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we were texting a lot
and she seemed into me
she asked me to sit with her during a church service
and though i had to get up and help with the service, i asked her on a date afterward and she said yes
and before then she had been asking about me
her mom came up to ask me my name because her daughter had been asking about me
and she initiated texting me several times
but idk man
wow that's serious
i would just text her how she's doing every once in a while
I would say get right to the point of asking her to hang out again. If she ditches the second date-she's out.
No messing around, no beating around the bush
i was planning on just talking to her next time we see each other at church
and then asking her on a date once the semester was over and she wouldn't have a good excuse
Thing is if girls want to hang out with you they will make it happen
True, I'm kind of skeptical because she didn't offer an exact alternative time when she postponed at first
she said we can still talk at church and plan something once the semester is over
so i was planning on talking to her at church and asking her for another date once the semester ends
and if that doesn't work out then i'll move on
Oh come on thats ridiculous. Does she think you are some chump who will wait around for a month? She's wrong. You are the prize
She can't find one afternoon/evening? She definitely can
she also lives a half hour drive away from me
Is she shy? Nervous about a date?
and is 18, and doesn't have her own car
Ok so she is young and definitely immature when it comes to dating
she is young
but we talked about guns
and how great the liberal salt after trump's election was
and she's gorgeous
How old are yu?
23 in july
Finals are coming up arent they? I would give her the space, keep texting and doing the church stuff. And once the semester ends, hit her with a, "so where are you taking me on our date now that schools out". joking/playfuly of course. Put the ball in her court.
i was planning on once the semester ends just going up to her at church or texting her and saying "so how about that coffee?"
Ok. She could be a little intimidated by an older guy. Probably not used to getting attention from a guy your age. If she is really into you, I bet you could convince her to hang out with you within 2 weeks
normally i would think pursuing a girl a few years younger than me would be weird but since she initiated by asking her mom about me/inviting me to sit with her at church, i think it's more ok
Nah dude girls love older guys, naturally attracted to them
Just be careful you don't get friendzoned. Texting too much can do that
yeah i've been avoiding texting her
if she initiates i respond
and if she initiates several times in a row i might text her
but i dont' like texting in general
you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say
if you do not text her much she may perceive that as disinterest
i would sit next to her at church every week
"you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say" great way to put it @Zyzz .
It's about making your intentions clear
if i get to church after her and she is alone i will sit next to her
text her before church and ask her if she'd like to sit next to you
this is how you make your intentions clear
and then i will talk to her after church, regardless
Definitely ask her to hang out again though man-that seems like its what you want to do
@Gaius Mucius Scaevola you could also ask her if you could take her to coffee after church or walk her home
she lives a half hour drive away from our church
and comes to church with her family
but i think i could ask if she wants to get lunch and give her a ride home
i think i will do that
Good idea. If she makes up some silly excuse, then maybe she is not mature enough for you
how do i differentiate silly excuse from legitimate excuse?
If she pulls something like ohhh uuhh im busy or have schoolwork or have to walk my dog, thats silly. Legit would be like oh I have to go visit my grandmother in the hospital
I think it's important too to see if she will offer another time if she's busy. If she does then she's probably interested in you
Last thing you could do is say ok, when are you free? If she says not until the end of the semester I would call her out jokingly
someone will thoroughly explain a legitimate excuse.
it also the feeling you get from how she responds.. learn to trust intuition
if she gives an excuse i'll just say "alright let me know when you're free for a date" and wait to see if she ever actually lets me know
@Gaius Mucius Scaevola one thing I would throw in there. even though 18-22/23 isn't unheard of, it really is quite a huge difference
according to the half your age+7 rule she's at my lower limit
but she is really gorgeous and trad
its rare for a girl to ever follow up with someone about when they are free for a date.. it is best to ask "so when are you free?"
if she can't do brunch after church one of these weeks soon should i ask her again once the semester is over?
@Gaius Mucius Scaevola I would play it by ear, meet her at Church, ask how things are going
if she's light on details then move on
she hasn't initiated texting in a while
so i guess i'll just play it by ear
tfw no gf until then
Don't worry man you are wicked young. And as you get older, you will meet more mature girls
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dat fertility window tho
Plenty of time man
Yeah man, I read an article about how most girls hit their peak maturity nowadays at age 27
Also, one of the open secrets is this: most girls are trad in some way, it's the natural way
big thing to me is she was born and raised orthodox christian
and orthodox christians are already an intense minority in this country
I agree religion is important. On religion she sounds great, but I think the age thing really is a challenge.
i was a fucking retard at 18
i'm still a fucking retard, only slightly less
Yeah I don't want to knock anyone man or woman, i can only imagine what I looked like to other people, but I quickly learned that girls 18-23 are basically pixies
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