Message from @Timeward
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it's why marraige as equals is less successsful than as seperate roles
less to trip over each other
less overlap
Though I would not really call that acting, it's just being nice enough to not burden another with your own self
My parents just do things so well together, I dont think I'd have it any other way. The main difference between great friends and great partners is that friends work better with a bit of distance. @ManAnimal
My parents probably have given me way too much freedom to compensate for how their childhood was
Turned me lazy but that's my own fault
it's being fair; and not trusting everyone to the same extend which acknowledgs the indiividual differences
Partners work best always together, or at least together most of the time. Friends work best if they have some time apsrt.
very true
Parntners vs Team-Mates
a 'Partner' can do each other's jobs BUT has to ask for permission and negoitate everything
a team-mate can't do the job of the other player
so it's easier to accept the shortcomings because.. you can't do what they do
and they can't do what you do
I think thats the best description.
Role separation is indeed a better strategy:
>> parents don't compete, and thus don't casue unnecessary conflicts
>> family is more efficient, with clear cut borders of responsibility and decision-making superior
>> it teaches kids both the personal and professional ethic from the start
the relationship is MOST valuable if each person knows where the other needs them to be without them every having to ask
ok what is the vampire smoking?
Equality only matters in specific areas, it is not needed literally everywhere
cause when shit gets tough, the first thing that goes is communication
And there are things he can do for me she cant. And thats true the other wya around as well.
A gynecologist is not obliged to screen for prostate cancer, yaknow
There are reasons to have inequalities that matter
My current struggle is opening up more with my parents, and because I spend less time with my dad, I feel more comfortable opening up to him... Idk why.
exactly, i don't think alot of women realize how overbearing they can be and that men have weaknesses just like they do BUT men can't advertise them like they can
Maybe because I know he wont push me too far
that comes with learning when they are young
from watching THEIR dad
I know that if I open up to him he'll respect my comfort zone, where as my mom tends to prod and poke a bit more
one person needs to walk away and the other needs to chase them
sometimes, you need the person to walk away.. other times you need to be chased
Kids need structure
@Xaverius True Romanian Kush, of the highest quality
"Sometimes a person walks away because they want to be left alone. Other times, a person walks away because he wants to know if you CARE enought to follow him through hell"
And parents that are equal in every aspect is the opposite of structure