^This

I remember my one experience with pot pretty vividly, I tried and immediately felt pity for the people that had to fuck themselves up this much every day just to cope with reality.

For sure, every transaction is a brush with the law. Not something you would want in a waifu.

Maybe you could try just slowly transitioning her away from it by telling her about the toxicity of the culture

Most people who smoke know it's bad for them and know it's not good culturally. Unless they're major shitlibs who watch AJ+ regularly and think the word marijuana has racial connotations, lmao. I believe that you should keep a record how many times she smokes in a month or two and then you have a proper baseline. See if she can reduce it further and you'll do something for her. Don't make it about how you feel about it culturally. Make it about her health.

@Virgil i think i am doing that at least unconciously a bit. She had a tough home situation growing up- divorced parents, didnt feel loved by her mom, and definitely uses it to cope whether she knows it or not.

Ok yeah I’ll stress her health. But she still says well I can do what I want! Like a little girl

You ever think maybe there's too many red flags you're overlooking?

Maybe you could try introducing her to a new hobby or activity that could help her cope. Like biking, cooking, mma or something to that effect.

Its tough to get her into something new as she is a stubborn irish girl haha. And @TV i did notice some red flags, but I believe the positives greatly outweigh those. And she did have a difficult family situation, so if we were to have a daughter I would not let that happen, and I don’t believe she would either

Marijuana is gay

We have fun, works a ton and very hard, enjoy each others company, takes care of me and vice versa

You need to patrol her

Shes honest truthful and punctual

What do you mean stephanie

Do you wanna marry her and have her be the mother of your kids??

Yeah as long as she doesn’t smoke

Be in charge of her.. if you want her to quit make her quit lol

Have you ever dealt with the stubborn irish?

Maybe tell her you intend to marry her and have her be the mother of your children and you can’t have her smoke if that’s the case

Ok

Yes my bf @Whitelash is a stubborn nibba but I got him to stop smoking by nagging

Nice

Alright then

Yessss ^

Ultimately, you are in charge

is she the type of woman to accept that?

Or is she a feminist

if she knows you’re in charge then it’s easy

^

Shes not a feminist haha but she does not like being told what to do. But neither do I

No one likes being told what to do

but still she needs to know her place

True

Girls will argue all the time, but if they value you they'll cooperate

If she’s been smoking habitually then she isn’t gonna stop easily so even if she agrees to stop it’s gonna be a challenge

If you tell her to stop and she’s goes on a feminist rant saying you can’t tell her what to do then you have a big problemo

Maybe it would be good to tell her that you care about her and that’s why you need her to stop

Because you want a future with her

Ok...

Yeah she always argues when i bring it up but she has been slowing down throughout the relationship