Message from @Coolitic
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that's important
Divorced but cooperative parents > coupled but sheer resentment
No
truth is often less important than family
In the short-term, maybe
long term always
your family dies
Facts are often less important than feelings
parents are only temporary
But in the long-term, it makes you devalue the importance of intimate and stable relationships
only if you let it
compartmentalize
I can tell that they wouldnt work together as husband and wife, but just looking at them as friends... I can see thats what they're meant to be.
That's a diff issue MA
throw away the bad, keep the good
don't i know it
I mean with regards to comparing the two options
parents can be resentful to each other face-to-face
It is imperative that they won't show that shit to children and allow access to kids for the spouse
but nothing worthwhile is easy
Whenever they're together its a fun time
Your personal shit should never be a fucked up psychological shit for your kids
Be above that
If they stay together just aimlessly, then that's bad
But
Be a fucking mature adult
yeah, parents need to have a united front as adults cause if they don't the child becomes a wishbone
can't stand parents that act like that
If you stay together for the active sake of valuating such relationships and keeping the family together, then that's good, even if you have major problems
A couple months ago we went together, the three of us, to buy some construction material in a market thingy somewhere in town I'd never went to. The ammount of fun we had just running that errand was unbelievable. @ManAnimal
It is kinda similar how people separate job and personal
well, if the woman gets to say 'yes' that consequence is she doesn't get to just leave cause she feels like it
there are three spheres that should not be merged: family, personal and official
sounds like fun.... i know that feeling too... when parents get along it makes things better
When they are resonably separatedly acted out the person is healthy and happy
exactly uksio
Idk if I'd have it any other way
different rules for different spheres of influence
This is why I refuse to work for my mum