Message from @Evan Thomas
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I feel like stability - that is, the mitigation of daily chaos - is trickier for younger people since younger people’s live tend to be in constant transition. High school to college or military, job changes, constant moving around, and the emotional turmoil that goes along with dating and changing mates and friends.
Having life stability is what allows you to establish the second foundation, which is routine. Routine is what allows you to practice and perfect what you want to be good at. I feel like athletes have the best grasp of routine - they know that they have to constantly focus and refocus in mitigating life chaos, and routine is what allows them to do that.
So, stability and routine ftw.
Would stability roughly equate to 'knowing what is going to occur in your day before it starts'?
Yes, though that may be more the routine part. Stability is more big picture., e.g. knowing that you’re going to be in one place, one job, one emotional state for a predictable period of time. That allows you to generally know what likely to occur in your day to day life which is what let’s you establish routine I feel like.
So stability is more of a macro-level concept and routine more micro-level.
Yeah I think that’s a great way of putting it.
One recommendation for success is using a to-do list/reminders app. I use the iOS built-in Reminders app; there may be a better one. Absolutely any time I conceive of some task I need to perform in the future -- whether later that night, later that week, in the distant future, or in the indefinite future -- I make a reminder, including any notes for specific practical advice I want to give to my future self, according to how far in the future it might be. Then that bane of productivity, where tasks 'fall through the cracks', becomes impossible.
This doesn't explain the best way to go about one's to-do list (e.g. distinguishing between high- and low-priority tasks, or separating a particular time of day to perform certain tasks in isolation from communication channels), but it ensures that one's to-do list is complete.
Sometimes it's tempting not to make a reminder, because hey, I can easily remember to do X in a few hours, right? But oftentimes Y, Z, and other tasks-to-do also arise, putting a strain on your memory and possibly leading to some anxiety as you try to keep them all in your mind by not focusing on other activities on which you should be wholly focused. But if you make a reminder, then the worst-case scenario is you wasted 30 seconds up front by creating a reminder for something you already remembered to do.
Lastly, sometimes I'll make a reminder for a task that I recall sans reminder -- but the only reason I even remember the task is because I went through the effort of making the reminder in the first place. So the actual act of creating the reminders aids our memory in this limited respect as well.
I do this too. I keep a general calendar which not only includes work tasks and family tasks, but also hobbies and academic pursuits. @Brandon Ironside- ND and I have talked quite a bit about this. We call it having goaltism.
@Evan Thomas I really liked the part in the video where he says to think about or write down everything you are thankful for. I need to do that
There's a youtuber I follow named Grahm Stephan, I may be spelling that wrong. Anyhow, he does finance videos about buying houses and if that's somthing anyone is interested in I'll post a link below
@Zyzz Writing down anything that's important to you is vital. Especially goals. What gets measured gets done. If a goal isn't written down with a deadline attached, it's not a goal; it's just a wish or an idea that you will likely never achieve.
Out of all of the factors necessary for success, continued focus and action on clear goals is the most critical of all.
More on goals...
Let me get uhhh, one order of direction in life, and a side of uhhh, possible outlets and resources to achieve a sense of what I want to do.
Hahaha
I graduated high school in June and then I went to Germany to see my girlfriend for a couple months (No, I met her IRL and have been with her IRL, not E-dating) and I've come back to my parents telling me I need a plan by November or else I am getting kicked out of the house.
So yea
Ever consider the military?
Don’t say anything about muh zog either lol
I haven't
I just don't think that would be for me
My dad went into the Air Force before I was born so he could get his college paid for.
I mean
I've thought about it
And given the time frame I have of being able to like start a family and live with my gf, it would make sense.
A military - like option, that teaches you skills, keeps you in shape, makes you a badass AND helps your community is Wildland firefighting.
And there's never been a large scale Forest Service deployment to Israel, as far as I know. lol
I am submitting an application to a welding school right now, but I am not entirely sure that is what I want tbh. I'm good at it, but it costs money that I don't have and I am not sure I'd be alright with doing that for the rest of my life.
That sounds pretty rad actually