I know what you meant. No problem.

the last lawyer I met a while back divorced as well.

All he said was to throw money at her and leave.

wasn't great advice.

Definitely not good advice at all, your ex can still indenture you to pay through alimony (and possibly child support if she really is pregnant)

That's the thing, finding a trustworthy lawyer to find for this sort of thing is something I'd be super worried about.

I dont think alimony comes into play here

Are you married?

It sure does

we have been married for 1 year

wasnt long at all

We are in our mid 20s

Idk what the laws for marriage duration for alimony are in NC

10 years

in sC

SC, sorry

A brief look at an SC lawyers website says alimony will be less of a thing for shorter marriage, it does not say anything about alimony having a cutoff

its usually half the duration of a marriage

so in my case 6 months

or 1 year including the separation

If you haven't decided on a lawyer yet, that'd be another good reason to reach out to the NCFM, if you don't have a recommendation for some lawyer, they'd likely have some.

Oh, nice, that sounds rather merciful

I wouldn't call it merciful... Not as bad as some perhaps, but any alimony is pretty horrible imo

@asparkofpyrokravte Appreciate the resource, I'll be sure to give them a call tomorrow. The only thing I am worried about is the maybe pregnancy, finances, and DV. Maybe revenge to my career.

I think I would be ok with 1 year. Im planning on deploying overseas after the divorce is finalized.

Eh, I don't think there are many good justifications for alimony (I do think there are some), but since there are a lot of 1-5 year marriages, having the rule being half limits liability one heck of a lot compared to what it could be

I hope you stay safe, can be dangerous deploying to say, the middle east

@InsaneCaterpilla better than where I am now.

I kinda assumed he wasn't deploying if he needed the clearance

that was perhaps a mistake

All kinds of positions overseas. Could be military police even

@asparkofpyrokravte I will need the clearance to deploy

not paying for living expenses helps if alimony comes

Ah, but that implies that they aren't going to care as much about DV allegations wrt your clearance.

I could be completely ignorant here

Well, I am just preparing for the worst. I don't have any charges against me. I would like to keep it that way

Wouldnt matter yet cause he hasn't been deployed, no?

You can lose your clearance if you have DV charges

Well, there's different sorts of clearance, and the ones that are more jumpy aren't the sort that would put you overseas as much?

I think what @asparkofpyrokravte is implying is that you couldn't do such a thing cause you're overseas

But you aren't deployed yet