its selfish

Happiness isnt selfish

wanting to make yourself happy is

wanting to be happy is a want though

not selfishness

a want for you is a selfish want

when you give money to charity you think you are a good person

but you're just lying to yourself

yes but thats not why you love, you love because you want them to be happy not because you want to be happy

you want them to be happy because it makes you happy in return

No many people give to charity because they want the world to be a better place

people want others to be happy

because it makes us happy in return

No many want them to just be happy

it's egoistic

but we call it altruism

Again I disagree

no one wants others to just be happy if they dont benefit

I want other people to be happy around me so I can be happy as well

I recognise I am happy when others are happy

That's wrong, I've seen many do it.

you have

Including myself

but you dont know they are being secretly egoists not knowing it

I've wanted people to be happy before and I knew I wouldnt benefit from it nor did I want to.

you don't know it consciously

it's subconscious

thats what stirner called involountary egoists

and volountary egoists are ones that ecognise their egoism

you dont recognise it and think it's altruism

why would it be subconscious even after hours of deep thinking?

but really deep down it's all egoism

maybe you are not used to it

its party egoism but there is also altruism

you can call it altruism

but it's not

we assume it

no its partly both

I think i know what you mean

a lot of people dont experience egoism is a lot of actions like killing themselves

giving flowers to people because it makes you happy is purely egoistic tho