Eh, I don't think there are many good justifications for alimony (I do think there are some), but since there are a lot of 1-5 year marriages, having the rule being half limits liability one heck of a lot compared to what it could be

I hope you stay safe, can be dangerous deploying to say, the middle east

@InsaneCaterpilla better than where I am now.

I kinda assumed he wasn't deploying if he needed the clearance

that was perhaps a mistake

All kinds of positions overseas. Could be military police even

@asparkofpyrokravte I will need the clearance to deploy

not paying for living expenses helps if alimony comes

Ah, but that implies that they aren't going to care as much about DV allegations wrt your clearance.

I could be completely ignorant here

Well, I am just preparing for the worst. I don't have any charges against me. I would like to keep it that way

Wouldnt matter yet cause he hasn't been deployed, no?

You can lose your clearance if you have DV charges

Well, there's different sorts of clearance, and the ones that are more jumpy aren't the sort that would put you overseas as much?

I think what @asparkofpyrokravte is implying is that you couldn't do such a thing cause you're overseas

But you aren't deployed yet

@InsaneCaterpilla Your right.

nah, I mean that for a regular deployment a DV allegation wouldn't be a significant risk factor

It would, you can't have a record of things

@asparkofpyrokravte My clearance is up there, but DV charges affect my clearance, which in turn affects my ability to deploy

Oh, dang

Seems a little bit like getting scrached in one place leaves claw-marks in another, but eh

Like I said, I am trying to prepare for the worse at this point.

@asparkofpyrokravte thats correct.

Heck, for my job next year, I can't even have been arrested for something within two years. Doesn't matter what it is or if I actually was convicted

Yeah, Clearance jobs pay handsomely

Anyway, I will use your resource tomorrow. @asparkofpyrokravte @InsaneCaterpilla Thanks for your time. I will follow up later today. Gotta be up in 4 hours.

Goodnight

Oof, I doubt I was as much help as @asparkofpyrokravte, but rest well and good luck with everything :3

In GA I'm hearing a 2-5 year unless until remarried or dead

Alimony guidelines are so bad. I am presentin to the court that even though I made more, she caused more damage with her reckless spending. She kept us in debt and check-to-check when we should have been banking $200+ a month

Sounds like my spouse

@Dan da Dad @RandyLahey That sounds like some really shitty stuff. Let me know if you are up for writing about it at all.

@Men Are Human Maybe, probably after this mistake falls over

I'm going to have plenty of time over the weekend to talk and do an AMA here. I just got released from jail two hours ago

Y'all wanna talk about mistakes? Lads, get ready for a tale. For now, I'm going to sleep. I think Discord has been reestablished in my work computers so I can chime in throughout the day tomorrow.

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Sounds like the kind of thing that would be great to post on /r/mensrights if its about false arrest stuff

How about I try here first. There's a lot to the story

Two nights ago, my stbxw found a recording device in our room. I have been sleeping in a converted guestroom for several weeks, but the room in question is mine as well
We are going through a divorce since October, but I've found out little by little that she had cheated on me, and details about the timetable and activities have been hard to obtain
She found the recording device Monday. Tuesday at 10AM I was picked up for invasion of privacy. I was booked at 6PM. I was then brought to a cell in D block at 2AM Wednesday morning.
I was seen by a judge to set bail, a hearing date, and be clear of the charge, which was "Eavesdropping." This is a felony.
From 10am Tuesday to 10PM last night, I have been in shirt, sandals, and pants. Very thin. No underwear. A plastic mat and pillow. A not-quite-so-large wool blanket.

If its in a house you jointly own then wouldn't that be an exemption under the law? If it's not then couldn't a security camera catching a burgler in your home saying something to his accomplice cause you to be arrested