Thank you. Happy to be here.

@blueorange22 yep

Not sure to be honest. I've been lurking on the subreddit for years. Been posting for maybe 1 or 2 years

I'm not particularly involved in any daily activism, so to speak, so maybe it would be a stretch to call me an "activist" in any substantial way

However, I do agree with the vast majority of concerns brought up on the subreddit (though not all) and would like to see a counter-voice become more prominent. It's extremely disappointing to me how lopsided the system has become and how taboo it is to even discuss this.

I was also the victim of a false allegation that nearly destroyed my life (but thankfully didn't)

I was already somewhat lurking on the subreddit prior to that. When it got personal and nearly destroyed my life, it hit me hard and I realized how many others face similar situations (and I'm sure many are not as fortunate as me to escape it)

The legal system is stacked against males, at least in the U.S. and western world. It's an open secret and yet it's tolerated. Very odd.

On top of that, it's now a regular occurrence for me to see females given preferential treatment in promotions and hiring at work (i'm in tech). I one time outright saw a male thrown under the bus as an underperformer because they needed to meet a low-performance quota and the only person lower performing was a female (the director said "we can't have a female at the bottom")

Same with hiring events. Just outright preferential treatment.

And not just at my company, but many companies that my peers are at. We are all in tech. There is so much pressure to hire women, many people are outright discriminating. It's against the law and yet it's very much tolerated and difficult to prove.

All-in-all, I see many factors that concern me

Thanks @InsaneCaterpilla

@Men Are Human I believe you had commented in the past on reddit. I have written fairly extensive comments describing the situation. You could use those, or if you want me to do a writeup, I could probably throw something together describing the entire series of events.

I don't think flat fee arrangements exists for divorce. At least I haven't seen it in the U.S. (except in a situation where the parties already have a mutual agreement and they just need to file paperwork)

Mine cost me $30k+ in attorney fees

plus another $20k for a criminal defense attorney due to a false allegation

all in all, $100k for a 2 year marriage to a liar

fuck my life

@Night Terror mind me asking roughly how much is the flat fee?

@Men Are Human of course, totally understand. I can see you're quite active on there.

Yeah, sure, I could do a writeup if you want. Give me a few days