Is your lawyer knowledgable in the UCMJ?

Sorry if I get riled. I hope there's a special place in hell for those who screw over men and women of our armed forces

When I was in Fort Sheridan, which was housing off post, although some was sold off as civilian territory, we were held to post standards when the towers were hit. MP rovers, curfew, etc...

ten point vehicle inspections, dogs, the works.

So even if you're off post, they may have jurisdiction, which favors you

Yes, but read that book

After reading it, I went from a hyper energetic puppy full of hopes and dreams...

to a focused pit full of piss and vinegar

highly recommend it

Good luck. You won't need it with enough preparation, but good luck regardless, amigo

Excellent archive channel. the MENy Calculations link should definitely go, as well as https://law.justia.com/codes/georgia/2017/title-16/chapter-11/article-3/part-1/section-16-11-62/ . I don't have posting permissions in that channel

Nice

It's a good channel. I'm glad its there

This is a good group.

Good catch, Bro

*sigh* might as well...

p!pick Fennekin

p!info

p!catch petilil

Day One, Hour One: caught Pokemon 3 levels higher than one I started with. Good times

Are there any specific angles, issues or controversies you are paying attention to particularly, @RollingArt23 ??

@Night Terror I felt the same way, so I'm more than glad to share. I reflected on this in a Reddit post reply where I said: "I think many of us have an idea of what is in store, and how to prepare. I fear most of us are gravely mistaken. Maybe that is reflected in the statistics more so than having two chromosomes?"

Better, and proper, preparation is key. Knowing when and how to lawyer up is key. Preparation, Execution. From there, it's a matter of presenting the best case properly to the courts.

You are not alone, my friend.

My Amazon account wouldn't let me leave a review for the book. I request you do if you are able. I'm so very glad it helped!

I drank about 15 cups of coffee a day, with 16 packets of sugar in each. I used to have 2,000 calories of JUST sugar sometimes. For some, it's soda; for some, it's gaming; for some, it's porn. You know who you are. If there is something taking up too much of your time, attention, money, peace of mind, joy...you'll know it because you'll hear yourself say sentences that begin with "I wish."
The recommendation I make is to recognize what makes you "worse," and how you could be if that were completely replaced with its opposite. You now have a spectrum: the complete obliteration of your life by one thing, and the complete retribution of your life by the other extreme. Visuals help. Draw it, write it! Make a scatterplot or a gif or an oragami dragon - you know you better than I.
Now, infuse one side with the other. I now MUST drink 2 full 24 oz cups of water before I can have my first cup of coffee. I MUST tell a coworker how many packets of sugar I used. Then, I added more water and detracted more sugar. Months. Addictions aren't overnight. It takes 21 days to rewrite a habit with another, and another week before it begins to firmly take hold, and your body and mind will fight you. Start small, but START. Be accountable. BE PROUD OF YOUR PROGRESS!
I now drink no more than 4 cups of coffee a day, and none past 6PM. I use 6 packets of sugar. I've also cut down on my gaming. I'm using these tried and proven skills to work other areas of my life. Be better men, brothers.

Hola, Rich. Welcome.

First off, decaf is a swear word in my culture.

lol j/k Secondly, gaming addiction in this day and age is multisymptomatic. When we want to play, there comes a line. A percentage of resources it should comsume. Money, time, and physical activity are the biggest concerns - one should dedicate a certain amount of time to being an adult, and then set himself up for more in the future. One might not be able to exercise, but should maintain a degree of health with diet and activity. $300 a week will be spent whether it be in a Free to Play game or anything with in-game purchases, or subscriptions - in other words, if you need to spend money, the addiction will find a way to siphon it. One should find investments, savings, or at least set a goal for future purchases.

Gaming can be profitable in this day and age. Spend time researching that, or wanting to get the right equipment. But if it's an addiction, treat it like it is trying to kill you. Becaus eit is.

See, your situation calls for something close and distracty, so it's acceptable to have such dedicated distractions. It's a matter of drawing a line with resources: time , money, and physicality.

We wouldn't be opposed. It's like a man respecting women's rights in a civil way. There's room for all forms and sources of good.

Halleluijah! Tell us about your experience @RandyLahey !

@Night Terror that might be more <#520987662572584961> related, fyi. Doesn't bother me that it's here, so just saying.

In GA (which should help you, too) Alimony is tax deductble, but child support is not, which is why you see amicalbe divorced settled by the parties to "favor" alimony

In GA (which should help you, too) Alimony is tax deductble, but child support is not, which is why you see amicalbe divorced settled by the parties to "favor" alimony

Since they receive it tax-free (custodial support)

https://www.hrblock.com/tax-center/income/other-income/alimony-and-child-support/

You need to qualify for it, though. Check the link

Then we are glad to have you

Good is not partial. Humanity includes all humans.

lol

GA is an at-fault state, so she is not entitled to Alimony if it was decided as Adultery, but was the verdict Adultery or Irreparable differences?

I believe so, @InsaneCaterpilla

@dabezt I can understand about the eruption. Even as we neared divorce, my wife and I tried to talk about serious things. When things were surface, we were cool, calm and collected. When something serious emerged, try as we might, it would become an argument

Even good people can't help how they feel. Emotion is a multiplicative force, love being the strongest. With many conflicting thoughts and feelings coming through, it was probably tough for them to stay settled.

I still love my wife, despite the adultery, and despite the ghastly treatment.

When I see her, I must compose myself because my love for her creates fantasies and illusions - references to good times in the past my brain doesn't want to let go of - and deal with her as the person she is before me.

Divorce is business. Unfortunately, it's in the feeling business.

Absolutely. Men feel that reporting is weakness, but bottling the disrespect and treatment can cause long lasting damage to the relationship and of course the man himself

Resentment, trust issues, self-worth

You can definitely feel if they are hungry, though. I've had multiple consults and I appreciate a lawyer shooting straight with my expectations, but I haven't found one that has heard my side and responded like they were as energetic and emotional as I am. So I'm going to keep looking.

I'm willing to go into debt if it increases my chances to get what's best for my children, but I need to be committed, and so does the attorney.

One thing, though, word of mouth should be regarded as strongly as web reviews.

Agreed @InsaneCaterpilla

FYI, there's a Divorce sub debating a chat room at:
https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/aa4vyh/will_a_chat_room_for_this_sub_be_useful/
I may form a comment sharing about this place.

I think letting people be aware that there are such possible consequences are possible makes people keep themselves in check. We are less of a come-chill-and-jerk-about and more focused and dedicated to advancement. If something is worthy of consideration for a ban, there can be no argument that it was never spoken of in advance.

Right. Something can be bad enough to get kicked. We have a tighter sense of what kind of talk is acceptable.

It does preamble that we do allow free speech and heated debate. This is the place for that, from different respects and paradigms.

I posted something with a link, and I might message the mods later

Seems like I missed something...

nope

Although I can imagine quite much from the title, I suppose

Feminism in general is humanism, concentrating on the subsection of women rising. It has a place, imho. When it begins to assume inherit evil in men (or certain types of women), that's when they hold no more water. Evil takes many forms, and we live in a world infested with evil...and some of that evil is very intelligent and deceitful.

@Indigo I normally try to present arguments and see the other's side, but your opening indicates you have no capacity for either. When you can't even agree on terminology and definitions, there is a problem, because such concepts are outside of you. You can't write the rules of a word to match your whim. Humanism is the general application of advancing the human race. It's wide and open. To say that specifically fighting for one aspect of humanism (female humans or male humans) does not fit under that umbrella is worrisome.

Always good thing.

Oh I love the debate of the application of feminism and humanism versus practice versus theory...it's just when he said "Feminism is not humanism, men's rights is not humanism. Humanism is humanism." That shows a distinct lack of word awareness that is difficult/impossible to debate with.

It concerns me that his definition is so limited that the practice of humanism does not count as humanism

Foundational definitions for an argument are important, imo

The understanding that there is a giant umbrella of human advancement, and that it can be broken down into subsections, is integral to humanism. At any given time in our history, we've gone through phases of advancement for Colonial Right, then Slavery/Freeman's Rights, then Soldier Rights, then Female Rights. The spotlight goes further back than that, and it will go further than that in our future. Thing is, there will always be one umbrella: Humanism. To spite a group denies that in theory, it is a human group, advancing human rights. Now, in PRACTICE, some take up arms with the concept in a damaging fashion. Corruption of humanism is rampant. We cannot forget that at the core, advancing human rights is good thing, even in small section, despite the perversions we see on the surface sometimes

If we could quantify rights, and women feel they could go higher, and they use what they perceive "Men's Rights" as a benchmark, then they are still, mathematically, advancing women, which is, overall, advancing humanity

It's more than semantics. We're all on the same team, just fighting different battles for the same war. We need to correctly identify allies

Corrupted humanism is not humanism, but Women's Rights, or Men's Rights, or Rights of those in Sex Work, or Rights of those going Hungry...those are all viable fights.

Anyone can pervert those fights for gain

It's not that I don't understand your position. It's that you limit your potential and growth for any cause if you compare it to others. If you understand that more rights for women is more rights for humans, then you can be more at peace. If you feel that rights are like pie and in order for them to have more, we must have less, then you must view us as hoarders, deliberately holding others back from succeeding. Is that humanism?

Everyone should have all rape rights (protection from, and prosecution of). To say women need more than men is wrong. To say women need more is fine. To say men don't need it (or even need it as much to the degree of women) is wrong. To say that, by numbers, women need it more often, could be statistically correct (Could).

Right. The victim should not be the focus. The crime and the criminal should

Again, you can't lump in the corrupt with those fighting the good fight.

Indirectly, but provable

Obviously, to pass it through congress, the presentation would have to change, but again: Provable. #maths

Damn. Good night, bro. Keep fighting the good fight

Morning, all

It's tough, but there's hope

If I'm lucky

...

I will have a place this weekend, like an apartment

ending a month of homelessnesses

I've got a plan, with phases. Phase One: Place & Car (hopefully a place big enough that my girls can come and stay)

Phase Two: fight the Eavesdropping case

Phase Three: Continue Divorce

When I get a place, it'll be all my money, so I'll have trouble putting stuff in it. If y'all got Xmas gifts you're thinking of discarding, DON'T! Trust me, I'll take it

lol not near Georgia by any chance? Once I get a car, I'll be out there to get it!

I kid, I'm just happy to have friends, you know? A few months from now my whole situation will be different, and I look forward to that

You guys are great. I am making it, albeit barely, but years from now when my kids are old enough to understand, I can say that every step I took was to do right, despite their mother cheating, lying and stealing from me.

I want to prove by example that I am led by the Lord. I know I am against formidable odds, but
Romans 8:31 If He is for me, who can stand against me
Philippians 4:13 I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.

I think the Divorce sect of the MRM needs to be aimed at higher level courts once there's enough support (petitioners) and a knowledgeable vanguard (lawyer)

Basically.

Hola

My man Indigo, your passion is bright, but you come in guns-a-blazing, and it will hurt you more than help you in most cases, so I'm glad you asked for definitions. Add your own for the term "toxic" in reference to -ininities.

I would not contest that society still views that men are to be the more dominant, but the definition of proper domination is changing, and the inequality is beginning to fade. This will be a totally different discussion in 20 years.

Proper meaning actionable. Work/pay bills/make financial decisions/decide where family lives - currently still expected of men moreso than women

Improper - denying the ability to use the car or phone, mandating basic human needs like what to eat or wear - is legally actionable