Message from @Stopvegans
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When I was a teen, they taught me in church don't have sex before marriage
This one guy said you are a rose
Every time you do something further with a man you take a petal
He said after doing further and further that rose is what you give your husband
It stuck with me
Well, if that is the case, if so many petals are taken off, you can't grow them back.
I still went too far when i was dating
I let guys go too far
So you are now an incomplete rose for your future husband.
Well I'm not sure how true it is
But its a good way to make teens practice abstinence
Worked on me
I feel like your situation is different from the girls. Her dad was more present than yours was.
Did your mom run off your Dad
I grew up in a baptist church but didn't learn that.
My father only came to visit me ONCE. During that visit, he said to me, "I'm not your father, I am just your friend, okay? I am not your daddy." She told him to leave. She did everything she could. He treated her like crap.
He was an older married man where even his sons tried to mess with her.
She never talked about him to me or said anything bad about him.
I tried finding your call that day but I only found it in the description on the video. I looked forva while but gave up when i couldn't find it.
Let me see if I can find it.
I think its in the middle but i still couldn't find it
Have you gone & forgiven him yet
@Stopvegans that rose stuff is beautiful đź’ś
@Deleted User I feel for you. My father is more a stranger than anything. In the case with him, *some* of it may have been what Jesse says, that he couldn’t stand my mom... but at the same time, my mom always encouraged him to come see me growing up, she never tried to keep me away yet he always chose not to. Meanwhile he was with a new woman since I was 2 and was taking care of her sons and being a father to them. It doesn’t make any sense
amazing
I have to fly to Iowa to forgive my mother - haven't seen her since I was 6 years old - although I saw her once when I was 18 but it was very brief
@Szayel's Pooppion It does but it happens. Like Jesse says, these men are in a fallen state. He still hasn't contacted me back so I will have to make sure I have the right phone number and call him one last time.
@Orlando That's awesome. How was that experience?
Havent done it yet - hope to do it within next year or so @Deleted User
OHHHH I'm sorry @Orlando, must've misread your sentence there.
@Stopvegans Yes he is 80. I tried calling him and left him a voicemail. I already came to terms with it in my heart but I want to talk to him about it.
@Deleted User no problemo, also have two half brothers there that i dont know
I’m also trying to see if I can get in contact with my dad to forgive him, but his side of the family are mostly drug addicts...(he was) I don’t really know how to get into contact so I’ll hope someone reaches out to me
@Orlando That's amazin'! I have half siblings too. My Mom told me one of them was in the Army.
@Szayel's Pooppion I am planning on searching his name in the database and finding a phone number or address.
Good luck 🍀 it’s that you’re putting the effort out for it that matters
What have you done to better yourself this week?
Tried to keep myself consistent with silent prayer as much as I could. Journaled as well. Mindful of my thoughts and emotions, if I found myself dwelling on past issues and things I only let myself stay in it for alittle while before pulling myself out & back into the moment
Anybody else's people hate them after they forgave one of the parents?
No luckily