Message from Thomas Eckert - PA in MacGuyver - Skills & Academics #i-am-single
The puppy avatar threw me off.
Is the new one better?
@ThisIsChris @Zyzz Thank you for the advice. Yes, it would be nice to have an honest talk about career and finances. Not asking for a lot, but maybe it would be nice to know any prospective children could have a decent future.
Just looking for someone who would be "in charge," if that makes any sense?
@SamanthaM Of course, sounds like what I would describe as "a stable family oriented person", seems reasonable to me.
@SamanthaM Yeah i think the only responsible thing to do is to make sure your career/finances are in order prior to bringing children into this world. Nearly all women want a man who is "manly" as in they are masculine. A part of masculinity is the willingness and ability to lead or take charge
Ok, so honest question, and this is probably asking too much of someone, but I have the responsibility of taking over a family business. Ideally, it would be great if there was someone was interested in both kids, and a small business. Is that too high a criteria to look for?
@SamanthaM I don't think so, that's effectively what my wife and I are going for. Actually in my view I think it is quite normal as (professional and stable) people get older that they strongly consider having their own small business, and only don't do so if they have a great opportunity elsewhere.
i wouldnt force him into it, no. with that said he should be able to understand the opportunity you have and be willing to let you do what you need to do
he may want to pursue another career path and thats fine
@SamanthaM would you be mobile with your business or would you need to stay where youre at? is it that he didnt want to live where you live?
@Zyzz Good question. Theoretically, I could move the business anywhere in the continental U.S., but the vast majority of our clients are in the Mid-Atlantic. Also, there are some family circumstances that prevent a major move.
@ThisIsChris What you and your wife have is definitely ideal. But you're right, it would be unfair to expect someone to make a career switch.
@SamanthaM my grandmother used to say "god closes one door and opens another". i would try to keep an eye out for the next one
@Gaius Mucius Scaevola it's all about reading their body langauge man. If you get eye contact or smiling that is very good. If she positions herself near you or so you can clearly see her that is good too. And if she touches you in any way that is a dead giveaway.
"How to get out of the friend zone" ^^
The best way to get out of the friend zone is to not get in it in the first place. i.e. first impressions are important
they set the pace of the rest of the interactions
I have a little theory about the friend zone... your personality worked, your attractiveness didn’t... therefore, you are friend zoned.
In harsher words, stop being unattractive
Or just being too much of a friend. Being too available, and too open, etc
Nothing makes them want you more than apathy
Or at least controlled apathy
Ex. Don’t message them back as soon as you are receiving messages, don’t act like it is all or nothing, desperation is a major “turn off”
Women crave attention more than anything else, so play it aloof and they will respond to you.
I found my fiancé on accident, remember those women you were friends with in school? That is a good place to start, perhaps unrequited love is why they stayed around you?
Just message them, your maturity and familiarity may be just what the doctor ordered.
Yea I think you are right on that analysis
Well his analysis too I suppose
Yea I’ve still got a lot of growing up to do and need to work on making myself a better person physically and mentally before I’m ready for something.
Congrats on finding someone whom your love and your first child. That’s awesome you met them through IE
@missliterallywho Thank you for the advice! Yes, the idea of marriage can be intimidating. Makes complete sense. 😃 Congratulations on your first child!! That’s so awesome ❤️