Message from @Uksio

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2019-08-22 16:42:07 UTC  

Divorced but cooperative parents > coupled but sheer resentment

2019-08-22 16:42:14 UTC  

No

2019-08-22 16:42:15 UTC  

truth is often less important than family

2019-08-22 16:42:30 UTC  

In the short-term, maybe

2019-08-22 16:42:43 UTC  

long term always

2019-08-22 16:42:51 UTC  

your family dies

2019-08-22 16:42:58 UTC  

Facts are often less important than feelings

2019-08-22 16:43:00 UTC  

parents are only temporary

2019-08-22 16:43:06 UTC  

But in the long-term, it makes you devalue the importance of intimate and stable relationships

2019-08-22 16:43:18 UTC  

only if you let it

2019-08-22 16:43:26 UTC  

compartmentalize

2019-08-22 16:43:28 UTC  

I can tell that they wouldnt work together as husband and wife, but just looking at them as friends... I can see thats what they're meant to be.

2019-08-22 16:43:34 UTC  

That's a diff issue MA

2019-08-22 16:43:40 UTC  

throw away the bad, keep the good

2019-08-22 16:43:45 UTC  

don't i know it

2019-08-22 16:43:46 UTC  

I mean with regards to comparing the two options

2019-08-22 16:43:54 UTC  

parents can be resentful to each other face-to-face
It is imperative that they won't show that shit to children and allow access to kids for the spouse

2019-08-22 16:43:56 UTC  

but nothing worthwhile is easy

2019-08-22 16:44:00 UTC  

Whenever they're together its a fun time

2019-08-22 16:44:03 UTC  

It depends really

2019-08-22 16:44:22 UTC  

Your personal shit should never be a fucked up psychological shit for your kids

2019-08-22 16:44:28 UTC  

Be above that

2019-08-22 16:44:30 UTC  

If they stay together just aimlessly, then that's bad

2019-08-22 16:44:33 UTC  

But

2019-08-22 16:44:33 UTC  

Be a fucking mature adult

2019-08-22 16:44:39 UTC  

yeah, parents need to have a united front as adults cause if they don't the child becomes a wishbone

2019-08-22 16:44:48 UTC  

@Uksio tell my dad that lmao

2019-08-22 16:44:51 UTC  

can't stand parents that act like that

2019-08-22 16:45:20 UTC  

If you stay together for the active sake of valuating such relationships and keeping the family together, then that's good, even if you have major problems

2019-08-22 16:45:27 UTC  

A couple months ago we went together, the three of us, to buy some construction material in a market thingy somewhere in town I'd never went to. The ammount of fun we had just running that errand was unbelievable. @ManAnimal

2019-08-22 16:45:33 UTC  

It is kinda similar how people separate job and personal

2019-08-22 16:45:33 UTC  

well, if the woman gets to say 'yes' that consequence is she doesn't get to just leave cause she feels like it

2019-08-22 16:46:05 UTC  

there are three spheres that should not be merged: family, personal and official

2019-08-22 16:46:21 UTC  

sounds like fun.... i know that feeling too... when parents get along it makes things better

2019-08-22 16:46:25 UTC  

When they are resonably separatedly acted out the person is healthy and happy

2019-08-22 16:46:33 UTC  

exactly uksio

2019-08-22 16:46:37 UTC  

Idk if I'd have it any other way

2019-08-22 16:46:47 UTC  

different rules for different spheres of influence

2019-08-22 16:47:03 UTC  

This is why I refuse to work for my mum

2019-08-22 16:47:11 UTC  

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/613767975614283832/614138505500819456/0im4hfq8fo0z.png

2019-08-22 16:47:17 UTC  

Family and work just don't mix