Message from @machtyn

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2018-09-14 18:46:43 UTC  

for sure, i've read up on npd behavioral traits, but i just found myself projecting and trying to label people's behavior as such.

2018-09-14 18:47:28 UTC  

Well... In my honest opinion its probably +50% of the population

2018-09-14 18:47:40 UTC  

There are narc traits but npd is different

2018-09-14 18:48:17 UTC  

Projection in npd terms... Is this... They will accuse of cheating when they are cheating

2018-09-14 18:48:42 UTC  

Thats something that would never make sense to me. If im cheating that is the last thing i will ever bring up

2018-09-14 18:49:04 UTC  

They will show you sex bruises and be like look what happened at work

2018-09-14 18:49:12 UTC  

They show it to you

2018-09-14 18:49:18 UTC  

Thats npd...

2018-09-14 18:50:07 UTC  

They like having an effect on the world... They like to destroy because it makes them important enough to have that effect

2018-09-14 19:19:21 UTC  

Hello

2018-09-14 19:20:42 UTC  

sup fam

2018-09-14 19:32:38 UTC  

Question

2018-09-14 19:35:21 UTC  

I need answers to my DNA testing on 23 n me

2018-09-14 22:00:55 UTC  

Anyone here PREFER living with roommates even if they had the money to live alone?

2018-09-14 22:02:10 UTC  

@machtyn be carefull when chosing roomates

2018-09-14 22:03:13 UTC  

Also, there's not such a thing as the perfect roomates

2018-09-14 22:03:47 UTC  

But if you chooses right, the relation can last for 3 or 4 years

2018-09-14 22:06:31 UTC  

would rather live on my own

2018-09-14 22:06:55 UTC  

with roomates, there are too many variables you're subjected to that you may not necessarily be able to control.

2018-09-14 22:06:57 UTC  

Yeah, I've been rooming with some decent people but lately their little annoyances have been exemplified. I just can't justify spending the extra $550/mo to live alone.

2018-09-14 22:07:50 UTC  

Yeah... I can't even study in peace half the time because I do live with 2 girls and 2 guys in a frat-house type setup. I've limited interactions to about 20 mins a week so it's more manageable but it's still annoying.

2018-09-14 22:08:18 UTC  

yeah, hard pass.
not only do you have to deal with them, but you have to deal with their shithead associates.
no thanks.

2018-09-14 22:08:48 UTC  

The little things are messing with me like dealing with dirty dishes, not enough room in the fridge, constant noise/smell, pets not being taken care of (defecating/pissing in house), roommates asking for favors, roommates not doing their fair share, etc.

2018-09-14 22:09:01 UTC  

Yeah... they have parties every other weekend.

2018-09-14 22:09:10 UTC  

And all their friends gossip/create drama.

2018-09-14 22:09:36 UTC  

I'm the most mature one in the house so they always approach me like I am a consultant. "What would you do if you were in this situation."

2018-09-14 22:09:59 UTC  

I guess I know I should move out.

2018-09-14 22:10:32 UTC  

Do you think the $10-12k/year I'd spend in housing is a reasonable cost if I make $65-70k? I feel so bad spending that much on housing.

2018-09-14 22:11:41 UTC  

The most legitimate issue I have with them is not having ANY room in the fridge. I am going to have to buy a mini-fridge because the fridge has 3 packs of bud light and other nonsense.

2018-09-14 22:15:59 UTC  

write it out man, the advantages to maintaining that living situation vs. the disadvantages.

2018-09-14 22:16:17 UTC  

if you're not happy where you live, that's really going to put a damper on how much you're able to enjoy life.

2018-09-14 22:17:03 UTC  

honestly, i would consider saving up for a down payment on a house, if the market where you live is able to do that, and buy your own house.

2018-09-14 22:18:35 UTC  

Well, I plan on leaving in 2020 but that was my exact thought.

2018-09-14 22:18:56 UTC  

If I move out in December/January... I can enjoy living alone before moving to a new place for a better job,

2018-09-14 22:19:22 UTC  

Plus, I have a lot of extra work I am putting in while at home so that alone makes investing in my housing worthwhile so I think you're right.

2018-09-14 22:19:29 UTC  

I need a quiet place to focus on my craft.

2018-09-14 22:19:36 UTC  

^

2018-09-14 22:19:43 UTC  

When I feel like hanging out, I can leave or invite people over to cook them a meal.

2018-09-14 22:20:02 UTC  

The issue is I KNOW I want to move out but I can't seem to justify the cost. I've never spent so much money before...

2018-09-14 22:20:08 UTC  

I make GOOD money but I've invested it all.

2018-09-14 22:20:19 UTC  

your peace of mind and happiness is WORTH it.