Message from @asparkofpyrokravte
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It's worth mentioning that having someone there at the time OR recording aren't going to stop past accusations of DV
that is very worth mentioning, yes.
jesus, I am out of it.
This situation is over my head
I'm sorry mate. Life's a bitch and then you die. But make the most of it for yourself ok
It isn't quite as bad as it seems
You probably do want to consult a lawyer before she knows you are going to separate
If your lawyer tells you to screw her over don't listen (though tbh, you should have pretty little opportunity for that)
Audio recording is indeed a great step
im speaking to one
If she doesn't know, most of the false accusations would probably be pretty easy to disprove
South Carolina is a one-party consent state, so you're good on that front
yeah, I don't need to let her know when I record.
for some reason, I feel like voice is weak source of evidence
Eh, it isn't going to catch some things
but
It will catch almost all relevant things
So long as you've got a mic that picks up lots of stuff
Any sound of someone hitting another will be caught
If you're speaking calmly the whole time
if you're trying to diffuse that will be caught
if you object to her hitting you, it is going to be hella hard for her to claim that you were the one who actually hit her
Yeah, I am worried about when I leave the apt to get out of the situation, then she assaults herself then points the finger.
She still has to give a day and time
if your mic catches the sound of your car door closing
well, you weren't in the house
if she claims it happened in the morning, your mic should lend credibillity to your claim that nothing serious happened at that time
Let's be real mate, although false accusations do happen, you don't know your partner is gonna be the one to make them. Take the precautions you can absolutely, but dont stress too much about something that will probably never happen
Right
And that's something that I was thinking of asking
Do you have a real reason to suspect your partner is going to go apeshit over this?
She went apeshit before
That is what I thought
it would be awfully bad if I lose my sec clearance over this.
Oh
shit
thats why I am asking.
Are you in a field that requires an enhanced disclosure? Yea, you can't even have a driving arrest within x number of time to stay employed...
Well fuck, that changes things. Getting accused normally isn't a huge problem if you can convince the prosecutor it is a waste of time, which a mic should be rather sufficient at
If you have to avoid even arrest