and intelligent people will always be a minority

it's called 'judgement'

They don't think

something you can only develop by operating in a vacuum

who works in a vacuum today?

no one

Surely if they sat down and thought of how to effectively discipline their children and worked at it trial and error - experience. then they'd work it out

But they don't engage

They don't think

there is no incentive to do so

instead of trying to come up with a solution, instead of trying to solve problems without asking anyone, they simply look how other do it

let the school handle it

There is no problem solving though they know there is a problem

well you enjoy the money you have spent half your life collecting

Yes

thats the mentality

They ask others what to do

not really northern because children are different as well as circumstances are different

What is that?

Its a mark of dependence

They aren't self reliant independent people

you cannot compare a household where the majority of people respect reason and logic vs the houshould that respects might makes right

They are the kind of people who ask others for trivial advice they are perfectly capable and more qualified in giving

even if you account for the difference in children, what works under one roof will back-fire under the other roof

That is part of what I am saying

Your child is an individual with a personality

Ofc you have to tailor what you do to them

yes, but they are a CHILD first

an indiviuall with personality second

you MUST contain the outliers FIRST

otherwise, you invalidate any authority you might have

and destroy the ability to reach the individual

I think there is a miscommunication I don't follow

this is critial because many children, MOST children willl have access to superior knowledge and be 'better' or 'smarter' than their parents

they will see no reason to yield to the 'boomer'

I was talking about the parents not being self reliant not the child

but ALL of us, no matter how smart must learn to deal with situations we cannot control

anyone know any good video editing software?

with incompetent authority

with those that have a degree of control over our livelihood

a big problem is false idols and charlatans, lets take books on raising kids for example. An aboslute fuckton of people rely on books to teach them how to raise their kids. Now well the person writing the book may have some credentials, they might think things like conformity/obedience are a positive trait in kids. So his entire mindset and expertise is based around creating the most obedient conforming kids, which may look good on paper but it actually extremely detrimental for the kids futures.