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a guy friend-ish said that she was on her period this week and i should ignore it all

A period doesn't excuse you of that behaviour. Yes, for some girls it can make them cranky, and be pretty damn painful, but that doesn't excuse threatening to harm or rape someone

he also said that the sex thing was a joke and i shouldnt get offended and that boys cant be raped as i would like it anyways

i called him out on him saying that

Whether that was meant to be a joke idk, but it's in poor taste and he's wrong on the latter part

a girl next to him bitched him out

he also said that males cant have mental trama and there was a verbal war zone

Sounds fun

But yea... If she's gonna continue to make you feel uncomfortable mate, and don't seem able to distance yourself or make her stop by simply telling her, a teacher is definitely the way to go (if it keeps going after that then oof, but it's the next step). I hope it stops so you can be at peace in your learning environment

@InsaneCaterpilla sorry, i was getting my mom her drinks and getting myself a pie so i was afk

ehhh, she gets yelled at my staff nearly daily idk if i need to add

I'm sure she does but not about the things she's said to you. Someone needs to make her understand that what she's doing isn't acceptable, and the person to do that is an adult

today it took this
Teacher: what rhymes with shrimp
her: pimp
Teacher: dont say that, why do you do this so often
her: the SPED told me to say it so you should yell at him (says *jackass* under breath and teacher hears)
she gets sent to office

i felt like i was the only one in the room who know what the word means as there were alot of confused people

(SPED is a slur agianst sepcial education people btw)

Well the way you describe her it's possible she could get expelled on her own. But beyond talking to a teacher, what other action do you think you should take rn?

Is SPED the name of the help students receive when they are deemed to need extra because of learning difficulties

yea it is.

its note worthy thay the teachers may see this stuff as she is very loud to me

and once when she made a threat the math teacher (we were in math class) looked at us and we both sit next to the teachers desk

though he zones sometimes

thats why i dont reallly notice or think of that much

Your teachers are (or should be) committed to giving their students a positive learning environment. Clearly she is interfering with that and especially making you uncomfortable you with threats. Trying to get them to take action is the first thing to do. If they don't, or don't seem to doing enough, then that's when it should be taken higher, mate

aside from that, i wonder if teachers have caught her beating students (assuming shes telling the truth about that)

i also wonder if her being new has anything todo with this

If she was transferred from another school she may well have been expelled for exactly this behaviour

in other news,

i wonder how much of a inpact anxiety and crap has had on my childhood

Try not to let it mate is the only thing I can say. There's no way to tell rn

ive also been bullied often sense 3rd grade and havent had many friends until 9th grade (this year)

when i did have friends there all female 99% of the time

though im happy my social skills or whatever, has improved because i like having a friend group, there good people

Having female friends isn't a bad thing, that they are people you get along with is what matters

its difficult to talk to dudes because they have been the issues at school for the most of my life (nearly drving me to suicide in 6th and 7th grade) I dont feel like that anymore

telling someone that was hard to

Girls tend to bully people in different ways, by cutting them off, ignoring them, or looking down on them, sometimes using social media. Guys are more likely to be physically violent

Of course those are just generalities... And in general, high school can be a really crappy place to be

they have said they do it because i hang around girls mostly and have autism and i behave and think to "feminime"

Doesn't matter why they do it mate, doesn't make them not shitty people for doing it. I know that doesn't really help, but you should be free to associate with whoever you want

Good look with everything

She sounds absolutely crazy. Have you asked to be re-seated?

If you want, you could write it up for our next sexual harassment article on www.menarehumam.com

What she is doing is disgusting and very deranged. I hope for your sake she is a liar, but maybe tell the teacher and your parents

Might also be worth varying your walk home and sticking to public areas if you can. Stay safe, alright?

A little late to the party, but she is absolutely crazy. When I heard about the sex stuff I thought she was just flirting with you in a very immature and twisted way, that isn't okay by the way, but by the end of it I have pretty much nothing else remotely nice to say about her. Your guy friend is wrong by the way, being a man doesn't mean you can't be raped or can't suffer trauma. I heard once that a soldier got raped by a pregnant woman who said he'd hurt the baby if he resisted. So yeah, even if you're buff as fuck and can fight back, which not all men are, sometimes the mental shock of the situation or your attacker's manipulation can keep you from resisting

something i'd recommend to everyone is being as healthy as possibly. id personally vouch for paleo/keto/intermittent fasting, but you can just start by cutting out soda, alcohol, candy, junk, too many grains, etc

*possible. damn i make a lot of grammar/syntax errors when i type without noticing

@blueorange22 but rum and ginger beer is okay yeah? xD

I drank about 15 cups of coffee a day, with 16 packets of sugar in each. I used to have 2,000 calories of JUST sugar sometimes. For some, it's soda; for some, it's gaming; for some, it's porn. You know who you are. If there is something taking up too much of your time, attention, money, peace of mind, joy...you'll know it because you'll hear yourself say sentences that begin with "I wish."
The recommendation I make is to recognize what makes you "worse," and how you could be if that were completely replaced with its opposite. You now have a spectrum: the complete obliteration of your life by one thing, and the complete retribution of your life by the other extreme. Visuals help. Draw it, write it! Make a scatterplot or a gif or an oragami dragon - you know you better than I.
Now, infuse one side with the other. I now MUST drink 2 full 24 oz cups of water before I can have my first cup of coffee. I MUST tell a coworker how many packets of sugar I used. Then, I added more water and detracted more sugar. Months. Addictions aren't overnight. It takes 21 days to rewrite a habit with another, and another week before it begins to firmly take hold, and your body and mind will fight you. Start small, but START. Be accountable. BE PROUD OF YOUR PROGRESS!
I now drink no more than 4 cups of coffee a day, and none past 6PM. I use 6 packets of sugar. I've also cut down on my gaming. I'm using these tried and proven skills to work other areas of my life. Be better men, brothers.

I used to just eat whatever I wanted and not care about exercise and stuff. I started really slowly cutting back and building up the exercise I do every day. Lost 30lb and gained a lot of muscle mass. I never did but cutting out fizzy drinks really helps. You can trick yourself with exercise to only doing a tiny bit more each day, and before you know it you are doing a lot so long as you keep it up.

@Dan da Dad That's so much, I kinda thought you were joking at first. I'm glad you are cutting back.

Maybe switch to decaff. You probably won't even notice the change-over.

I know I have problems with gaming addiction, it’s something I will have to deal with in future, escapism is pretty nice when you are living in shit conditions

There was a time where I got really sucked into those “free to play” games and that proved quite detrimental, I won’t touch those anymore

Do you mean the ones that have in game purchases and stuff? I hate those

Yeah, they ruined me for a bit, I was really depressed at the time and that shit was like crack

:<

I can say from experience that those games prey on the vulnerable, I was spending upwards of 300$ a week on those things, barely ever had any money left over

Those really basic gatcha style mobile games

Omg that's so much... I guess it's pretty similar to kids spending their parents money on lootboxes?

Yeah, it was pretty toxic, and I have to watch myself because I get sucked into that kind of stuff very easy

Started avoiding free to play games all together

But then I got Overwatch and spent a fair bit on loot boxes that I didn’t have the money for

Oof... You're ok with warcraft though right?

Yeah, it’s a fixed subscription, so $15 a month, they have some store stuff but a lot of them is just a buy and receive (mounts and pets and stuff)

It’s not perfect but it’s much better at least xD

Also social, since I can chat with my guild where most of those free games I just played alone

Yea definitely better than doing stuff like that... Glad you worked it out ^^

I feel like I can lapse though, very easy, is a constant struggle, lol, like hearthstone I enjoyed but had to stop playing because it was tough, I stopped buying Pokémon cards because I spent way too much on that too, even after I stopped going to the card shop to play on Friday’s, I still sunk my money into it

I know what you mean... I don't drink much now, but when I do I have to really try hard to stop myself from not just going to get more and keep it going the next morning when its gone.

I have a load of pokemon cards, I love collecting them xD but there are way too many to ever get these days

I still like mobile games but I am just very careful about what I get now, like I used to be really into type moon, so fate/GO came out, I dropped $20 on it then deleted it off my phone xD

I like Mario run and monster hunter stories, they are good games, also plague inc because I love Pandemic and it’s based heavily on that

In short I am one of the few people who actually buys mobile games because they are less costing then the free ones, lol

Oo I bought plague Inc expansions with the neurax worm and the zombies, fun ^^

I didn’t get any of the xpacs, I just have the base game but I love it, still play every now and then xD

You should try out pandemic, apparently it is going to get a digital release on the switch with a bunch of other tabletop games

I think I've seen it, might do ^^ would probably definitely get it for the switch though, especially if those tabletops games can be played online

If you ever are willing to drop $20 on a mobile game though I highly recommend Monster Hunter stories, was a 3DS game, full RPG with all the DLC included, it’s very pokemonesque

Ported really surprisingly smoothly to mobile.

Truth be told playing games on mobile has become rather annoying for me, I often dislike the controls

And although I got Google play on my fire HD my normal phone isnt that good

That’s fair

Ow at the free to play games. Just ow.

I never got sucked in, but I played Angry Birds 2 and it was downright evil on the manipulation. Stay well away!

https://youtu.be/4duJdeKTwHY

First off, decaf is a swear word in my culture.

lol j/k Secondly, gaming addiction in this day and age is multisymptomatic. When we want to play, there comes a line. A percentage of resources it should comsume. Money, time, and physical activity are the biggest concerns - one should dedicate a certain amount of time to being an adult, and then set himself up for more in the future. One might not be able to exercise, but should maintain a degree of health with diet and activity. $300 a week will be spent whether it be in a Free to Play game or anything with in-game purchases, or subscriptions - in other words, if you need to spend money, the addiction will find a way to siphon it. One should find investments, savings, or at least set a goal for future purchases.

Gaming can be profitable in this day and age. Spend time researching that, or wanting to get the right equipment. But if it's an addiction, treat it like it is trying to kill you. Becaus eit is.

I still spend a lot of time on games, since I am full time career for my dad, my day consists of mostly just sitting around until he calls for me, I can't really go out in case something happens, it's why going down to the gym isn't easy even though I really do need to do something better for my fitness, so games just work as my best time sink since I can play to kill time and then put them down when I need to help, I play what is probably a very unhealthy amount of hours on games but right now it's the thing that really just stops me from sitting around bored.

See, your situation calls for something close and distracty, so it's acceptable to have such dedicated distractions. It's a matter of drawing a line with resources: time , money, and physicality.

Dude when your a dad you should spend as much time with your son as possible.

I'll second that.

Hey

Hi Bobby

Sorry for being so unstable for the past few days

Nah man it's good

This is what we're here for, to help

The difference between men and women is that most men will try to help each other

I'd like to also presume some women help each other

Yeah from the stories I've read most act like mean girls after high school