yea no joke what in the world

I think the answer is pretty clear.

hi i just wrote a book about why this sucks.......PS im still with him?

Exactly.

Now, I am a person with mental issues that I'm trying to work through but the guy is not only damaged but also not willing to change for the better

Also, as for the thing about overstepping your physical boundaries

You know his viewpoints. He hasn't given you any indication those viewpoints have changed.

you know better people are out there

go seek

that can be a sign of a malicious sociopath or even a narcissist

So yeah, jsut RUN

Way better people, at the very least people who will respect your physical boundaries.

But he changed, he got involved into ExRedPill groups, he recognises the fact that TRP is terrible and he's trying to spread that too. But it doesn't take away what he did

You should have said so

You left that part out

I said it in the end

Does he still disrespect your physical boundaries?

Now, he discovered how toxic TRP is, he’s totally against it and he’s trying to make a change "

No he doesn't

oh sorry I may have missed it

No worries

But that's the tricky part

Can you forgive someone who had been like that ?

has

I don't think we can help you with that

You're the one in the relationship that is up to you

That is entirely up to you

I have my own list of things that would be forgiveable and unforgiveable

If I were you I'd give him jsut one chance, but only one.

that choice is yours but you sure did make a long list of very negatives

enough for any normal person to hit the bricks

sane normal people are just around the corner

and you don't have all that baggage lurking

clean fresh start

for BOTH of you

Yup.

You don't believe that a relationship can grow stronger from forgiveness from those kind of baggage ? You think it's something that can ruin it forever ?

Sorry for my bad English by the way

As I said, it's difficult to say

getting started on the right foot is just around the corner

i'd rather build a future on solid ground