@Szayel's Pooppion - Taking a first step is difficult, but you moving forward is a good indicator that you are ready for growth. Treat every day as a chance to improve yourself and soon you'll be seeing results. 😃

@PastPresentFuture - You're a Chad, Tim.

@noobpocket you’re more Chad hank

😎

@noobpocket Thanks, bro!

I've been improving myself by going to work every day, drinking a lot of water, and improving my fitness. I'm going to be getting a gym membership here soon, but I'm going to need transportation to do that. But I still have weights at my house, and my back yard is a field, so I can easily do some cardio, lift, and everything here.. So this weekend I'll be starting that.

But more importantly, I'm focused on my goals, which are continuing to discipline myself. Being a man to me means doing things that are difficult, or sometimes doing things you don't want to do. A well-rounded person can handle many different situations. I want to be a person like that.

I’m proud of you hank. #nofear

Thanks, brother! You, too.

Next time I go to the grocery store I'll be getting some stuff to do meal prep. That's going to be part of my financial discipline as well.

Part of this probably belongs to <#464144378936688655>, but I guess it's okay because it's relevant to the conversation. Practicing discipline is the thing I've noticed is the most important part to accomplishing your goals.

You are what you do everyday

Everyday

@noobpocket ty sir 💁🏻‍♀️ I truly feel that way too; ready for more growth and able to take on each day as it happens. Lately I’ve been no longer thinking too far ahead & letting the fears and anxieties get to me. Gotta let each day reveal itself.

I spoke with my Stepdad last night. He said to me that alot of men don't like women with overbearing personalities. I told him that I got it from my Mom and he disagreed.

what made him say you are?

@Szayel's Pooppion We this was the discussion that lead to forgiveness with him. He was giving me some advice on how a woman should treat a man. He said many of my boyfriends would talk to him and say that I am overbearing. He would tell them that if I am what they are looking for, give it time but also declare that he is a man.

I don't think it is my personality. It is my charisma that can be smooth or sharp.

If someone messes with me or had gotten me aggravated, I can come off pretty standoffish. I don't intend to be mean but try to have a meaningful argument. But I see what he means. I used to get hurt alot by these beta males: physical abuse, manipulated, etc. So I thought having a stiffer voice and a backbone would protect me.

I guess that is why I would do fine in the military and I guess that is why I preferred to not hang out with other people. I got a friend frustrated at me because I told him what the role of a father should be and he disagreed.

So I just need to take it easy and listen alot more and stop getting so defensive.

Hmm I wonder if that makes me overbearing as well?

I just don't see that actually fitting the definition, you just sound either assertive, or assertive boardering aggressive

I'm assertive myself, so I've had plenty of rl or online situations where people thought I was being aggressive, saying something too sternly, cold, angry or upset. It rarely ever is the case though

Being assertive can deff cost you friends at times as well.

Men that can't overpower a woman's assertiveness is a beta male. lol So I'd say not to worry

Like come on, truly assertive or aggressive men shouldn't have too much problems taming an assertive woman

HAHA

I like the last line

Are yall both single?

or married?

Single

@csquare

@Szayel's Pooppion I have been tame most of my life until I was getting screwed over. I had to learn to be defensive for my sake. And all of this happened before coming to Christ.

Now coming to this realization and asking for forgiveness, I see now that my sharpness is really anger. I hope that I will be able to overcome that.

Yes I know what you mean there. Before I woke up I was an angry girl, being defensive was also how I had to learn to live

After being woke I saw where I had to draw the line. For instance now that I'm christian I try my hardest not to lose my temper with people anymore like when I was young. It's all about self improvement now & unlearning the things we had to unfortunately learn in our environments

Agreed.

That said we can't undo everything in our conditioning. I'll always be assertive and stand up for what's right. But at least now that's more polished so that I'm not just coming off as only being aggressive

@csquare In a relationship

he's an alpha