Message from @Men Are Human
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That's alright. Would you be interested in telling it instead, or keeping it private?
I think it would go very well in part 2 of the school stories article
Na, I don’t think he would be comfortable with it, he is still quite defensive about feminists and a little conscious of MRAs, probably the closest we get to fights is usually over feminist things, I like to think he is much more centred since being with me and I guess being together stops us from both getting echo chambered, I do know that sex trafficking is a bit of a problem in the Netherlands that effects a lot more women and he was friends with a girl who was effected by it, so I don’t try to change him, just correct his facts if he tries to spew something like rape culture or wage gap at me, lol
He is a really nice person though, he cares a lot more about others then himself and that scares me because he has that personality type where people immediately try to take advantage of him, when we first starting to get together properly I had to explain to him that he had in fact been sexually assaulted which he didn’t believe because it was a women who did it to him.
Okay. I understand. I do tend to think that whenever we are told that women are the primary target of something it does end up being 50/50 in almost every circumstance, however.
I had a look into it, I can’t remember the exact numbers but it was like somewhere a little over 10% (think it might have been 14% from memory but I am probably wrong) boys, and it is mostly effecting middle eastern women who are trafficked through the Netherlands (because they don’t enforce sex trafficking laws too well) and then out to the rest of Europe, and even though the way they market it is “save the girls” the goal is “stop the sex trafficking” so I don’t have an issue with that at all.
But he also knows that if he so much mentions wage gaps or women in education or rape myths I will go into fight mode. xD
We are a strange couple but thankfully something is working because it has been almost 6 years now xD
@Abbysol haha, nope, my introduction was basically just the first sentence, as my conclusion is basically just the last sentence of the second-to-last paragraph. I wrote this almost top to bottom and posted it as soon as I got something workable together. To be honest, I'm not yet sure what a softer introduction should be, partially because I'm not sure how...(didactic?) I want to be. I'm not sure if I ended up writing more of a beginners guide sort of thing or more of a topics in boys education sort of thing. What it is *not* is "why boys lag behind in education" because we don't really know the answer to that question and that is quite possibly more related to fatherlessness, boys being harder hit by not having a decent home environment, and that kind of thing. Rather it lends itself more to answering the question "Do school systems face challenges in dealing with boys? If so, what?" I guess. That wasn't really by intent, honestly.
Actually, it better answers the question "What challenges do boys face dealing with schools?".
I think that will probably end up being the approach I need to revise the article around. Then my plan is to add some questions to the beginning of the first paragraph as InsaneCatarpilla mentioned around that theme (probably changing or removing the first sentence) and call that an introduction. Or is there a better way to tie these ideas together in a neat bundle?
I think asking what are the challenges boys face is a better angle to look at it from, because being able to identify the problems will inherently lead into find solutions, I’m not a good writer so I can’t help much, but it was just a thing I noticed, just a short little primer at the start I think would help it flow a little better and help it to feel like a more natural read. 😃
For a while now, we have known that our boys have been struggling in education. Also, for a while now we have focused on improving our girls' performance in schools, and have been remarkably successful. Our attention now needs to be on preventing our boys' worsening ability to do well in school, but how do we achieve this? First, we must evaluate the reasons why our boys are not performing to the same standard...
Perhaps something like that.
I just want to say something.
I was reading articles on the website and I felt the urge to share them, but I'm scared that it will ruin my career.
Even finishing my studies would be hell on earth, because all the professors are feminists and left wing liberals
So I have to self-sensor.
Hold on dude, things are surely changing.
@Thijs Peters#9845 Thank you for saying that, but please don't ruin your career! There are ways around it though. You could say something like "I was shocked by this, what do other people think?" And then maybe avoid replying to anyone?
@Men Are Human we need to create a canned replies datbase
Compile the best arguments to create easy replies to the most frequently asked questions.
I think personalised replies are much more persuasive than someone spewed of a bot
I mean comped citations stats and sources
*compend
Let's say someone asks
Feminism is for men too.. Tell me reasons otherwise.
Men are horribly privileged, tell me areas where they aren't.
Women were oppressed throughout history and men are their oppressors
Do you know many feminists who honestly look for answers? To them, they are rhetoricals, and they wouldn't ask them
Still, even if they did... I think its better coming from you
Surely you have a better way of explaining things than a robot?
We need to be ready when they encounter such questions elsewhere on reddit or the wider internet.
Yes, ready through our own thoughts and opinions. Not through a standardisation
So that it needs minimal time and editing
I'm talking about quick replies to quick questions
But it will always need editing, one reply isn't gonna change peoples
' minds
The most mundane
What if I make a compilation of all places men are disadvantaged
There is such thing as a quick reply, but most of the time there's more influence in actually doing so yourself