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2018-04-19 01:41:38 UTC

we were texting a lot

2018-04-19 01:41:40 UTC

and she seemed into me

2018-04-19 01:41:49 UTC

she asked me to sit with her during a church service

2018-04-19 01:42:04 UTC

and though i had to get up and help with the service, i asked her on a date afterward and she said yes

2018-04-19 01:42:10 UTC

and before then she had been asking about me

2018-04-19 01:42:18 UTC

her mom came up to ask me my name because her daughter had been asking about me

2018-04-19 01:42:36 UTC

and she initiated texting me several times

2018-04-19 01:42:42 UTC

but idk man

2018-04-19 01:42:42 UTC

wow that's serious

2018-04-19 01:43:03 UTC

i would just text her how she's doing every once in a while

2018-04-19 01:43:25 UTC

I would say get right to the point of asking her to hang out again. If she ditches the second date-she's out.

2018-04-19 01:43:34 UTC

No messing around, no beating around the bush

2018-04-19 01:43:44 UTC

i was planning on just talking to her next time we see each other at church

2018-04-19 01:43:56 UTC

and then asking her on a date once the semester was over and she wouldn't have a good excuse

2018-04-19 01:44:14 UTC

Thing is if girls want to hang out with you they will make it happen

2018-04-19 01:44:58 UTC

True, I'm kind of skeptical because she didn't offer an exact alternative time when she postponed at first

2018-04-19 01:45:41 UTC

she said we can still talk at church and plan something once the semester is over

2018-04-19 01:45:53 UTC

so i was planning on talking to her at church and asking her for another date once the semester ends

2018-04-19 01:46:02 UTC

and if that doesn't work out then i'll move on

2018-04-19 01:46:30 UTC

Oh come on thats ridiculous. Does she think you are some chump who will wait around for a month? She's wrong. You are the prize

2018-04-19 01:46:48 UTC

She can't find one afternoon/evening? She definitely can

2018-04-19 01:47:02 UTC


2018-04-19 01:47:08 UTC


2018-04-19 01:47:30 UTC

she also lives a half hour drive away from me

2018-04-19 01:47:30 UTC

Is she shy? Nervous about a date?

2018-04-19 01:47:39 UTC

and is 18, and doesn't have her own car

2018-04-19 01:47:55 UTC

Ok so she is young and definitely immature when it comes to dating

2018-04-19 01:48:38 UTC


2018-04-19 01:48:42 UTC

she is young

2018-04-19 01:48:47 UTC

but we talked about guns

2018-04-19 01:48:55 UTC

and how great the liberal salt after trump's election was

2018-04-19 01:48:58 UTC

and she's gorgeous

2018-04-19 01:49:20 UTC

How old are yu?

2018-04-19 01:49:25 UTC


2018-04-19 01:49:28 UTC

23 in july

2018-04-19 01:49:41 UTC

Same lol

2018-04-19 01:50:02 UTC

Finals are coming up arent they? I would give her the space, keep texting and doing the church stuff. And once the semester ends, hit her with a, "so where are you taking me on our date now that schools out". joking/playfuly of course. Put the ball in her court.

2018-04-19 01:50:31 UTC

i was planning on once the semester ends just going up to her at church or texting her and saying "so how about that coffee?"

2018-04-19 01:50:34 UTC

Ok. She could be a little intimidated by an older guy. Probably not used to getting attention from a guy your age. If she is really into you, I bet you could convince her to hang out with you within 2 weeks

2018-04-19 01:51:49 UTC

normally i would think pursuing a girl a few years younger than me would be weird but since she initiated by asking her mom about me/inviting me to sit with her at church, i think it's more ok

2018-04-19 01:52:17 UTC

Nah dude girls love older guys, naturally attracted to them

2018-04-19 01:52:31 UTC


2018-04-19 01:54:00 UTC

Just be careful you don't get friendzoned. Texting too much can do that

2018-04-19 01:54:50 UTC

yeah i've been avoiding texting her

2018-04-19 01:54:53 UTC

if she initiates i respond

2018-04-19 01:55:02 UTC

and if she initiates several times in a row i might text her

2018-04-19 01:55:07 UTC

but i dont' like texting in general

2018-04-19 02:01:44 UTC

you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say

2018-04-19 02:02:14 UTC

if you do not text her much she may perceive that as disinterest

2018-04-19 02:02:38 UTC

i would sit next to her at church every week

2018-04-19 02:03:31 UTC

"you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say" great way to put it @Zyzz .

It's about making your intentions clear

2018-04-19 02:03:43 UTC


2018-04-19 02:04:06 UTC

if i get to church after her and she is alone i will sit next to her

2018-04-19 02:04:34 UTC

text her before church and ask her if she'd like to sit next to you

2018-04-19 02:04:48 UTC

good idea

2018-04-19 02:04:51 UTC

this is how you make your intentions clear

2018-04-19 02:04:57 UTC

and then i will talk to her after church, regardless

2018-04-19 02:05:30 UTC

Definitely ask her to hang out again though man-that seems like its what you want to do

2018-04-19 02:05:53 UTC

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola you could also ask her if you could take her to coffee after church or walk her home

2018-04-19 02:06:25 UTC

she lives a half hour drive away from our church

2018-04-19 02:06:30 UTC

and comes to church with her family

2018-04-19 02:06:40 UTC

but i think i could ask if she wants to get lunch and give her a ride home

2018-04-19 02:06:46 UTC

i think i will do that

2018-04-19 02:07:23 UTC

Well said @Zyzz

2018-04-19 02:07:48 UTC

Good idea. If she makes up some silly excuse, then maybe she is not mature enough for you

2018-04-19 02:09:02 UTC

how do i differentiate silly excuse from legitimate excuse?

2018-04-19 02:09:56 UTC

If she pulls something like ohhh uuhh im busy or have schoolwork or have to walk my dog, thats silly. Legit would be like oh I have to go visit my grandmother in the hospital

2018-04-19 02:10:49 UTC

I think it's important too to see if she will offer another time if she's busy. If she does then she's probably interested in you

2018-04-19 02:10:53 UTC

Last thing you could do is say ok, when are you free? If she says not until the end of the semester I would call her out jokingly

2018-04-19 02:11:17 UTC

someone will thoroughly explain a legitimate excuse.

2018-04-19 02:11:56 UTC

it also the feeling you get from how she responds.. learn to trust intuition

2018-04-19 02:12:58 UTC

if she gives an excuse i'll just say "alright let me know when you're free for a date" and wait to see if she ever actually lets me know

2018-04-19 02:13:36 UTC

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola one thing I would throw in there. even though 18-22/23 isn't unheard of, it really is quite a huge difference

2018-04-19 02:13:56 UTC

according to the half your age+7 rule she's at my lower limit

2018-04-19 02:14:10 UTC

but she is really gorgeous and trad

2018-04-19 02:14:55 UTC

its rare for a girl to ever follow up with someone about when they are free for a date.. it is best to ask "so when are you free?"

2018-04-19 02:15:34 UTC

if she can't do brunch after church one of these weeks soon should i ask her again once the semester is over?

2018-04-19 02:16:16 UTC

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola I would play it by ear, meet her at Church, ask how things are going

2018-04-19 02:16:33 UTC

if she's light on details then move on

2018-04-19 02:16:50 UTC

she hasn't initiated texting in a while

2018-04-19 02:16:55 UTC

so i guess i'll just play it by ear

2018-04-19 02:16:59 UTC

tfw no gf until then

2018-04-19 02:17:21 UTC

Don't worry man you are wicked young. And as you get older, you will meet more mature girls

2018-04-19 02:17:28 UTC

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2018-04-19 02:17:32 UTC

dat fertility window tho

2018-04-19 02:17:38 UTC


2018-04-19 02:17:54 UTC

Plenty of time man

2018-04-19 02:18:54 UTC

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola like @Pat-MA said 18 year olds are really immature and unstable (sorry young guys lol). If I were you I wouldn't bother with a girl younger than 21. Don't worry about fertility window, you have a good while.

2018-04-19 02:19:22 UTC


2018-04-19 02:19:24 UTC

but alright

2018-04-19 02:19:50 UTC

Yeah man, I read an article about how most girls hit their peak maturity nowadays at age 27

2018-04-19 02:19:59 UTC

Also, one of the open secrets is this: most girls are trad in some way, it's the natural way

2018-04-19 02:20:51 UTC

big thing to me is she was born and raised orthodox christian

2018-04-19 02:21:00 UTC

and orthodox christians are already an intense minority in this country

2018-04-19 02:21:36 UTC

I agree religion is important. On religion she sounds great, but I think the age thing really is a challenge.

2018-04-19 02:21:49 UTC


2018-04-19 02:21:54 UTC

i was a fucking retard at 18

2018-04-19 02:22:01 UTC

i'm still a fucking retard, only slightly less

2018-04-19 02:22:19 UTC


2018-04-19 02:22:37 UTC

Yeah I don't want to knock anyone man or woman, i can only imagine what I looked like to other people, but I quickly learned that girls 18-23 are basically pixies

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