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Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:41:38

we were texting a lot

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:41:40

and she seemed into me

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:41:49

she asked me to sit with her during a church service

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:42:04

and though i had to get up and help with the service, i asked her on a date afterward and she said yes

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:42:10

and before then she had been asking about me

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:42:18

her mom came up to ask me my name because her daughter had been asking about me

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:42:36

and she initiated texting me several times

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:42:42

but idk man

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 01:42:42

wow that's serious

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 01:43:03

i would just text her how she's doing every once in a while

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:43:25

I would say get right to the point of asking her to hang out again. If she ditches the second date-she's out.

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:43:34

No messing around, no beating around the bush

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:43:44

i was planning on just talking to her next time we see each other at church

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:43:56

and then asking her on a date once the semester was over and she wouldn't have a good excuse

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:44:14

Thing is if girls want to hang out with you they will make it happen

Alamo 2018-04-19 01:44:58

True, I'm kind of skeptical because she didn't offer an exact alternative time when she postponed at first

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:45:41

she said we can still talk at church and plan something once the semester is over

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:45:53

so i was planning on talking to her at church and asking her for another date once the semester ends

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:46:02

and if that doesn't work out then i'll move on

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:46:30

Oh come on thats ridiculous. Does she think you are some chump who will wait around for a month? She's wrong. You are the prize

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:46:48

She can't find one afternoon/evening? She definitely can

johnnyc 2018-04-19 01:47:02

^^

Alamo 2018-04-19 01:47:08

^^^

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:47:30

she also lives a half hour drive away from me

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:47:30

Is she shy? Nervous about a date?

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:47:39

and is 18, and doesn't have her own car

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:47:55

Ok so she is young and definitely immature when it comes to dating

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:48:38

yes

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:48:42

she is young

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:48:47

but we talked about guns

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:48:55

and how great the liberal salt after trump's election was

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:48:58

and she's gorgeous

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:49:20

How old are yu?

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:49:25

22

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:49:28

23 in july

Alamo 2018-04-19 01:49:41

Same lol

Wandering_Warrior 2018-04-19 01:50:02

Finals are coming up arent they? I would give her the space, keep texting and doing the church stuff. And once the semester ends, hit her with a, "so where are you taking me on our date now that schools out". joking/playfuly of course. Put the ball in her court.

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:50:31

i was planning on once the semester ends just going up to her at church or texting her and saying "so how about that coffee?"

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:50:34

Ok. She could be a little intimidated by an older guy. Probably not used to getting attention from a guy your age. If she is really into you, I bet you could convince her to hang out with you within 2 weeks

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:51:49

normally i would think pursuing a girl a few years younger than me would be weird but since she initiated by asking her mom about me/inviting me to sit with her at church, i think it's more ok

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:52:17

Nah dude girls love older guys, naturally attracted to them

Wandering_Warrior 2018-04-19 01:52:31

yep

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 01:54:00

Just be careful you don't get friendzoned. Texting too much can do that

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:54:50

yeah i've been avoiding texting her

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:54:53

if she initiates i respond

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:55:02

and if she initiates several times in a row i might text her

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 01:55:07

but i dont' like texting in general

Zyzz 2018-04-19 02:01:44

you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say

Zyzz 2018-04-19 02:02:14

if you do not text her much she may perceive that as disinterest

Zyzz 2018-04-19 02:02:38

i would sit next to her at church every week

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:03:31

"you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say" great way to put it @Zyzz .

It's about making your intentions clear

Zyzz 2018-04-19 02:03:43

^

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:04:06

if i get to church after her and she is alone i will sit next to her

Zyzz 2018-04-19 02:04:34

text her before church and ask her if she'd like to sit next to you

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:04:48

good idea

Zyzz 2018-04-19 02:04:51

this is how you make your intentions clear

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:04:57

and then i will talk to her after church, regardless

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:05:30

Definitely ask her to hang out again though man-that seems like its what you want to do

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:05:53

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola you could also ask her if you could take her to coffee after church or walk her home

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:06:25

she lives a half hour drive away from our church

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:06:30

and comes to church with her family

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:06:40

but i think i could ask if she wants to get lunch and give her a ride home

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:06:46

i think i will do that

Argument of Perigee 2018-04-19 02:07:23

Well said @Zyzz

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:07:48

Good idea. If she makes up some silly excuse, then maybe she is not mature enough for you

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:09:02

how do i differentiate silly excuse from legitimate excuse?

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:09:56

If she pulls something like ohhh uuhh im busy or have schoolwork or have to walk my dog, thats silly. Legit would be like oh I have to go visit my grandmother in the hospital

Alamo 2018-04-19 02:10:49

I think it's important too to see if she will offer another time if she's busy. If she does then she's probably interested in you

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:10:53

Last thing you could do is say ok, when are you free? If she says not until the end of the semester I would call her out jokingly

Zyzz 2018-04-19 02:11:17

someone will thoroughly explain a legitimate excuse.

Zyzz 2018-04-19 02:11:56

it also the feeling you get from how she responds.. learn to trust intuition

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:12:58

if she gives an excuse i'll just say "alright let me know when you're free for a date" and wait to see if she ever actually lets me know

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:13:36

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola one thing I would throw in there. even though 18-22/23 isn't unheard of, it really is quite a huge difference

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:13:56

according to the half your age+7 rule she's at my lower limit

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:14:10

but she is really gorgeous and trad

Zyzz 2018-04-19 02:14:55

its rare for a girl to ever follow up with someone about when they are free for a date.. it is best to ask "so when are you free?"

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:15:34

if she can't do brunch after church one of these weeks soon should i ask her again once the semester is over?

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:16:16

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola I would play it by ear, meet her at Church, ask how things are going

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:16:33

if she's light on details then move on

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:16:50

she hasn't initiated texting in a while

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:16:55

so i guess i'll just play it by ear

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:16:59

tfw no gf until then

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:17:21

Don't worry man you are wicked young. And as you get older, you will meet more mature girls

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:17:28

<#436337973001322508> welcomes "tfw no gf" memes

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:17:32

dat fertility window tho

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:17:38

Gaiu

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:17:54

Plenty of time man

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:18:54

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola like @Pat-MA said 18 year olds are really immature and unstable (sorry young guys lol). If I were you I wouldn't bother with a girl younger than 21. Don't worry about fertility window, you have a good while.

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:19:22

feelsbadman

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:19:24

but alright

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:19:50

Yeah man, I read an article about how most girls hit their peak maturity nowadays at age 27

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:19:59

Also, one of the open secrets is this: most girls are trad in some way, it's the natural way

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:20:51

big thing to me is she was born and raised orthodox christian

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:21:00

and orthodox christians are already an intense minority in this country

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:21:36

I agree religion is important. On religion she sounds great, but I think the age thing really is a challenge.

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:21:49

true

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:21:54

i was a fucking retard at 18

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-04-19 02:22:01

i'm still a fucking retard, only slightly less

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:22:19

lol

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:22:37

Yeah I don't want to knock anyone man or woman, i can only imagine what I looked like to other people, but I quickly learned that girls 18-23 are basically pixies

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:22:48

Then around 23 they start to get a little more serious

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:23:03

my personal experience, though I'm sure it's the same the other way around as well

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:24:10

You are definitely right man. Then at 27 they usually take another turn

Zyzz 2018-04-19 02:24:11

i was a shithead up until like 2 years ago

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:26:28

I'm a shithead

Attrition in the desert 2018-04-19 02:47:14

So i've been texting this girl for a week, then I ask her out on a date and she says she's not looking to date anyone right now. When I asked for her number initially I was perfectly clear I wanted to date her, so why did she text with me for a week acting like she was into me?

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:47:32

Because girls love attention

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:48:06

She could have been texting other guys at the same time

Attrition in the desert 2018-04-19 02:48:20

Oof, you are probably right though.

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:48:46

>texting for a week

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:48:49

no no no

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:48:49

Unfortunately it is probably done man. Lots of girls are like that though, on to the next

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:49:09

only use texting to set up a real world meeting

Attrition in the desert 2018-04-19 02:49:54

I probably messed up by not asking her out sooner right?

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:50:05

depends

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:50:10

just be aware of momentum

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:50:19

feelings build

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:50:37

or fall off

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:50:45

You do want to strike while the iron is hot. Ask her out when she is feeling you

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 02:51:46

@Attrition in the desert I think the principle behind what @Deleted User and @Pat-MA are saying is that you want to make your intentions clear. If you dilly dally for a week she may have no idea you're actually serious either

Attrition in the desert 2018-04-19 02:53:13

True, my rationale was that I didn't want to come on too strong.

Attrition in the desert 2018-04-19 02:53:39

I'm pretty retarded with women though so haha

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:54:32

I'd unironically recommend pua channels

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:54:44

they understand the female psyche very well

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:55:02

alot of pua are degenerate fags though

Deleted User 2018-04-19 02:55:43

The least bad I'd say is RSDMax

Attrition in the desert 2018-04-19 02:57:27

Didn't one of those guys get kicked out of japan for being too chad rofl?

Pat-MA 2018-04-19 02:57:53

i like the website girlschase

Attrition in the desert 2018-04-19 02:59:21

I'll have to check both those out, thanks bois.

Zyzz 2018-04-19 11:50:20

@Attrition in the desert#6260 that’s was julien I believe and no it wasn’t because he was being too chad but too rapey

Tanner - SC 2018-04-19 16:53:36

Convo from <#436337973001322508> that belongs here:

>Is money really that attractive to women
The base biological value that women bring to a relationship is fertility and the base value that men bring is resources.

Most things men first notice in a women are indicators of fertility.

Most things women first notice in a man are indicators of resources and the ability to acquire resources.

Attrition in the desert 2018-04-19 18:55:32

Indeed, sexual market value like Stefan molyneux talks about.

Zyzz 2018-04-19 19:39:15

I think it’s important to display your resources in a non tacky way. Taking it to the extreme, I think it looks tacky for a 20 something to drive around in a Ferrari or to wear a very expensive watch. The question here is how to display our resources in a non tacky manner that will attract the right girls rather than those looking for a meal ticket.

SamanthaM 2018-04-19 19:40:43

Why not discuss your ambition to own a decent home.

SamanthaM 2018-04-19 19:43:57

The relationship between men and women is complimentary. I.e. Men provide the resources, women utilize the resources to create and nurture a family/community.

Therefore, women are looking for a man who is responsible with his money and can provide for the long-term. Someone who isn't interested in wasting it on fancy luxury items.

SamanthaM 2018-04-19 19:44:40

Zyzz makes a fantastic point.

Deleted User 2018-04-19 20:28:38

All rules that apply to the IE national server apply here - including professional language - irrespective of the topic. Thanks.

ThisIsChris 2018-04-19 22:12:41

@everyone ^^^

Wotan Reborn 2018-04-19 22:50:04

Work out. Eat right. Increase your testosterone. Be a dick. Be fun. You’ll do ok.

Aleis⊕ccidentalis 2018-04-19 23:16:33

tender aggression is the key

Freiheit - CA 2018-04-19 23:40:08

If I wear my Omega watch and some gold, is that tacky, or superior?

Sam Anderson 2018-04-19 23:43:10

Ask yourself, do I look like a Persian dude dressing up?

Freiheit - CA 2018-04-19 23:43:49

I don't, I was wondering what a woman's perspective was, I should have clarified.

John O - 2018-04-20 00:21:23

Just get this tatted on your chest so she knows you're not only rich, but have great taste

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/436337773579075585/436682760719958046/images_2.jpeg

Freiheit - CA 2018-04-20 04:59:18

Put that thing away.

Deleted User 2018-04-20 07:47:27
Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:20:43

So this girl at my church, when I first asked her on a date she said she was too busy with schoolwork when she cancelled our first planned date on me. Then when the semester ended I asked her again and she said she was busy with graduation, so I told her to let me know if she's ever free. But now graduation is over, do I try again to schedule a date or do I just consider this ship sailed unless she reaches out to me?

TV 2018-05-29 02:21:11

If she was interested she would have found time

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:21:22

that was my thinking

Pinochetball 2018-05-29 02:21:22

^^^

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:21:28

but she also just graduated from high school

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:21:32

so she's not the most mature person

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:21:33

obviously

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:21:46

she's only a couple years younger than me, before anyone says anything about that

Pinochetball 2018-05-29 02:21:57

If shes down, she will make the effort to contact YOU.

Pinochetball 2018-05-29 02:22:20

Young girls like that are fickle as hell

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:22:57

ship status: sailed

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/436337773579075585/450846478974582785/0fa.jpg

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:23:02

eyes toward the future i guess

Pinochetball 2018-05-29 02:25:05

Indeed mein freund

TV 2018-05-29 02:25:17

Next time that happens, press a little harder, like "well you're going to need a snack break. Let's meet at _________"

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:25:36

i probably could've done something like that

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:25:40

i was worried about coming on too strong

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:25:50

maybe me asking when the semester was over is what did that

TV 2018-05-29 02:26:14

Yea of course you were worried about that. It's hard to find the right balance.

John O - 2018-05-29 02:36:12

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola if you have nothing to lose socially, go for it again. If she's part of your church and you're worried about a bad reputation, lay off of it

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:36:39

i think i might just give it time

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:36:43

and if we interact in person at church more

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 02:36:46

maybe give it a shot

ThisIsChris 2018-05-29 03:11:27

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola my experience was that people weren't really stable people when it came to dating until they were 23. I assume it's something about hormones and settling down, not really sure. Also I don't think it's a hard rule, but I would use it as a guideline. Not sure how old you are but dating a woman slightly older than you isn't bad if you want to give the 23+ thing a shot.

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 03:16:47

@ThisIsChris i'm turning 23 in July. Church girl by comparison is 18

ThisIsChris 2018-05-29 03:21:15

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola Even though I would root for you, this has all the signs of something that won't work out the way you were hoping.

ThisIsChris 2018-05-29 03:21:47

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/436337773579075585/450861287904247838/Screen_Shot_2018-05-28_at_11.21.27_PM.png

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 03:22:00

yeah, i have similar feelings but I'm not sure if that's just me rationalizing out of being in pain over it

ThisIsChris 2018-05-29 03:22:24

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola sounds like acceptance

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 03:23:54

1. "She'll probably hit me up."
2. "why would she show interest in me and invite me to sit next to her if she wasn't interested in me?"
3. "i'll just ask her again sometime."
4. "tfw no trad orthodox church girl gf"
5. "probably wouldn't have worked out anyway"

Gaius Mucius Scaevola 2018-05-29 03:24:08

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/436337773579075585/450861880173395969/1460160632691.jpg

ThisIsChris 2018-05-29 03:24:20

haha amazing

Tanner - SC 2018-05-30 02:34:25

IMO, the problem is one-itis. Find another lead or two and pursue them, then consider coming back to this one after the focus is not so narrow and naturally your confidence around her will be higher too.

Rogue 2018-05-30 14:11:50

^

Tanner - SC 2018-06-09 17:41:31

The women on Christian Mingle are incredibly traditional. Multiple profiles saying their main life goal is to be a good mother.

John O - 2018-06-09 18:09:40

Already back into it, good for you, @Tanner - SC

Yeah, religion can be a good proxy for traditionalism. I know a few guys that met their wives at church

Tanner - SC 2018-06-13 01:51:50

I heard this pick-up line is really effective:
Fight demographic decline, be mine!

Der Seeteufel - SD 2018-06-14 13:21:53

So I'm about to go meet a girl from my church who has traveled all the way from Australia to look for a christian husband. We've sent a few emails back and forth but today I'm actually going to meet her in person. Any last minute advice?

John O - 2018-06-14 13:36:09

Dood nice

ThisIsChris 2018-06-14 14:47:46

@Der Seeteufel - SD I suggest giving extra attention to making her feel comfortable, even if she is enthusiastic, travelling to a new country to meet a man she hasn't met IRL before must be very stressful! Also she's there to learn about you, so show her around places important to you. (Did you clean your room?) House, maybe a quick pass by your work site, church, town center or wherever else you like to hang out.

Der Seeteufel - SD 2018-06-14 15:13:44

We are going to meet at a church retreat in another state so she won't see my house, but my house is pretty clean. I don't actually live there most of the time because I get room and board where I work.

JesseJames 2018-06-14 15:22:53

Don’t act like she is the only woman you’ve ever been around. Treat her like you would want a man to treat your daughter.

Deleted User 2018-06-14 16:03:35

Make her laugh. Always make them laugh.

ThisIsChris 2018-06-14 21:33:51

Two fish are in a tank, one says to the other "How do you drive this thing?"

Deleted User 2018-06-14 21:43:04

Okay maybe don’t lead with that but you get the idea

Tanner - SC 2018-06-20 22:50:07

I think I’ve figured out online dating. I recommend eHarmony, Christian Mingle, and Match.
* The messaging feature is not to introduce yourself, it’s not to flirt, it’s not to get to know them better.
* Just hit the “like” button on the girls you like.
* Put the rest of your effort into your profile itself and analyzing their profile before hitting “like”.
* If she “likes” you back, you proceed straight to asking her out via message. “Want to do <activity> on <> day at <> place at <> time?”
* If she accepts, “Great, see you then.”
* Do all further courting and vetting in person.
* If the date goes well, get her phone number and make further contact through phone/text.

SamanthaM 2018-06-20 23:05:06

^Accurate

ThisIsChris 2018-06-21 02:25:56

ThisIsChris 2018-06-21 02:26:16

@Tanner - SC good insight

TV 2018-06-21 04:04:30

@Tanner - SC that's good advice for texting a girl you met IRL too. Just ask her out, plan logistics and that's it. No reason to be too chatty. Guys worry about what they should say too much. If she's interested, you hardly have to say anything.

Zyzz 2018-06-21 10:05:56

Tbh most girls I’ve met online like to chat in varying amounts prior to meeting in person. I’ve even spoken to a few on the phone. I think it’s a way for them to get comfortable with you prior to meeting face to face. We need to understand a girls experience with online dating is very different from ours. There are a lot of poorly socially adjusted people out there and many guys are just looking for hook ups. Chances are the girl you met wants to make sure you are neither of these people. If she wants to chat with you I would be receptive to make her as comfortable with you as you can

ThisIsChris 2018-06-21 13:27:28

@Zyzz re: "there are a lot of poorly socially adapted people out there" hmm maybe we should start a dating site with IE-style vetting and rules

Tanner - SC 2018-06-21 15:45:16

@Zyzz what apps were you using? No one looks for hooks ups on eHarmony. Plus, I make it clear in my profile what I’m seeking.

SamanthaM 2018-06-21 15:49:44

@TV She may also want to verify that you're a real person. Plenty of fake profiles out there that are used to lure women into unsafe situations. It's a real concern.

SamanthaM 2018-06-21 15:50:03

@TV She may also want to verify that you're a real person. Plenty of fake profiles out there that are used to lure women into unsafe situations. It's a real concern.

Zyzz 2018-06-21 16:27:07

@Tanner - SC I use match, hinge, bumble, coffee meets bagel, and I am still on lesser apps like tinder and OkC. I have been out with girls from Match who complain about men they’ve met on Match and other dating apps. Guys will say one thing and go for another. Not everyone is upfront and honest these days. And girls are correct to be suspicious and distrusting initially. The only thing you can do as a man is understand how they feel and try to put them at ease. Stating your intent is a good start.

Tanner - SC 2018-06-23 22:37:51

Do y’all think exclusivity should exist on the first date? Or are you fine with going on dates with multiple people at first and becoming exclusive with one after a few dates?

Washington 2018-06-23 22:40:52

@Tanner - SC I think it should be, but it is not. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. You can make your intent known that you are looking for something serious, I'd advise against it unless it comes up naturally, but never make it exclusive on the first date. You just met them.

Generally, you can date multiple people unless somebody "DTR's" which is define the relationship, a talk where you tell the girl to stop seeing others and you will too

Deleted User 2018-06-23 22:40:54

Depends on how well it goes, and it should be communicated

Washington 2018-06-23 22:42:00

@Deleted User Yeah, as you said. Communicate it. Never assume that she's not seeing others because you aren't. Spell it out what you want and if what you want is her

Washington 2018-06-23 22:43:59

Now, also, going on a date is different than dating. Dating tends to imply seeing them for a bit. I don't see anything wrong with going on dates with multiple people to narrow the field, but your goal should be to make a choice. A company interviews three candidates for any position. Shouldn't you do likewise for the woman you are going to spend awhile with?

Zyzz 2018-06-23 23:02:39

@Tanner - SC I second literally everything Washington said

Freiheit - CA 2018-06-23 23:15:18

@Tanner - SC Since the first date may be a last date...no, but the second date better be exclusive, I think if one is committed enough to agree to a second date, they are either using you for free dinner, or you are the one for now. So if they have other dates, they're using, if it's just you, on date 2, person is "well adjusted" to quote the great Stephen Bennett.

Tanner - SC 2018-06-25 20:34:32

This seems like signing up for an inevitable hack and doxx list:
https://www.amren.com/news/2018/02/new-white-dating-site/

Der Seeteufel - SD 2018-06-25 22:46:55

Not to mention that there will be literally no women on that site.

Francis V 2018-06-25 23:08:02

Publicize it to women only groups on facebook using a fake ACC

Francis V 2018-06-25 23:08:21

You could do a great deal in an afternoon for that site.

Freiheit - CA 2018-06-26 01:00:10

I'm already on whitedate.net

Freiheit - CA 2018-06-26 01:00:30

The women are spread out.

Freiheit - CA 2018-06-26 01:01:09

Membership is free until they hit 10k members if memory serves

SamanthaM 2018-06-26 01:35:17

@Freiheit - CA Is the site any good?

Freiheit - CA 2018-06-26 01:35:52

Not very populated but not full of degenerates.

Freiheit - CA 2018-06-26 01:36:16

The search filters are a little buggy sometimes.

Freiheit - CA 2018-06-26 01:36:32

Haven't been on in a while.

Der Seeteufel - SD 2018-06-29 14:25:38

Am I doing this tinder thing correctly?

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/436337773579075585/462262373185617971/20180629_092420.jpg

SamanthaM 2018-06-29 14:33:44

@Der Seeteufel - SD Maybe don’t try tinder.

Zyzz 2018-06-29 15:08:59

No use the app to get her out on a date. From there you ask more personal questions. But also, yeah don’t expect much on tinder

Zyzz 2018-06-29 15:10:24

Use the app for light screening

Washington 2018-06-29 15:10:29

@Zyzz At that point in the conversation I'm assuming Andrew was like, "Eff it."

Agreed. Use it as a vehicle to propose a date after about one or two questions/talking, get their cellphone number as another POC, and then schedule the date shortly after

Zyzz 2018-06-29 15:10:41

I have a picture of me in a trump hat which screens a lot of degenerates

Zyzz 2018-06-29 15:11:39

“Swipe based on your political preferences”

Washington 2018-06-29 15:11:44

@Zyzz Agreed. Tinder is good for screening what you want and don't want. It's at your discretion. I've seen very trad girls on Tinder, mostly garbage but trad chicks very seldom. Still they exist. It's your job to swipe left on thots

Zyzz 2018-06-29 15:13:23

@Washington I literally swipe right on all of them and only pay attention to them if we match. If they are not what I want I will unmatch. Online dating is a filtering tool and the least amount of work you can put in to get a girl out on a date should be the goal

Zyzz 2018-06-29 15:13:32

It’s literally a funnel and a numbers game

Zyzz 2018-06-29 15:13:58

I use copy and paste openers and screening questions

Zyzz 2018-06-29 15:14:10

I use them so frequently my phone already knows what I’m going to say

Washington 2018-06-29 15:23:43

@Zyzz Don't swipe right all the time, it hurts you algorithmically, but yeah, I do likewise

Der Seeteufel - SD 2018-06-29 15:32:15

Yeah I'm actually not even looking for dates on tinder. Its just a TRS troll. Basically just trying to expose Tinder THOTs to alternative view points.

John O - 2018-06-29 16:11:22

@Der Seeteufel - SD tbh, you sound a bit bitter there. Try to work on projecting a more compassionate voice if that's what you're trying to do

Zyzz 2018-06-29 16:26:50

@Washington interesting I didn’t know that

Zyzz 2018-06-29 16:28:07

@Der Seeteufel - SD I think it would be smart for IE to find a willing woman who would dress in IE garb and write a pro white profile that effectively shills for IE.

Zyzz 2018-06-29 16:28:42

We would take the pictures and we would create profiles (with her pictures) all across the country

Zyzz 2018-06-29 16:29:27

Interesting enough I actually first heard about TRS and the Daily Shoah through some girls tinder profile. Except she was definitely real lol and not attractive.

Der Seeteufel - SD 2018-06-29 16:44:02

@John O - I was going for bored rather than bitter but the point is just to have some guys on tinder that don't worship the ground these girls walk on. I'm not going for hearts and minds.

Der Seeteufel - SD 2018-06-29 17:01:57

Holy crap she just replied. I'm going to wait about an hour and ask her for her phone number.

Thomas Eckert - PA 2018-06-29 17:03:09

Waiting games are stupid

Washington 2018-06-29 17:03:13

@Zyzz Just create a lot of accounts and redpill guys by sending them the link to our site/literature. 8Chan's been doing it for awhile, lmao.

Thomas Eckert - PA 2018-06-29 17:03:30

You’ve received bad advice

Washington 2018-06-29 17:04:15

Waiting games work though on some level. Texting back instantly is not a good habit and comes off as needy, initially at least.

Zyzz 2018-06-29 17:13:53

Waiting games are stupid

Zyzz 2018-06-29 17:14:51

Need to strike when the iron is hot. With that said if she takes 5 hrs to reply and you text back instantly yeah that comes off bad

Deleted User 2018-06-29 17:15:07

the answer is inbetween.

Zyzz 2018-06-29 17:15:13

I rarely disagree with Washington

Zyzz 2018-06-29 17:15:39

It’s stupid to say “I will text back exactly one hour later”

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