thats the mentality

They ask others what to do

not really northern because children are different as well as circumstances are different

What is that?

Its a mark of dependence

They aren't self reliant independent people

you cannot compare a household where the majority of people respect reason and logic vs the houshould that respects might makes right

They are the kind of people who ask others for trivial advice they are perfectly capable and more qualified in giving

even if you account for the difference in children, what works under one roof will back-fire under the other roof

That is part of what I am saying

Your child is an individual with a personality

Ofc you have to tailor what you do to them

yes, but they are a CHILD first

an indiviuall with personality second

you MUST contain the outliers FIRST

otherwise, you invalidate any authority you might have

and destroy the ability to reach the individual

I think there is a miscommunication I don't follow

this is critial because many children, MOST children willl have access to superior knowledge and be 'better' or 'smarter' than their parents

they will see no reason to yield to the 'boomer'

I was talking about the parents not being self reliant not the child

but ALL of us, no matter how smart must learn to deal with situations we cannot control

anyone know any good video editing software?

with incompetent authority

with those that have a degree of control over our livelihood

a big problem is false idols and charlatans, lets take books on raising kids for example. An aboslute fuckton of people rely on books to teach them how to raise their kids. Now well the person writing the book may have some credentials, they might think things like conformity/obedience are a positive trait in kids. So his entire mindset and expertise is based around creating the most obedient conforming kids, which may look good on paper but it actually extremely detrimental for the kids futures.

this is why is say that they must FIRST deal with them as a CHILD

by 'laying down the law' and not allowing special privledges for outliers

The fact that they relay on a book in the first place is where something is wrong with them

even IF that outlier is more mature and doesn't need the discipline

THey aren't thinking they are having someone else do that for them @Jamec

On the second part of that paragraph

Part of the thinking is deciding exactly what you are going to distil into your kids

there is also the phenomena of those in the medical or mental health professions ALWAYS being bourgeiouse

Ahh fucking tell me about it

Its why I can't stand talking to psychs

those making the determination of what is 'healthy' do so from an EXTREMELY skewed perspective in which there IS never a reason to get angry

but not getting angry when things are tough is a receipe for disaster

the experts have no clue just how bad things can get

For example

and if many of them had to endure a single DAY of what their patients deal with daily, the experts would have a mental breakdown