Message from @Northern Lights

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2019-11-01 09:20:33 UTC  

thats the mentality

2019-11-01 09:20:36 UTC  

They ask others what to do

2019-11-01 09:20:38 UTC  

not really northern because children are different as well as circumstances are different

2019-11-01 09:20:38 UTC  

What is that?

2019-11-01 09:20:46 UTC  

Its a mark of dependence

2019-11-01 09:21:00 UTC  

They aren't self reliant independent people

2019-11-01 09:21:12 UTC  

you cannot compare a household where the majority of people respect reason and logic vs the houshould that respects might makes right

2019-11-01 09:21:31 UTC  

They are the kind of people who ask others for trivial advice they are perfectly capable and more qualified in giving

2019-11-01 09:21:45 UTC  

even if you account for the difference in children, what works under one roof will back-fire under the other roof

2019-11-01 09:22:02 UTC  

That is part of what I am saying

2019-11-01 09:22:10 UTC  

Your child is an individual with a personality

2019-11-01 09:22:19 UTC  

Ofc you have to tailor what you do to them

2019-11-01 09:22:34 UTC  

yes, but they are a CHILD first

2019-11-01 09:22:40 UTC  

an indiviuall with personality second

2019-11-01 09:23:04 UTC  

you MUST contain the outliers FIRST

2019-11-01 09:23:21 UTC  

otherwise, you invalidate any authority you might have

2019-11-01 09:23:32 UTC  

and destroy the ability to reach the individual

2019-11-01 09:24:05 UTC  

I think there is a miscommunication I don't follow

2019-11-01 09:24:12 UTC  

this is critial because many children, MOST children willl have access to superior knowledge and be 'better' or 'smarter' than their parents

2019-11-01 09:24:22 UTC  

they will see no reason to yield to the 'boomer'

2019-11-01 09:24:29 UTC  

I was talking about the parents not being self reliant not the child

2019-11-01 09:24:41 UTC  

but ALL of us, no matter how smart must learn to deal with situations we cannot control

2019-11-01 09:24:44 UTC  

anyone know any good video editing software?

2019-11-01 09:24:48 UTC  

with incompetent authority

2019-11-01 09:25:06 UTC  

with those that have a degree of control over our livelihood

2019-11-01 09:25:22 UTC  

a big problem is false idols and charlatans, lets take books on raising kids for example. An aboslute fuckton of people rely on books to teach them how to raise their kids. Now well the person writing the book may have some credentials, they might think things like conformity/obedience are a positive trait in kids. So his entire mindset and expertise is based around creating the most obedient conforming kids, which may look good on paper but it actually extremely detrimental for the kids futures.

2019-11-01 09:25:24 UTC  

this is why is say that they must FIRST deal with them as a CHILD

2019-11-01 09:25:44 UTC  

by 'laying down the law' and not allowing special privledges for outliers

2019-11-01 09:25:53 UTC  

The fact that they relay on a book in the first place is where something is wrong with them

2019-11-01 09:25:59 UTC  

even IF that outlier is more mature and doesn't need the discipline

2019-11-01 09:26:09 UTC  

THey aren't thinking they are having someone else do that for them @Jamec

2019-11-01 09:26:46 UTC  

On the second part of that paragraph

2019-11-01 09:26:59 UTC  

Part of the thinking is deciding exactly what you are going to distil into your kids

2019-11-01 09:26:59 UTC  

there is also the phenomena of those in the medical or mental health professions ALWAYS being bourgeiouse

2019-11-01 09:27:12 UTC  

Ahh fucking tell me about it

2019-11-01 09:27:21 UTC  

Its why I can't stand talking to psychs

2019-11-01 09:27:38 UTC  

those making the determination of what is 'healthy' do so from an EXTREMELY skewed perspective in which there IS never a reason to get angry

2019-11-01 09:27:54 UTC  

but not getting angry when things are tough is a receipe for disaster

2019-11-01 09:28:10 UTC  

the experts have no clue just how bad things can get

2019-11-01 09:28:15 UTC  

For example

2019-11-01 09:28:37 UTC  

and if many of them had to endure a single DAY of what their patients deal with daily, the experts would have a mental breakdown