Message from @IsmELlyOuJoHN
Discord ID: 534814954725834752
Maybe that was written as an advertisement for a law firm, but that sounds reasonable
It does sound reasonable, it's good to check up on your lawyer/firm to make sure they know what they are doing. Even if it is an advertisement, presumably it's from a lawyer/firm that *can* prove they have a good track record
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About to consult with yet another attorney on the phone, getting pretty tired of talking to lawyers.
Still consider them to be buncha selfserving leeches that prey on the emotionally distraught
Some of them are sometimes, good luck finding one who really cares about your case mate
@ChitwnRogue Yep. If you're in Canada the fathers-resources folks from Toronto seem to be pretty good given their involvement in an in-progress documentary
But this discord specifically is still trying to gather resources to help people in that way.
@asparkofpyrokravte Absolutely. If possible, I'd like to have an actual volunteer legal team in here supporting people with their cases.
hey all, appreciate the help. i'm feeling overwhelmed. i've tried to read up and watch any videos regarding dissolution/divorce. i feel like i know a lot more than i initially did but still not sure what to do at this point.
Hey amn, I men's I've done nowt, I've just joined. But I feel so happy that these people have helped u through ur tough times. Stay strong
i've read as much as i could from the men's rights subreddit and mentioned to one established divorce attorney (38 yrs experience) how the family court is biased against men. he denies that is the case. is it not in any attorney's best interest to agree that the system is stacked vs men?
Exactly, to change the problem u have to notice it first
hey @IsmELlyOuJoHN , thanks, i just started educating myself and am new here too
Np man I've literally done nowt just admired how the movement has helped people so fad
i'm looking into the possiblility of free legal aid since i qualify as low income, anyone have success goiing this route? or is it very much you get what you pay for? i can't even afford these high retainer fees
i almost felt like giving up today b/c i saw my ex today and thought maybe we can talk this out without getting expensive lawyers involved, like work out dissolution or something
And how did it go
well i was advised not to speak to her so i avoided communicating with her at all
i mean thats what all the attorneys suggested to me during free consultation, but isnt it in their best interest to avoid having me resolve this with my stbx without their aid?
ok well i must have been misinformed by someone at the municipal courthouse. i was told i can get legal aid due to low income but after calling around i'm being told there's no such service and i'll be lucky to obtain a divorce attorney pro bono
these last two months have been a nightmare.
Mmm
Oof sorry that's a uk link, I even included -uk in the search terms grr
@ChitwnRogue have you tried this site for legal aid info?
https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/
If it helps at all or not please let me know
Whats the divorce channel for?
People who need help navigating their way through tricky divorces methinks
Ah, gotcha
A common problem for men in the judicial system is high alimony so this is to help this I guess
Lmao fair enough
It's good for anyone in a divorce who just wants to let off steam too.
@InsaneCaterpilla I was recommended that site, just haven't gotten around to it. But thanks all the same.
I'm looking into borrowing money to get at least a decent attorney since I keep reading you get what you pay for and not to do it on your own.
Does $2000 and $250/hr sound reasonable for an established attorney? 38 yrs experience
I've found that $2,500 and $175 is a lowball in my area.
Ya, it is low but maybe I found an honest lawyer (if there is such a thing) and he seems to think my case is straightforward. Plus he actually charges $300 but he said I'd be mostly working with an associate (less experience) for $250.
If it's a trustworthy firm, then good. If the divorce is straightforward (no major assets or dissention about 401ks and the like, no children, both want the same thing) then yeah try to spend as little.
Prep as much as possible though to save yourself even more. Hear court proceedings in your spare time and learn the motions you can file, brush up on the law and history of the law where applicable