so the psychoanalytic view

would be that we must nurture our pain

And by bettering myself I dont mean by helping myself but I mean by trying to make myself a better person like a good person.

as part of us is still infantile

and it needs to be parented

and often our parents make mistakes

Which lead to all sorts of beliefs

and sometimes trauma

and delusions

there's a lot of consequences to such simple mistakes

Yes there are

so in this view

Imagine playing with clay

http://hiddenlolcdn.com/i/225643.png ''think of the childred''

and that clay you use to make the world around you

the people you know

.etc

but its all you

the person you hate. you dont hate them

thats a construction that you made and hate. its you

So the goal of the analytic therapy is to get to the most painful area

I don't really hate anyone

And learn to hold it almost

you get the idea though right?

Yes.

I do.

So a person who feels like a parent abandoned them. They might construct this narrative many times

You see it with some guys who really struggle with women

They might only know the abandonment they felt in childhood

so they unconsciously construct it again

How?

you guys commies?

in many ways

yeah im a commie

I'm not.

cool, communism doesnt work

ok thanks

np

Um

Yeah so if all someone knows lets say, abandonment by women starting with a mother, they will do all sorts of things like get into destructive relationships.etc

Because that pain is unresolved