If your lawyer tells you to screw her over don't listen (though tbh, you should have pretty little opportunity for that)

Audio recording is indeed a great step

im speaking to one

If she doesn't know, most of the false accusations would probably be pretty easy to disprove

South Carolina is a one-party consent state, so you're good on that front

yeah, I don't need to let her know when I record.

for some reason, I feel like voice is weak source of evidence

Eh, it isn't going to catch some things

but

It will catch almost all relevant things

So long as you've got a mic that picks up lots of stuff

Any sound of someone hitting another will be caught

If you're speaking calmly the whole time

that'll be caught

if you're trying to diffuse that will be caught

if you object to her hitting you, it is going to be hella hard for her to claim that you were the one who actually hit her

Yeah, I am worried about when I leave the apt to get out of the situation, then she assaults herself then points the finger.

She still has to give a day and time

if your mic catches the sound of your car door closing

well, you weren't in the house

if she claims it happened in the morning, your mic should lend credibillity to your claim that nothing serious happened at that time

Let's be real mate, although false accusations do happen, you don't know your partner is gonna be the one to make them. Take the precautions you can absolutely, but dont stress too much about something that will probably never happen

Right

And that's something that I was thinking of asking

Do you have a real reason to suspect your partner is going to go apeshit over this?

She went apeshit before

That is what I thought

it would be awfully bad if I lose my sec clearance over this.

Oh

shit

thats why I am asking.

Are you in a field that requires an enhanced disclosure? Yea, you can't even have a driving arrest within x number of time to stay employed...

Well fuck, that changes things. Getting accused normally isn't a huge problem if you can convince the prosecutor it is a waste of time, which a mic should be rather sufficient at

If you have to avoid even arrest

well

@InsaneCaterpilla well, good standing and trustworthy to be trusted by the government.

It's probably much the same. I know how it works in the UK because I'm starting a security job next year, but idk the US

its one of those military sec clearance

Speaking of apeshit, she says she is pregnant, I don't trust her if she is telling the truth or just a ruse. So I am waiting until she comes back to find out.

I don't know anything about security clearances in any country. But if you judge that you really, really need to avoid accusation, as opposed to having a good divorce outcome, that changes your priorities a bit. And...oh hell

Oof, that would suck if she is... Is it likely?