I don't see an alternative way of living. But at least most of us can experience the beauty of our universe and be happy.

well this is pretty central to a lot of philosophy, west and east

How do you deal with the suffering

how do you go about living this

its not an easy one

Isolation to be honest.

I mean I'm my own worst enemy and best friend so that's basically how I deal with it.

well psychoanalysis has a good take on this too

But when I actually deal with it properly I pretend to be someone Im not in order to fit in more.

But with actual suffering I can't really say I deal with it.

Maybe it was just too much for me but I guess I just distract myself from pain since it just seems like the best thing to do.

And it works because then I can multitask and work on bettering myself while just ignoring the pain.

so the psychoanalytic view

would be that we must nurture our pain

And by bettering myself I dont mean by helping myself but I mean by trying to make myself a better person like a good person.

as part of us is still infantile

and it needs to be parented

and often our parents make mistakes

Which lead to all sorts of beliefs

and sometimes trauma

and delusions

there's a lot of consequences to such simple mistakes

Yes there are

so in this view

Imagine playing with clay

http://hiddenlolcdn.com/i/225643.png ''think of the childred''

and that clay you use to make the world around you

the people you know

.etc

but its all you

the person you hate. you dont hate them

thats a construction that you made and hate. its you

So the goal of the analytic therapy is to get to the most painful area

I don't really hate anyone

And learn to hold it almost

you get the idea though right?

Yes.

I do.

So a person who feels like a parent abandoned them. They might construct this narrative many times

You see it with some guys who really struggle with women

They might only know the abandonment they felt in childhood