lets assume theres a gender from rejecting both urges

then there must also be one to embrace both

its polar opposite

so Omnigendered

and if you have taht, why not a Hexamale-Quadrofem gender where you're 60% male and 40% female?

Except it’s fundamentally impossible to take on both the traditional roles of men & women in any given society

yes there is actually, its called the nanystate

where you both provide and nurture the people 😛

Why do you think single parent households are universally worse than 2 parent ones

Because a single person can’t possibly fill both roles at once

they can actually, those households are usually worse because the parents DON'T fill both roles, and don't have the time to either

Work at home dads are a thing.

Can work and watch the kids.

raisign a child is a full time job, so either be a parent 100% and have no work/other stuff to do

or divide it taht one works and is a parent 50%, and the other cleans/etc and parents 50%

The nannystate would mean the person working has taken on the traditional male role, and the nanny has taken on the traditional female role.

yes and a nannystate fulfills both

its a strongarm taht provides, and nurtures

Yes but the single parent isn’t fulfilling both roles, someone else is filling the female role, they just happen to pay that person instead of marry them

its still the same influence

but if we go back, you said you base gender on social views

and that means you consider gender a social construct, like those people that think gender is a spectrum

Who’s raising & nurturing the child, the working parent or the nanny?

as i said, if a parent doesn't need to work and clean, they can literally be both

So someone else is taking over the traditional roles of the female

the issue is a lack of time

Hence parenting works best as a couple, one works to provide, and the other settles the home front, and you both divide the child-time

no, i said that a 100% parent can do both

cleaning isn't a traditional female role

It may not be anymore, but it sure as hell was 60 years ago

also wrong

its nurturing that is the female role

and yes, living in a clean household is better

hence we do it

and the reason it was the female job 60 years ago

is because the men would be working all day

so they'd either have to clean after

Or the woman does it whilst the man works for provisions

The traditional American female role as always been the homekeeper. This was everything from child raising, to household chores such as laundry, cooking, & cleaning

for the reasons i said above

Being a home keeper was a full time job before modern technology

waht if you're a millionaire, or a lord?

The lady of the house didn't clean either

Now work isn’t always manual labour that requires you to be outside the house so men can also have more time to clean or raise kids.

you'd have workers do it