Message from @asparkofpyrokravte

Discord ID: 521581502836768774


2018-12-10 06:53:35 UTC  

It's worth mentioning that having someone there at the time OR recording aren't going to stop past accusations of DV

2018-12-10 06:53:57 UTC  

that is very worth mentioning, yes.

2018-12-10 06:54:26 UTC  

jesus, I am out of it.

2018-12-10 06:54:40 UTC  

This situation is over my head

2018-12-10 06:55:09 UTC  

I'm sorry mate. Life's a bitch and then you die. But make the most of it for yourself ok

2018-12-10 06:55:25 UTC  

It isn't quite as bad as it seems

2018-12-10 06:55:40 UTC  

You probably do want to consult a lawyer before she knows you are going to separate

2018-12-10 06:55:59 UTC  

If your lawyer tells you to screw her over don't listen (though tbh, you should have pretty little opportunity for that)

2018-12-10 06:56:14 UTC  

Audio recording is indeed a great step

2018-12-10 06:56:25 UTC  

im speaking to one

2018-12-10 06:56:33 UTC  

If she doesn't know, most of the false accusations would probably be pretty easy to disprove

2018-12-10 06:56:51 UTC  

South Carolina is a one-party consent state, so you're good on that front

2018-12-10 06:57:13 UTC  

yeah, I don't need to let her know when I record.

2018-12-10 06:57:44 UTC  

for some reason, I feel like voice is weak source of evidence

2018-12-10 06:57:56 UTC  

Eh, it isn't going to catch some things

2018-12-10 06:57:57 UTC  

but

2018-12-10 06:58:06 UTC  

It will catch almost all relevant things

2018-12-10 06:58:15 UTC  

So long as you've got a mic that picks up lots of stuff

2018-12-10 06:58:29 UTC  

Any sound of someone hitting another will be caught

2018-12-10 06:58:38 UTC  

If you're speaking calmly the whole time

2018-12-10 06:58:40 UTC  

that'll be caught

2018-12-10 06:58:52 UTC  

if you're trying to diffuse that will be caught

2018-12-10 06:59:11 UTC  

if you object to her hitting you, it is going to be hella hard for her to claim that you were the one who actually hit her

2018-12-10 07:00:00 UTC  

Yeah, I am worried about when I leave the apt to get out of the situation, then she assaults herself then points the finger.

2018-12-10 07:00:11 UTC  

She still has to give a day and time

2018-12-10 07:00:27 UTC  

if your mic catches the sound of your car door closing

2018-12-10 07:00:34 UTC  

well, you weren't in the house

2018-12-10 07:01:06 UTC  

if she claims it happened in the morning, your mic should lend credibillity to your claim that nothing serious happened at that time

2018-12-10 07:01:39 UTC  

Let's be real mate, although false accusations do happen, you don't know your partner is gonna be the one to make them. Take the precautions you can absolutely, but dont stress too much about something that will probably never happen

2018-12-10 07:01:48 UTC  

Right

2018-12-10 07:01:55 UTC  

And that's something that I was thinking of asking

2018-12-10 07:02:08 UTC  

Do you have a real reason to suspect your partner is going to go apeshit over this?

2018-12-10 07:02:20 UTC  

She went apeshit before

2018-12-10 07:02:28 UTC  

That is what I thought

2018-12-10 07:03:21 UTC  

it would be awfully bad if I lose my sec clearance over this.

2018-12-10 07:03:31 UTC  

Oh

2018-12-10 07:03:32 UTC  

shit

2018-12-10 07:03:49 UTC  

thats why I am asking.

2018-12-10 07:04:53 UTC  

Are you in a field that requires an enhanced disclosure? Yea, you can't even have a driving arrest within x number of time to stay employed...

2018-12-10 07:05:36 UTC  

Well fuck, that changes things. Getting accused normally isn't a huge problem if you can convince the prosecutor it is a waste of time, which a mic should be rather sufficient at

2018-12-10 07:05:43 UTC  

If you have to avoid even arrest