If you stay together for the active sake of valuating such relationships and keeping the family together, then that's good, even if you have major problems

A couple months ago we went together, the three of us, to buy some construction material in a market thingy somewhere in town I'd never went to. The ammount of fun we had just running that errand was unbelievable. @ManAnimal

It is kinda similar how people separate job and personal

well, if the woman gets to say 'yes' that consequence is she doesn't get to just leave cause she feels like it

there are three spheres that should not be merged: family, personal and official

sounds like fun.... i know that feeling too... when parents get along it makes things better

When they are resonably separatedly acted out the person is healthy and happy

exactly uksio

Idk if I'd have it any other way

different rules for different spheres of influence

This is why I refuse to work for my mum

Family and work just don't mix

wise choice, jack

Kids need to see your best as an example, not necessarily your fawed self

money and family don't mix

A bit of acting can go a long way in raising well adjusted kids

anything at the interection that you might both want makes conflict more likely

it's why marraige as equals is less successsful than as seperate roles

less to trip over each other

less overlap

Though I would not really call that acting, it's just being nice enough to not burden another with your own self

My parents just do things so well together, I dont think I'd have it any other way. The main difference between great friends and great partners is that friends work better with a bit of distance. @ManAnimal

My parents probably have given me way too much freedom to compensate for how their childhood was

Turned me lazy but that's my own fault

it's being fair; and not trusting everyone to the same extend which acknowledgs the indiividual differences

Partners work best always together, or at least together most of the time. Friends work best if they have some time apsrt.

very true

Parntners vs Team-Mates

a 'Partner' can do each other's jobs BUT has to ask for permission and negoitate everything

a team-mate can't do the job of the other player

so it's easier to accept the shortcomings because.. you can't do what they do

and they can't do what you do

I think thats the best description.

Role separation is indeed a better strategy:
>> parents don't compete, and thus don't casue unnecessary conflicts
>> family is more efficient, with clear cut borders of responsibility and decision-making superior
>> it teaches kids both the personal and professional ethic from the start

My mother cant have the same heart to heart with me in the way my dad can

the relationship is MOST valuable if each person knows where the other needs them to be without them every having to ask

ok what is the vampire smoking?