Message from @Mr. X
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well this is pretty central to a lot of philosophy, west and east
How do you deal with the suffering
how do you go about living this
its not an easy one
Isolation to be honest.
I mean I'm my own worst enemy and best friend so that's basically how I deal with it.
well psychoanalysis has a good take on this too
But when I actually deal with it properly I pretend to be someone Im not in order to fit in more.
But with actual suffering I can't really say I deal with it.
Maybe it was just too much for me but I guess I just distract myself from pain since it just seems like the best thing to do.
And it works because then I can multitask and work on bettering myself while just ignoring the pain.
so the psychoanalytic view
would be that we must nurture our pain
And by bettering myself I dont mean by helping myself but I mean by trying to make myself a better person like a good person.
as part of us is still infantile
and it needs to be parented
and often our parents make mistakes
Which lead to all sorts of beliefs
and sometimes trauma
and delusions
Yes there are
so in this view
Imagine playing with clay
http://hiddenlolcdn.com/i/225643.png ''think of the childred''
and that clay you use to make the world around you
the people you know
.etc
but its all you
the person you hate. you dont hate them
thats a construction that you made and hate. its you
So the goal of the analytic therapy is to get to the most painful area
I don't really hate anyone
And learn to hold it almost
you get the idea though right?
Yes.
I do.
So a person who feels like a parent abandoned them. They might construct this narrative many times
You see it with some guys who really struggle with women
They might only know the abandonment they felt in childhood
so they unconsciously construct it again