Message from @Zyzz

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2018-04-19 01:48:58 UTC  

and she's gorgeous

2018-04-19 01:49:20 UTC  

How old are yu?

2018-04-19 01:49:25 UTC  

22

2018-04-19 01:49:28 UTC  

23 in july

2018-04-19 01:49:41 UTC  

Same lol

2018-04-19 01:50:02 UTC  

Finals are coming up arent they? I would give her the space, keep texting and doing the church stuff. And once the semester ends, hit her with a, "so where are you taking me on our date now that schools out". joking/playfuly of course. Put the ball in her court.

2018-04-19 01:50:31 UTC  

i was planning on once the semester ends just going up to her at church or texting her and saying "so how about that coffee?"

2018-04-19 01:50:34 UTC  

Ok. She could be a little intimidated by an older guy. Probably not used to getting attention from a guy your age. If she is really into you, I bet you could convince her to hang out with you within 2 weeks

2018-04-19 01:51:49 UTC  

normally i would think pursuing a girl a few years younger than me would be weird but since she initiated by asking her mom about me/inviting me to sit with her at church, i think it's more ok

2018-04-19 01:52:17 UTC  

Nah dude girls love older guys, naturally attracted to them

2018-04-19 01:52:31 UTC  

yep

2018-04-19 01:54:00 UTC  

Just be careful you don't get friendzoned. Texting too much can do that

2018-04-19 01:54:50 UTC  

yeah i've been avoiding texting her

2018-04-19 01:54:53 UTC  

if she initiates i respond

2018-04-19 01:55:02 UTC  

and if she initiates several times in a row i might text her

2018-04-19 01:55:07 UTC  

but i dont' like texting in general

2018-04-19 02:01:44 UTC  

you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say

2018-04-19 02:02:14 UTC  

if you do not text her much she may perceive that as disinterest

2018-04-19 02:02:38 UTC  

i would sit next to her at church every week

2018-04-19 02:03:31 UTC  

"you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say" great way to put it @Zyzz .

It's about making your intentions clear

2018-04-19 02:03:43 UTC  

^

2018-04-19 02:04:06 UTC  

if i get to church after her and she is alone i will sit next to her

2018-04-19 02:04:34 UTC  

text her before church and ask her if she'd like to sit next to you

2018-04-19 02:04:48 UTC  

good idea

2018-04-19 02:04:51 UTC  

this is how you make your intentions clear

2018-04-19 02:04:57 UTC  

and then i will talk to her after church, regardless

2018-04-19 02:05:30 UTC  

Definitely ask her to hang out again though man-that seems like its what you want to do

2018-04-19 02:05:53 UTC  

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola you could also ask her if you could take her to coffee after church or walk her home

2018-04-19 02:06:25 UTC  

she lives a half hour drive away from our church

2018-04-19 02:06:30 UTC  

and comes to church with her family

2018-04-19 02:06:40 UTC  

but i think i could ask if she wants to get lunch and give her a ride home

2018-04-19 02:06:46 UTC  

i think i will do that

2018-04-19 02:07:23 UTC  

Well said @Zyzz

2018-04-19 02:07:48 UTC  

Good idea. If she makes up some silly excuse, then maybe she is not mature enough for you

2018-04-19 02:09:02 UTC  

how do i differentiate silly excuse from legitimate excuse?

2018-04-19 02:09:56 UTC  

If she pulls something like ohhh uuhh im busy or have schoolwork or have to walk my dog, thats silly. Legit would be like oh I have to go visit my grandmother in the hospital

2018-04-19 02:10:49 UTC  

I think it's important too to see if she will offer another time if she's busy. If she does then she's probably interested in you

2018-04-19 02:10:53 UTC  

Last thing you could do is say ok, when are you free? If she says not until the end of the semester I would call her out jokingly

2018-04-19 02:11:17 UTC  

someone will thoroughly explain a legitimate excuse.

2018-04-19 02:11:56 UTC  

it also the feeling you get from how she responds.. learn to trust intuition

2018-04-19 02:12:58 UTC  

if she gives an excuse i'll just say "alright let me know when you're free for a date" and wait to see if she ever actually lets me know