why do you want the feelings of love?

emotional connection

companionship

carry on asking 'why' to those questions

there'll be one fundamental truth that covers all of those things

Well the answer probably lies in the fact that I want to fill a viod

void*

lack of affection

i believe that this is all covered under 'desire' - desiring something brings about positive emotions, regardless of what it is you're desiring

lack of mother or father ?

There's a void within me that I want to fill

@Shido think conceptually man, means we can apply to all our lives

you have to work on it, to find why you have this gap and how you can fill it by yourself

I desire the image that is portrayed by being in a relationship

before to go in relationship

@Sigma it's a void left by social conditioning - you can fill it with something else

The way I fill it is through doing stuff

MMA fills it

easily

self-actualisation is much more fulfilling then meeting your emotional needs - you have a passion for MMA and that's great - don't let anyone sway u off ur path

once you self-actualise, you'll have a scope of how everything fits together

The self-actualization can be visualized by the pyramid. Moslow's hierarchy of human needs

yeah exactly

emotional needs are at the bottom

that's what im refering to

physiological needs are at the bottom

yea

emotional are 2 under self actualisation

i tihnk 2

ooh

you're right

the top one, that wasn't published but maslow was working on just before he died, was self-transcendence that is actually on top of self-actualisation

just googled it

I've heard of self- transcendence

Don't know how to do that

@JDB yeah but I think there is a reason why we have this void, and the reason take place in childhood. i think some part of the maslow hierarchy are build during childhood. If they are not built well, there are those voids

the only way to self-actualise, and then transcend, is to be alone in your head and 'tidy up' things.

don't really know how to self-actualize either, but I've always thought that you need to meet all of the things below the top of the pyramid before you can self-actualize

@Shido yeah, it';s fustrating but the sooner you become conscious of this the sooner you can fill it and build further layers of 'meaing'

I agree with Shido on this one

I don't think all of my needs were really met during childhood, which is why I have emotional problems