Message from @John O -
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Ive been on both sides of it, if we are talking about a topic I like and the girl seems intelligent then I usually am interested in what she is saying but ive also just nodded along when girls gab on , more so when its about somthing stupid, and the only reason to pay attention is cause shes cute. So then its fake
You seem more interested in how they brought you to speak so much and easily when normally you don't but maybe you hit a topic you enjoyed speaking about that normally you dont get a chance to talk about. Or maybe your just socially awkward hence you dont say much and when you are able to talk in a comfortable setting with a seemingly interested person you gab on
Which I can kind of speak from experience there because I use to do that.
Yea I do the same thing with strangers go way to into personal details, not sure why i was homeschooled maybe thats why. I dont know. But ive become alot less socially awkward thr older I get
But it's still there..haha
Haha
Thats a good thing in my mind
@Attrition in the desert update?
@ThisIsChris Going to a museum tomorrow. Texted a bit with some of the advice from you fine people, (getting her to talk about herself ect)
wholesome! have fun!
I'm in no position to give advice. Good luck!
Fresh OC from me:
My sister is working on setting me up with an old basketball friend who is 6'5". Talked with the girl's sister who said she'd probably be into it. She's never dated much because "1. She'll only date taller guys [I am 6'9"], but she doesn't like black guys."
BIG IF TRUE
Tall if true
I met her years ago when my sister and she played ball. But yes, 6'7" average relationship height if it works out.
IE eugenics program
sheesh
Marriage is for eugenics. Whatever you got, get more or get something good to go with it.
I was *sheeshing* at the heights, not the eugenics part đ
Oh yeah. I'm a total freak. Shorter than me dad, though.
Christ dude!
best of luck on your date
No date is arranged yet. Perhaps jinxing it... We'll see. I'm trying to get contacts and a haircut before the first meet up.
And back to church for at least a week or two. She's a pastor's daughter. -__-'
I read most of the New Testament this summer, and listen to the godcast weekly. So I'm pretty well versed in scripture.
That could be my biggest difficulty.
Don't want to be "that guy" that just goes to church for le trad waifu, though.
Project confidence
I have lost 35 lbs in seven weeks, thanks to keto and lifting.
I want to be "that guy"
If that means acquiring a trad waifu
@Wood-Ape - OK/MN good luck man. My gf isn't a pastor's daughter but she is pretty close considering her family is the only family in Australia who are members of my church and her father leads their Sunday worship services. Try to get on good terms with her father. It's really important for actual trad girls that you have the approval of their male family members.
@Der Seeteufel - SD Thanks, and absolutely. Going to do this slow and right if at all.
Definitely keep going to church too and don't feel bad for going just for a girl. If that's how the Holy Spirit got you in the door that was God's plan.
Any good places to find trad waifus (I can't believe I just typed that) besides church?
I feel like any relationship started through church would be a lie since I don't believe
@TMatthews In my opinion no.
@TMatthews Shooting clubs? I almost said "farmers market" or "rodeo" but then again those are weird places to try to start a conversation.
This is purely anecdotal but everyone I know who has an actual trad relationship started it in church. I'm not saying you can't find good girls elsewhere but it's a lot harder. I tried for many years before I finally gave in and asked my pastor for help and he literally found me my current gf in less than a month and she is perfect.
Damn bro, nice.
As far as not being a believer goes that doesn't really worry me. Most people aren't. Just go to church anyway. You don't have to lie to anyone just go and listen. Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God.
It would be an implicit lie at a minimum to go through the process of pretending to be a Christian just to get a gf
I don't think it would be that bad to explain to the girl that you are struggling with having faith and want to embrace the sense of community that church offers.