Family and work just don't mix

wise choice, jack

Kids need to see your best as an example, not necessarily your fawed self

money and family don't mix

A bit of acting can go a long way in raising well adjusted kids

anything at the interection that you might both want makes conflict more likely

it's why marraige as equals is less successsful than as seperate roles

less to trip over each other

less overlap

Though I would not really call that acting, it's just being nice enough to not burden another with your own self

My parents just do things so well together, I dont think I'd have it any other way. The main difference between great friends and great partners is that friends work better with a bit of distance. @ManAnimal

My parents probably have given me way too much freedom to compensate for how their childhood was

Turned me lazy but that's my own fault

it's being fair; and not trusting everyone to the same extend which acknowledgs the indiividual differences

Partners work best always together, or at least together most of the time. Friends work best if they have some time apsrt.

very true

Parntners vs Team-Mates

a 'Partner' can do each other's jobs BUT has to ask for permission and negoitate everything

a team-mate can't do the job of the other player

so it's easier to accept the shortcomings because.. you can't do what they do

and they can't do what you do

I think thats the best description.

Role separation is indeed a better strategy:
>> parents don't compete, and thus don't casue unnecessary conflicts
>> family is more efficient, with clear cut borders of responsibility and decision-making superior
>> it teaches kids both the personal and professional ethic from the start

My mother cant have the same heart to heart with me in the way my dad can

the relationship is MOST valuable if each person knows where the other needs them to be without them every having to ask

ok what is the vampire smoking?

Equality only matters in specific areas, it is not needed literally everywhere

cause when shit gets tough, the first thing that goes is communication

And there are things he can do for me she cant. And thats true the other wya around as well.

A gynecologist is not obliged to screen for prostate cancer, yaknow

There are reasons to have inequalities that matter

My current struggle is opening up more with my parents, and because I spend less time with my dad, I feel more comfortable opening up to him... Idk why.

exactly, i don't think alot of women realize how overbearing they can be and that men have weaknesses just like they do BUT men can't advertise them like they can

Maybe because I know he wont push me too far

that comes with learning when they are young

from watching THEIR dad

I know that if I open up to him he'll respect my comfort zone, where as my mom tends to prod and poke a bit more

one person needs to walk away and the other needs to chase them