

Hi all. Didn’t realize this thread existed until today. Just had number #2 4 weeks ago and #1., 2yo this November, has been really missing 1 on 1 time with mom and now wakes whenever mom feeds and freaks out. We do sleep. Anyone else cosleep? Similar experience? Help? I’m so tired.

Hey @Prestor John , I’ve got a 2 year old and a 4 month old myself. I can’t speak for everyone but I’ve never been a fan of co-sleeping. Of course you’ve “gotta do what you gotta do” but I’ve seen it backfire. I’m friends with two couple that both have 3+ year old children sleeping in their bed at night.

My 2 year old didn’t seem too phased when we brought his baby sister home...at first. But now that she’s more active during the day, he’s started with the jealousy. Every family dynamic is different, and every kid is different, but one thing that worked well for us was to make sure our son was getting plenty of physical activity, he is much more likely to fight naps, or just generally act out when he hasn’t had much exercise.

As far as bedtime/sleeping goes...my wife and I just had a discussion about it to make sure we were on the same page, bedtime is pretty much non-negotiable here. When we moved our son from in a pack n play in our bedroom to a crib in his own room, naturally we had to deal with the “growing pains.” But we set up a sort of timer system. The first night, we let him cry for 2 minutes before one of us would go in. We would not pick him up, but rather just lay him back down and comfort him briefly before walking out. The next night we started at 3 minutes, next night 4...etc. I think it only took 3-4 days before he was falling asleep on his own with no drama. Recently we started dealing with a bit of a sleep regression, where he started fighting his naps, getting out of his toddler bed and coming out at night. Basically I think he’s realized that life goes on outside of his room while he’s napping, and he doesn’t want to “miss out” He can reach doorknobs now and come and go as he pleases, so it actually got to the point where we had to lock his door at nap-time, or else he would come out of his room, or start slamming his door and waking the baby. Once we locked it, the first couple of days he would lay on his floor kicking the door and having a tantrum, if he didn’t calm down after a few mins, I’d go in and just put him back in bed without saying anything, and walk out. He fell asleep on the floor in front of his door a few times but eventually he gave up and started staying in bed.

I’m sure there are a million different methods and expert opinions for parenting little kids, some better than others no doubt. I’m sorry this got way longer than I meant it too.

Tl;dr whatever you do, be consistent. Kids, especially toddlers thrive on consistency and boundaries. They’re getting to that age where they’re starting to test you, and assert some independence. They may not quite grasp “why” the need to

They* need to nap, sleep, etc. But they do understand cause/effect. If you stay consistent, they’ll pick up on that.

I’m no expert by any means, my wife and I are figuring this out as we go along too. It’s by far the most challenging experience of my life. Feel free to message me anytime, it’s great to be able to bounce ideas off of people here, I’m sure there are way more experienced parents here with tons of valuable knowledge

We are pro co-sleeping @Prestor John its quite trad. great for breastfeeding and bonding. at around 2 yo or so the transition to toddler bed is definitely difficult, but better imo thanl etting an infant "cry it out". i agree with Px4 about plenty of physical activity to help with kids' behavior. Also strictly limiting sugar can have huge effects. a little one on one goes a long way. perhaps just mom snuggling and reading books to your toddler while she nurses the nb could be helpful. implementing one small daily thing with the older child that is special just for them can be good too, such as giving them a constructive way to "help" cook dinner

@Volkmom @Px4 thanks! My wife was a nanny and sleep trained multiple kids but totally lost her nerve when it came to ours. She backed up her gut feeling with some research and we didn’t do it. Our soon to be 2yo was sleeping in his own bed earlier this year but with her being pregnant at the time and a heatwave making hi upstairs room a no go zone he came down into our bed. After our daughter was born we realized that we couldn’t switch back right away and wife and I Knie of like it when we all actually sleep.

My big take aways are consistency which we need to get back to and sugar, which he recently has had introduced to his diet. I did just build a high stool with a rail so he can stand next to mom in the kitchen.

@Prestor John see what I mean about every family being different! We opted for the cry it out method (sort of) and our two year old is great about sleeping. Not that I have anything against co-sleeping of course, just wasn’t for us. @Volkmom is spot on about the one on one time, a little extra reassurance and attention can go a long way. And I agree with you both about limiting sugar, with one exception, we only limit added or refined sugars. Naturally occurring sugars, especially in foods with a high fiber content, like fructose in fresh fruit, or lactose in milk/yogurt..we don’t really limit them per se. But we do strictly limit sugary snacks and junk food. We don’t give him juice, they don’t need it and he doesn’t like it anyway. Cookies/candy are saved for very special treats. I really like that stool! I may have to make one for when he “helps” me work in the garage