@Dan da Dad That's amazing news! I'm glad to hear it!

@ChitwnRogue If you can take out money from your account at a higher rate and hide a bit of it where she can't get it as cash, that would probably work as long as it isn't extreme. I would not advise maxing out your credit cards as that is a debt that will cost you long term. A better bet is to maybe get a friend to look after a few of your more valuable things and tell the judge that they were gifts. You can get them back later. I realise that that is dishonest, but dishonesty and favouritism are unfortunately the name of the game here. Since you will be the one paying for any children,.it does not make sense for her to get everything else too.

@ChitwnRogue or just dont be petty and be an adult and let her dig herself in a hole.

@Night Terror that's what I'm actually doing now. I just need new shoes that's all.

Daddy needs a new pair of shoes! xD

So get more hours unless you like paying interest on shoes

yup, thnx for the divorce advice mate

i swear to fucking god these fuck lawyers. They make me think my case is cut and dry in the initial interview and now because they need another retainer it's a lot more complicated.

I'd rather share the rest of my savings with my ex then pay these fucks another cent

Oof. Sorry mate, some lawyers can be money grubbers I guess

@ChitwnRogue Wow. That's nasty. They make so much out of dads just trying to get equal custody. It's insane.

@ChitwnRogue look for a lawyer that has a flat fee

I don't think flat fee arrangements exists for divorce. At least I haven't seen it in the U.S. (except in a situation where the parties already have a mutual agreement and they just need to file paperwork)

Mine cost me $30k+ in attorney fees

plus another $20k for a criminal defense attorney due to a false allegation

all in all, $100k for a 2 year marriage to a liar

fuck my life

I have a flat fee lawyer and so does my wife

This is our 2nd set of lawyers but i take what i can get. They’re not as aggressive and you might have to the leg work but still

@Night Terror mind me asking roughly how much is the flat fee?

I found one for 5 k but I expressed how everything was done by the last lawyer and just needed someone for the final hearing. Which wasnt the case