Ok. She could be a little intimidated by an older guy. Probably not used to getting attention from a guy your age. If she is really into you, I bet you could convince her to hang out with you within 2 weeks

normally i would think pursuing a girl a few years younger than me would be weird but since she initiated by asking her mom about me/inviting me to sit with her at church, i think it's more ok

Nah dude girls love older guys, naturally attracted to them

yep

Just be careful you don't get friendzoned. Texting too much can do that

yeah i've been avoiding texting her

if she initiates i respond

and if she initiates several times in a row i might text her

but i dont' like texting in general

you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say

if you do not text her much she may perceive that as disinterest

i would sit next to her at church every week

"you prevent being friendzoned by "keeping it man to woman". i would text her when you have something to say" great way to put it @Zyzz .

It's about making your intentions clear

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if i get to church after her and she is alone i will sit next to her

text her before church and ask her if she'd like to sit next to you

good idea

this is how you make your intentions clear

and then i will talk to her after church, regardless

Definitely ask her to hang out again though man-that seems like its what you want to do

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola you could also ask her if you could take her to coffee after church or walk her home

she lives a half hour drive away from our church

and comes to church with her family

but i think i could ask if she wants to get lunch and give her a ride home

i think i will do that

Well said @Zyzz

Good idea. If she makes up some silly excuse, then maybe she is not mature enough for you

how do i differentiate silly excuse from legitimate excuse?

If she pulls something like ohhh uuhh im busy or have schoolwork or have to walk my dog, thats silly. Legit would be like oh I have to go visit my grandmother in the hospital

I think it's important too to see if she will offer another time if she's busy. If she does then she's probably interested in you

Last thing you could do is say ok, when are you free? If she says not until the end of the semester I would call her out jokingly

someone will thoroughly explain a legitimate excuse.

it also the feeling you get from how she responds.. learn to trust intuition

if she gives an excuse i'll just say "alright let me know when you're free for a date" and wait to see if she ever actually lets me know

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola one thing I would throw in there. even though 18-22/23 isn't unheard of, it really is quite a huge difference

according to the half your age+7 rule she's at my lower limit

but she is really gorgeous and trad

its rare for a girl to ever follow up with someone about when they are free for a date.. it is best to ask "so when are you free?"

if she can't do brunch after church one of these weeks soon should i ask her again once the semester is over?

@Gaius Mucius Scaevola I would play it by ear, meet her at Church, ask how things are going

if she's light on details then move on