Message from @ManAnimal
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parents are only temporary
But in the long-term, it makes you devalue the importance of intimate and stable relationships
only if you let it
compartmentalize
I can tell that they wouldnt work together as husband and wife, but just looking at them as friends... I can see thats what they're meant to be.
That's a diff issue MA
throw away the bad, keep the good
don't i know it
I mean with regards to comparing the two options
parents can be resentful to each other face-to-face
It is imperative that they won't show that shit to children and allow access to kids for the spouse
but nothing worthwhile is easy
Whenever they're together its a fun time
It depends really
Your personal shit should never be a fucked up psychological shit for your kids
Be above that
If they stay together just aimlessly, then that's bad
But
Be a fucking mature adult
yeah, parents need to have a united front as adults cause if they don't the child becomes a wishbone
If you stay together for the active sake of valuating such relationships and keeping the family together, then that's good, even if you have major problems
A couple months ago we went together, the three of us, to buy some construction material in a market thingy somewhere in town I'd never went to. The ammount of fun we had just running that errand was unbelievable. @ManAnimal
It is kinda similar how people separate job and personal
well, if the woman gets to say 'yes' that consequence is she doesn't get to just leave cause she feels like it
there are three spheres that should not be merged: family, personal and official
sounds like fun.... i know that feeling too... when parents get along it makes things better
When they are resonably separatedly acted out the person is healthy and happy
exactly uksio
Idk if I'd have it any other way
different rules for different spheres of influence
This is why I refuse to work for my mum
Family and work just don't mix
wise choice, jack
Kids need to see your best as an example, not necessarily your fawed self
money and family don't mix
A bit of acting can go a long way in raising well adjusted kids
anything at the interection that you might both want makes conflict more likely
it's why marraige as equals is less successsful than as seperate roles
less to trip over each other