Message from @Szayel's Pooppion
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what made him say you are?
@Szayel's Pooppion We this was the discussion that lead to forgiveness with him. He was giving me some advice on how a woman should treat a man. He said many of my boyfriends would talk to him and say that I am overbearing. He would tell them that if I am what they are looking for, give it time but also declare that he is a man.
I don't think it is my personality. It is my charisma that can be smooth or sharp.
If someone messes with me or had gotten me aggravated, I can come off pretty standoffish. I don't intend to be mean but try to have a meaningful argument. But I see what he means. I used to get hurt alot by these beta males: physical abuse, manipulated, etc. So I thought having a stiffer voice and a backbone would protect me.
I guess that is why I would do fine in the military and I guess that is why I preferred to not hang out with other people. I got a friend frustrated at me because I told him what the role of a father should be and he disagreed.
So I just need to take it easy and listen alot more and stop getting so defensive.
Hmm I wonder if that makes me overbearing as well?
I just don't see that actually fitting the definition, you just sound either assertive, or assertive boardering aggressive
I'm assertive myself, so I've had plenty of rl or online situations where people thought I was being aggressive, saying something too sternly, cold, angry or upset. It rarely ever is the case though
Being assertive can deff cost you friends at times as well.
Men that can't overpower a woman's assertiveness is a beta male. lol So I'd say not to worry
Like come on, truly assertive or aggressive men shouldn't have too much problems taming an assertive woman
HAHA
I like the last line
Are yall both single?
or married?
Single
@Szayel's Pooppion I have been tame most of my life until I was getting screwed over. I had to learn to be defensive for my sake. And all of this happened before coming to Christ.
Now coming to this realization and asking for forgiveness, I see now that my sharpness is really anger. I hope that I will be able to overcome that.
Yes I know what you mean there. Before I woke up I was an angry girl, being defensive was also how I had to learn to live
After being woke I saw where I had to draw the line. For instance now that I'm christian I try my hardest not to lose my temper with people anymore like when I was young. It's all about self improvement now & unlearning the things we had to unfortunately learn in our environments
Agreed.
That said we can't undo everything in our conditioning. I'll always be assertive and stand up for what's right. But at least now that's more polished so that I'm not just coming off as only being aggressive
@csquare In a relationship
he's an alpha
I can deff vouch that his assertiveness makes my assertiveness look tiny.
@Szayel's Pooppion That's good. Is he a Christian?
yep (:
I think meeting him helped guide me to the true faith as well
sorry ppl keep walking up to me and talking IRL, I was wondering : when one is in an argument with an assertive woman - why do they always say LET ME TALK
@csquare Simply put: defensive behavior.
My wife doesnt do that. Just the ones before her
Think of a bull. When it sees red, it goes crazy. It will keep charging until it doesn't see anymore red regardless of the environment.
Oh ya, is that what you mean by assertive or is that something else?
I don't think I do that tbh lol
hha that is what I am asking poop
Well you have a good, submissive, Godly woman.
Like assertive is different than just aggressive
so I don't mean to confuse that
ya she good gal