One day, he got mad at me and told me : “ You’re not normal, why don’t you ever want to do anything fun with me ?”. There, I exploded. I started crying and explaining that I got raped a few years ago ( no not the average “ I got raped at a college party at least I think so”). He looked compassionate and I told him to keep it secret. And guess what, not only did he continue to grab me everywhere and pressure me (and it felt like a terrible humiliation), I also discovered than some of our friends knew about it, that he let a friend compare me to a “damage good”, he also wrote about it on TRP (I discovered it months later). People told him that he was my emotional sponge, that girls always apply last minute resistance because they don’t want to feel like sluts (if you go down this road and you force, it’s called a rape btw), and that every girl has a “stupid rape story”. That was just one story, but I have several like that in which my boyfriend said terrible things and acted terribly. But this one really hurted me . Now, he discovered how toxic TRP is, he’s totally against it and he’s trying to make a change but I am not sure it will erase all the things he did since I have been hurt by all his Red Pill mistakes for one year and a half while I tried to be the sweetest woman for him. So guys, please stay far away from TRP, it has the power to screw up your entire life and beautiful relationships.

Okay, that's quite a text dump gimme a sec to read xD

No problem, btw if anyone has an advice on the situation I am living ( I'm still with him). It would be gladly accepted 😃

I have one word of advice

RUN.

So...You're still living with a guy who humiliated you and won't take you seriously.

yea no joke what in the world

I think the answer is pretty clear.

hi i just wrote a book about why this sucks.......PS im still with him?

Exactly.

Now, I am a person with mental issues that I'm trying to work through but the guy is not only damaged but also not willing to change for the better

Also, as for the thing about overstepping your physical boundaries

You know his viewpoints. He hasn't given you any indication those viewpoints have changed.

you know better people are out there

go seek

that can be a sign of a malicious sociopath or even a narcissist

So yeah, jsut RUN

Way better people, at the very least people who will respect your physical boundaries.

But he changed, he got involved into ExRedPill groups, he recognises the fact that TRP is terrible and he's trying to spread that too. But it doesn't take away what he did

You should have said so

You left that part out

I said it in the end

Does he still disrespect your physical boundaries?

Now, he discovered how toxic TRP is, he’s totally against it and he’s trying to make a change "

No he doesn't

oh sorry I may have missed it

No worries

But that's the tricky part

Can you forgive someone who had been like that ?

has

I don't think we can help you with that

You're the one in the relationship that is up to you

That is entirely up to you

I have my own list of things that would be forgiveable and unforgiveable

If I were you I'd give him jsut one chance, but only one.

that choice is yours but you sure did make a long list of very negatives

enough for any normal person to hit the bricks

sane normal people are just around the corner

and you don't have all that baggage lurking

clean fresh start

for BOTH of you