@Rick when you say compromise your principals, are you taking about any specific principals? Or morals and values in general

@Pat-MA I guess I compromised all around. I was not as selective as I should have been. My standards were too low. I settled. I have learned that you are better off being alone than with someone you aren't compatible with or head over heels in love with. It makes you feel trapped. No matter how anguishing loneliness is, being stuck in a relationship with someone you aren't happy with is worse. Curing loneliness is much easier than getting out of a bad relationship.

^^^ literally my situation for the past 5 years

Just ended it yesterday

I feel liberated

Glad to hear that. Not sure how to tag you.

Yeah, fix your name Pinoche Ball @𝖕 𝖎 𝖓 𝖔 𝖈 𝖍 𝖊 𝖙 𝖇 𝖆 𝖑 𝖑#2036

And how do you know if you should stay or leave?

@Pinochetball ^^^

Cant the mods fix my name independently in each server? If i change it doesnt it change it in every server?

It can't be read on phones because of the font

Im on a phone lol

all we see is boxes with questionmarks in them

Ill change it

Thats lame af

My phone displays it fine. Man... ghey

K gimme a min

Better?

No change?

Legible

Cool

Why has nobody else told me lmao

Its been like that for like two weeks 😂

@Pinochetball I think @Rick alluded to it

he wasn't sure how to tag you

probably whoever let you in the server has the same phone as you

Well in all the other servers im in nobody said anything other than "hey did you change your name?"

Oh well

@Pat-MA how do you know if you should leave? Ask yourself if you want to have kids with her. If not, bail.

@Pat-MA basically this. If you've been together so many years you have to figure out what you want for both of your sakes, and as @Deleted User said the natural objective of a relationship is the family

Good takes, goys.

Gf can’t understand why I don’t like it when she drinks and smokes marijuana. I have no problem if she has a drink or two at brunch, mostly the smoking I don’t like. When I give her a hard time she thinks I am trying to change who she is. Anyone else ever deal with this?

Yeah, I don't have a moral problem with weed per say, but habitual use does make you retarded. Smoking in general is unhygienic, a big turn off when females do it.

Maybe I’m being too rigid...

She has toned it down a lot since meeting me

I wouldn't say you are trying to change who she is, smoking is a superficial thing, and superficial things aren't part of a person's core attributes.

Exactly. She doesn’t want to hear it though

Idk man, if she seems to make an effort about toning it down for you that's good though.

I used to date some people who smoked weed. I know people who smoke once a month and some once a day. One of the most degenerate things I have ever heard was my buddy in college would smoke with his mom and his dad would buy drugs off his friends. I'm not saying that is where things are headed, but the older you get, the less it should be used and there should be a drop off point

Fortunately, that is the direction its going

Weed culture is arguably worse than weed itself