Message from @asparkofpyrokravte
Discord ID: 521595391452512256
10 years
in sC
SC, sorry
A brief look at an SC lawyers website says alimony will be less of a thing for shorter marriage, it does not say anything about alimony having a cutoff
its usually half the duration of a marriage
so in my case 6 months
or 1 year including the separation
If you haven't decided on a lawyer yet, that'd be another good reason to reach out to the NCFM, if you don't have a recommendation for some lawyer, they'd likely have some.
Oh, nice, that sounds rather merciful
I wouldn't call it merciful... Not as bad as some perhaps, but any alimony is pretty horrible imo
@asparkofpyrokravte Appreciate the resource, I'll be sure to give them a call tomorrow. The only thing I am worried about is the maybe pregnancy, finances, and DV. Maybe revenge to my career.
I think I would be ok with 1 year. Im planning on deploying overseas after the divorce is finalized.
Eh, I don't think there are many good justifications for alimony (I do think there are some), but since there are a lot of 1-5 year marriages, having the rule being half limits liability one heck of a lot compared to what it could be
I hope you stay safe, can be dangerous deploying to say, the middle east
@InsaneCaterpilla better than where I am now.
I kinda assumed he wasn't deploying if he needed the clearance
that was perhaps a mistake
All kinds of positions overseas. Could be military police even
@asparkofpyrokravte I will need the clearance to deploy
not paying for living expenses helps if alimony comes
Ah, but that implies that they aren't going to care as much about DV allegations wrt your clearance.
I could be completely ignorant here
Well, I am just preparing for the worst. I don't have any charges against me. I would like to keep it that way
Wouldnt matter yet cause he hasn't been deployed, no?
You can lose your clearance if you have DV charges
Well, there's different sorts of clearance, and the ones that are more jumpy aren't the sort that would put you overseas as much?
I think what @asparkofpyrokravte is implying is that you couldn't do such a thing cause you're overseas
But you aren't deployed yet
@InsaneCaterpilla Your right.
nah, I mean that for a regular deployment a DV allegation wouldn't be a significant risk factor
It would, you can't have a record of things
@asparkofpyrokravte My clearance is up there, but DV charges affect my clearance, which in turn affects my ability to deploy
Oh, dang
Seems a little bit like getting scrached in one place leaves claw-marks in another, but eh
Like I said, I am trying to prepare for the worse at this point.
@asparkofpyrokravte thats correct.
Heck, for my job next year, I can't even have been arrested for something within two years. Doesn't matter what it is or if I actually was convicted
Yeah, Clearance jobs pay handsomely
Anyway, I will use your resource tomorrow. @asparkofpyrokravte @InsaneCaterpilla Thanks for your time. I will follow up later today. Gotta be up in 4 hours.
Goodnight
Oof, I doubt I was as much help as @asparkofpyrokravte, but rest well and good luck with everything :3