Message from @Jamec
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They aren't self reliant independent people
you cannot compare a household where the majority of people respect reason and logic vs the houshould that respects might makes right
They are the kind of people who ask others for trivial advice they are perfectly capable and more qualified in giving
even if you account for the difference in children, what works under one roof will back-fire under the other roof
That is part of what I am saying
Your child is an individual with a personality
Ofc you have to tailor what you do to them
yes, but they are a CHILD first
an indiviuall with personality second
you MUST contain the outliers FIRST
otherwise, you invalidate any authority you might have
and destroy the ability to reach the individual
I think there is a miscommunication I don't follow
this is critial because many children, MOST children willl have access to superior knowledge and be 'better' or 'smarter' than their parents
they will see no reason to yield to the 'boomer'
I was talking about the parents not being self reliant not the child
but ALL of us, no matter how smart must learn to deal with situations we cannot control
anyone know any good video editing software?
with incompetent authority
with those that have a degree of control over our livelihood
a big problem is false idols and charlatans, lets take books on raising kids for example. An aboslute fuckton of people rely on books to teach them how to raise their kids. Now well the person writing the book may have some credentials, they might think things like conformity/obedience are a positive trait in kids. So his entire mindset and expertise is based around creating the most obedient conforming kids, which may look good on paper but it actually extremely detrimental for the kids futures.
this is why is say that they must FIRST deal with them as a CHILD
by 'laying down the law' and not allowing special privledges for outliers
The fact that they relay on a book in the first place is where something is wrong with them
even IF that outlier is more mature and doesn't need the discipline
THey aren't thinking they are having someone else do that for them @Jamec
On the second part of that paragraph
Part of the thinking is deciding exactly what you are going to distil into your kids
there is also the phenomena of those in the medical or mental health professions ALWAYS being bourgeiouse
Ahh fucking tell me about it
Its why I can't stand talking to psychs
those making the determination of what is 'healthy' do so from an EXTREMELY skewed perspective in which there IS never a reason to get angry
but not getting angry when things are tough is a receipe for disaster
the experts have no clue just how bad things can get
For example
and if many of them had to endure a single DAY of what their patients deal with daily, the experts would have a mental breakdown
true
one day a mananimal will spin thru my window as i grab my shotgun
I've been arguing with my psych that judgment is actually good because I can tell they are totally opposed to the idea of it
cause THEY don't have it
it's the whole damn reason they found that field of study so fascinating